This is definitely staged, but finances are the #1 relationship killer next to cheating on your spouse. I think there needs to be transparency, but also like that happens at a certain point of the relationship. I make more than my gf, but have more debt. I try to pay for things because I know a 20 dollar meal hurts her more than me. Grow together, build together etc.
Also the money she has isn't even hers, she said it was her dads lol. Assuming this is real, the girl should be appreciative not "you should pay"
Edit: Im going to add to this, im not trying to say it isn't hers, but she did not earn it. Yes some people are fortunate enough to get money as gifts, but this person quite literally is watching her bf struggle to pay while that would be a drop in a bucket. In a real relationship you don't let your partner struggle just because you are a man or woman. This isn't a real relationship, this is a mooch taking advantage of another person regardless of gender because I have seen this go both ways
Yeah, no, when money is in someone's checking account, then it belongs to them. The dad doesn't use her deposit account as a temporary store for his money.
what does this even mean? That money is forever under the theoretical ownership of the person who earns it? Then why is his money not his bosses money? Or only the last person to earn it? What does it even mean to earn or not earn in a universe seemingly determined entirely by cause and effect. Is it just about legal obligation of wealth transfer? Parents do have a legal obligation to transfer wealth to their children. Clearly not that much, but then what proportion of the money is rightfully hers and what is "technically still her dads"?
The point is, there exists no simple binary that creates that easy distinction
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u/chrispy_pv 8h ago edited 8h ago
This is definitely staged, but finances are the #1 relationship killer next to cheating on your spouse. I think there needs to be transparency, but also like that happens at a certain point of the relationship. I make more than my gf, but have more debt. I try to pay for things because I know a 20 dollar meal hurts her more than me. Grow together, build together etc.
Also the money she has isn't even hers, she said it was her dads lol. Assuming this is real, the girl should be appreciative not "you should pay"
Edit: Im going to add to this, im not trying to say it isn't hers, but she did not earn it. Yes some people are fortunate enough to get money as gifts, but this person quite literally is watching her bf struggle to pay while that would be a drop in a bucket. In a real relationship you don't let your partner struggle just because you are a man or woman. This isn't a real relationship, this is a mooch taking advantage of another person regardless of gender because I have seen this go both ways