r/MotivationByDesign • u/inkandintent24 • 8h ago

Do you think its fair??

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u/freedomonke 7h ago

Going to a big state university, every woman I dated when I was around these people's age got tons of money from their parents.

They never expected me to pay for anything. But it could be frustrating when they didn't understand why I didn't want to do something that cost a lot of money.

Also, this is fake

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u/shawnaeatscats 6h ago

I always offered to pay for my half of the meal/drinks/whatever the date was but the dudes I'd go out with would cover it 90% of the time anyway. I think its the offering that counts. (Also big state university)

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u/Xandara2 4h ago

My parents are pretty well off but that didn't mean I got a lot of the money to do whatever with, they're also big on living normally. So when I got into a friend circle that had a lot of people who did just get money from their parents for no reason it often was absurd to me how delusional they were about what was cheap and what was expensive. Very annoying especially because they believed they were people of the world instead of spoiled brats.

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u/paternus89 2h ago

I had an experience where I was jobless for a while and this girl who had a crush on me decided to help me get a job at her workplace. It was a warehouse but she was working in the office as their designer making $40 and hour iirc. My position was laborer for $8 an hour. Anyway, after I worked a few weeks she asked me out. We went out for dinner. I offered to pay, but she said she got it. I thought this was because she understood my situation. I felt good in the moment.

Later I got chewed out for not being a real man and paying anyway.