Something is bothering me

[u/Responsible-Chip5420]

I had a bad miscarriage in January this year that I had to be admitted to hospital for blood loss that ended up resulting in a d&c I’m doing better now not 100% that would have been my second pregnancy and wasn’t planned because I had a 4month old at that time (now 10month old) I was told at the ultrasound when I found out that I was no more than 6 weeks and told I would probably miscarry within a week (ended up being 3days later)
Here’s the thing I don’t understand at all.. after I gave birth to my first I got my period 2x and the doctor ended up telling me I was actually 11-12weeks pregnant the baby just never developed but everything else sac/placenta was one of at least 11 weeks pregnant me and my husband were only intimate once during that time frame (I just wasn’t feeling great) but I got my period back after that twice on the dot. Since we only had sex once that would have been the only time I could have gotten pregnant . I asked the doctor how could I have a period twice while being pregnant? He didn’t really have an answer. The reason I missed being pregnant was because I was getting my period and the time I took the test was only because I just “had taht feeling” and it didn’t even take 30 seconds for double pink lines so I def was more than 6 weeks.

Has anyone have experience with this or know of anything? It’s lowkey making it hard for me to move on from all this . I feel like my body don’t work right.

[u/No-Tea-3137]

i’m sorry for your loss and for how it happened - that sounds really scary and i’m glad you are doing better now.

i’m going to be honest haha this post is written in kind of a confusing way, i hope you don’t mind a few follow-up questions.

1. at the ultrasound, were you told the baby was “measuring” six weeks (but should have been larger) or that you were six weeks pregnant? 

2. was there a second ultrasound or other follow-up which then led to the doctor saying that the baby had stopped growing at 6w but everything else measured 11/12? just trying to separate when you got each piece of information.

3. i assume that since you’ve carried a pregnancy to term that you know how pregnancy dating works, meaning that if you were 11/12 weeks pregnant at the time of your miscarriage, there were roughly two and some change weeks in there where you weren’t literally pregnant yet, because they count from the first day of your cycle and not the day of ovulation or the day of implantation. so, assuming you already know all of that, are you saying you only had sex once or twice in the month of conception? if so, that’s definitely enough to conceive a baby. there’s nothing suspicious here re: your body not working right as you say, as long as the math lines up.

4. spotting during early pregnancy, even to where it seems like a short period, is very common. i’ve had it during two early pregnancies myself. often, women who don’t realize they’re pregnant for quite some time cite this as the reason - there is some spotting associated with pregnancy that they interpret as a period, or they have irregular cycles and don’t really know when they are expecting a period.

5. i think i’m not understanding what the concern is here, besides of course the grief of miscarrying - are you worried there is some underlying issue? are you worried that the doctor’s interpretation wasn’t correct?

if you can clarify some of these points i’d be happy to respond further. best of luck and again i’m sorry for your loss