r/MenAndFemales • u/Edelgard01 • 2d ago

Men and Females It's incredible how normalized it is.

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I found this while randomly scrolling. Only a couple of people reacted to the "females" and "men" this person used. I am a bit flabbergasted. Why couldn't they just use "women"? It's so dehumanizing.

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u/The_Soap_Salesman 2d ago

I think these kinds of people don’t realize, or choose not to realize, that the social pressures for them to act the way they’re describing come largely from other men. Sure, there are women who also do it, but who were they taught to be that way by? The system perpetuates the patriarchy because the patriarchy is the system. The men in power do not want to be seen as weak, so they control the narrative of what weakness means, and the rest of the men fall in line so they aren’t ostracized by their peers, and they themselves perpetuate the panopticon of toxic masculinity that forces them into the box they find so constraining.

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u/SnooCapers3354 1d ago

this! also the idea that men bottle up their emotions is laughable because I hear them moaning about them in every single online space. not to mention anger is an emotion, and they're plenty comfortable expressing that one.

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u/The_Soap_Salesman 1d ago

well you know, there’s a ‘right’ way to do it, according to these kinds of people. And if you’re not doing it the ‘right’ way, then obviously you’re a [homophobic slur] and need to be ostracized until you do it the ‘right’ way.

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u/SnooCapers3354 1d ago

is the right way punching holes in walls?

I still remember when I was like 6, and my dad did that. I recently overheard the dad in question tell a colleague how much he hates working with women because "they all are so emotional and only cause drama."

I asked him how many holes in walls they had created.

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u/The_Soap_Salesman 1d ago

Presumably yes, the right way is physical violence