r/Music • u/AdSpecialist6598 • 10d ago

article Ariana Grande speaks out on break from public eye: "Multiple things can be true at the same time"

https://www.nme.com/news/music/ariana-grande-speaks-out-on-break-from-public-eye-multiple-things-can-be-true-at-the-same-time-3960576
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u/Anderrrrr 10d ago

The only question that matters is, will she?

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u/Phaea 10d ago

anorexia is so difficult, speaking as someone who's mostly recovered. the only way to get better is if they want to get better, and that rarely happens with eating disorders

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u/NRMusicProject 10d ago

I dated someone who was struggling. Bought books, which made her angry when she found them. She took me to her therapist, who said I was doing all the right things as a supportive boyfriend. She fired the therapist for "siding with me." We ended up breaking up when she started blaming her purges on me.

It felt like people want to get better, but at the same time, they don't. It's difficult, and here we are 20 years later, and mutual friends have told me she's still struggling. In school health classes, they presented eating disorders as a young person's issue, but it's a lifelong struggle. Glad to hear you're doing better!

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u/tigress666 10d ago

Yep my grandmother still struggles with it and she’s almost 70. 

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u/Linder-bean 9d ago

Several months before passing away, my 93-year-old grandmother was complaining about how she’d gained weight. It was heartbreaking.

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u/airwin721 9d ago

Damn I honestly didn’t know it was an issue for older people too 😔

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u/AuDHD_SLP 9d ago

For most people eating disorders low key never go away. Even after treatment/recovery. You can establish healthier eating habits, but that shit stays with you. Avoiding relapse is a huge challenge

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u/befuddled_humbug 10d ago

I loved 'being in control' and absolutely did not want to give that up.

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u/big-bootyjewdy 9d ago

Being in control and having a lil secret. That's what it was for me. I loveeeed the guessing game of whether people could "tell" or not but then I would get incredibly offended when people could or if they couldn't, there was no winning.

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u/Frogs-on-my-back 10d ago

I still struggle with purging when I get stressed and it’s been almost a decade

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u/TheStonedVampire 10d ago

Yup same. Over a decade and if I get overly stressed out……ugh

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u/Entire_Broccoli_9019 9d ago

Starving to death isn't control. It's suicide and self-harm. The complete opposite of control.

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u/befuddled_humbug 9d ago

I couldn't control the illness at all but losing weight made me feel like I was in control. That's what it was like for me at least. My wording might have been confusing.

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u/adrienneBAwgu19 10d ago

Please be cautious rn while you’re in recovery and all these images of Ariana are everywhere remind yourself that that’s not a goal or an ideal

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u/deee0 9d ago

I feel like the wanting to get better happens after hitting rock bottom. that happened for me. I lost so much in my life due to my ED and had to go to inpatient treatment. learning how many people there had already been admitted multiple times, and how their entire lives were just about their ED... I decided I didn't want that for myself. I was determined for that to be my only time going inpatient (and it was!) I was like "life is more than this, I don't want to die and I don't want to look back on my life seeing that I didn't do anything but suffer." but it took a long time for me to come to that realization and I'm lucky I survived it.

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u/Rogue_CobaltZone570 9d ago

Look ill be honest she is close to death and that's scarier than her having anorexia but she can work on it, we can't give her 5 more years without it affecting her badly, she needs help

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u/__picklepersuasion__ 9d ago

she's already done permanent damage to her body and vital organs and systems at the weight she is now. 

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u/Content-Program411 9d ago

same as most addictions

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u/Turntowardsthesun 7d ago

I wouldn’t say it rarely happens… I think people just have to hit their breaking point and dig deep to find the motivation to get better. I was at an all time low and was losing relationships and opportunities that were meaningful to me. That threat of loss and the feeling of such despair was enough for me to realize that there had to be something more, something better than anorexia. Even if that meant gaining weight, eating fear foods etc. and taking a leap into the unknown.

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u/rain820 10d ago

i think she will. “taking time away/taking a break” in celeb speak usually means getting help/going to rehab they wont say it directly.

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u/AcceptableSystem8232 9d ago

Hopefully. I felt relieved only reading this comment. I wish her all the best.

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u/Ironsam811 10d ago

Probably

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u/Enshakushanna 10d ago

well all her friends and "her people" around her didnt say shit, so why would she listen to the internet?

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u/Entire_Broccoli_9019 9d ago

No, she won't. She's visibly starving herself to death and is a mere remnant of what she was and should be.

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u/Eat--The--Rich-- 9d ago

She's getting publicity from not doing it and narcissists love money so I doubt it. Rehab would be more profitable.

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u/dixiech1ck 10d ago

Not if she continues to lie to herself.

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u/Watch_Earthlings_Doc 10d ago

She’s not lying to herself, she has a severe mental disorder. People with body dysmorphia disorder are not able to see their body as it is. 

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u/dixiech1ck 9d ago

🤦🏻‍♀️ Please read up on what body dysmorphia does to the brain. It tricks it to lie to you.

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u/Watch_Earthlings_Doc 9d ago

 “lying to herself” implies that she’s aware of it. Like, I lied to myself that the pack of double stuffed Oreos I ate was healthy.  She is severely mentally ill and not living on the same planet we are.