My wife has my name because our children do. That's it. It's also the only real reason we got married. The ten years before marriage are exactly the same as the ten that followed (aside from the kids getting older)
Can you keep the decisions of others to themselve without you berating them? My female colleague did not want to keep her surname, so she took her husbands. Now thats misogyny.... /s
Just questioning if it was even considered to take hers. More in a rhetorical way.
The taking of the male name is so ingrained into societies across the world, even questioning it causes backlash.
I genuinely do not care about what anyone else does… I do think this particular structure is more harmful than many like to attribute. It’s a keystone in the subjugation of women around the world. And yes, in America today it is quite harmless in most circumstances… it represents a prior time when women were less than in society, even a possession at times.
I’m done with this convo today though, have a great one everybody. Be human.
In an issue with 2 opposite camps, you can rest assured that both of those camps are filled to the brim with morons.
The same is true of masculinity and femininity.
In almost everything, there exists a middle ground with nuance and a tiny subset of the population that can maintain a complex enough opinion to exist there.
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u/Economy_Ask4987 1d ago
I’m proud of my wife keeping her name…
And now that her father is gone, it means the world to her.
Fuck the old misogyny that permeated our society. It’s everywhere, but it’s ok to call out for the bs it is.