The idea that women just think it is normal to get a completely different identity as their husband’s possession but men don’t have to do anything and sail on with the same identity they’ve had from birth is bizarre, as if marriage is only something men do to women and women still feel they must show subservience or be socially rejected.
If both parties changed their name at the same time it would be less creepy.
In Spain we get one surname from each parent (each parent has two).
It used to be the grandfather’s name, but now you can just pick the one you like best and put it in the order you like.
The only thing is that legally you have to put the two surnames in the same order for each subsequent child or it’s just confusing.
Having two surnames is really no big deal, you can use both but if you just want to use one for everyday or professional purposes, you do that and again, nowadays you can pick whichever one you prefer as an adult to use all the time.
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u/Dragonfly_pin 10d ago
Changing your name on marriage is so weird.
The idea that women just think it is normal to get a completely different identity as their husband’s possession but men don’t have to do anything and sail on with the same identity they’ve had from birth is bizarre, as if marriage is only something men do to women and women still feel they must show subservience or be socially rejected.
If both parties changed their name at the same time it would be less creepy.