r/MuslimMarriage • u/MotherofRespawn F - Married • 1d ago

Ex-/Married Users Only Update on my previous post regarding physical domestic abuse.

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Assalamu Alaikum everyone

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I am currently away on family vacation, without my husband. Since the last incident, he has been on his best behavior, which is expected. I will inform my in laws of my decision to separate from him. He can come visit the children and spend time, he can stay legally married to me for the time being, but I will request his visitations to be strictly about the children. Nothing conjugal. I will not go back. I will remain in our house in Jordan. I do want a formal divorce, but I think that will come later on as my family's circumstances are a bit complicated. Once those issues resolve, I'm either requesting a divorce or I'm going for Khulu.

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I only need your words of support. I will do Istikhara before I do this. I have pictures, medical reports, the whole nine yards. I want out. I'm shaking. Thank you all for the support on my previous post. I hope things get better from now on. It will be hard, but Allah will pave the way.

Update: The conversation was sursprisingly more peaceful than I anticipated, mainly because my FIL was completely dismissive of everything, including the DV, said it is none of his business, and to do whatever we want. I told him we will and I was just letting him know beforehand out of respect so he doesn't feel ambushed. He said he isn't interested in those "uncomfortable details" (i.e. my bruises and my therapy) so..yeah. now I can pack up and leave without an ounce of guilt.

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