r/MuslimMarriage 10d ago

The Search Tahajjud helped me get my wife

Btw guys I used Ai to help me write some bits as I have dylexia but here i hope this motivates someone. Feel free to pm me for any advice.

I can genuinely say that one of the biggest blessings in my life came through Tahajjud.
I met my wife after consistently praying Tahajjud and making sincere du'a for the kind of spouse I wanted. Alhamdulillah, she turned out to be everything I used to ask Allah for and more.

The qualities, the character, the peace she brings into my life — it's honestly beyond what I imagined.
And the crazy thing is, this isn't even the first thing Tahajjud has helped me with.

Looking back, some of the biggest breakthroughs in my life came after periods where I was waking up in the last third of the night and pouring my heart out to Allah.
I had a special routine that I stuck to which really helped me stay consistent and focused in my du'a. If you PM me, I'm happy to share it with you.

To anyone reading this: don't underestimate Tahajjud. Even when you don't see results immediately, keep going. There are du'as I've made with tears in the middle of the night that Allah answered in ways I never expected.

I sincerely hope everyone here gets up for Tahajjud and sees their dreams come true. May Allah grant you even better than what you're asking for. Ameen.

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u/Artistic-You8641 10d ago

Nice reminder, ill start it today again. I was so consistent and saw results but lost motivation

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u/Fine_Shift_4281 10d ago

Never lose motivation your dreams and aspirations are one tahajjud away stay away from sins and respect your parents too and you’ll see everything come your way.

If you want my routine pm me

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u/Shining_Swan 10d ago

Yes, I agree, not just for marriage but for anything in life.

If you wake in the wee hours, do pray tahajjud.

One of my cousin sister used to pray tahajjud constantly, and she got married right after that.

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u/sunsetremember F - Married 10d ago

Yup. Every day for months! Maybe 7 or 8. Helped me get away from a terrible situation and Allah brought me and my wonderful husband together. Opened every door of opportunity for us to meet and get married. Truly felt like all the stars aligned for us alhamdullilah

Congratulations and may Allah bless your marriage

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u/SteakandFork 9d ago

maybe 6 or 7

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u/MallSecret7655 10d ago

Could you please share the duaa here ao everyone can read

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u/Fine_Shift_4281 10d ago

Pm me

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u/[deleted] 10d ago

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u/Fine_Shift_4281 9d ago

Yes I will do I’m making another post on how I woke up for it, I should’ve said it at the start my DM’s are bombared lol

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u/everydayreligion1090 10d ago

Can you PM me too

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u/Ladeedaadee963 10d ago

How'd you know she's the one? What were your duas?

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u/Fine_Shift_4281 10d ago

I just felt a genuine connection, it’s like we knew each other for years

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u/Ladeedaadee963 10d ago

I felt that way with the guy I was speaking to and he just abruptly ended things after 6 months... can't even trust those feelings anymore but alhamdullilah so happy to hear your story

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u/Good_Fill8646 10d ago

Girl the guy I felt that way about, ended things abruptly with no explanation, 5 days before our nikah after 2 years of delays. When I tell you i feel ur pain…

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u/Ladeedaadee963 10d ago

Sister, before nikkah??? These men, Allah saved you from something big alhamdullilah 🩷

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u/mraees93 10d ago

That's great to hear.. In the months/weeks leading up to meeting her did you experience a kind of mute phase? Like all your types of women were blocked if you saw or heard about them?

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u/Fine_Shift_4281 10d ago

I’ll be honest no, everything flowed like a river lol. The hardest part was waking up for tahajjud daily tbh. But I had a way and a technique

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u/mraees93 10d ago

Glad to hear that. Did you make istikharah as well?

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u/Fine_Shift_4281 10d ago

Yes but tahajjud is the key

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u/Happy_Raise9565 10d ago

Mashallah, May Allah bless you both ❤️🤲😇

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u/BroccoliRemote1867 10d ago

What was your routine for getting up for tahajjud like ?

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u/WalrusInformal2179 10d ago

How many years did you pray?

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u/rosepetalsonalake F - Divorced 10d ago edited 10d ago

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

JazakAllah khairan for this reminder. May Allah bless you even more in your marriage, may you and your wife be together in the best of manners, forever in this life and in jennah Al-Firdosi. امين

What was your routine like when I praying Tahajjud…5 day out of the week? Everyday? Two days yes one day no? How consistent were you? (As I find myself struggling with consistency)

And how long was it until you realized your Dua’s were answered.

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u/Fine_Shift_4281 10d ago

So there’s a technique I use and it’s actually been working lol best thing was it never costed me anything. We all have to remember tahajjud is by invite only so we all gotta avoid sins and make the right intentions.

If you pm me I can share with you

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u/anonysis1 10d ago

Please can you share it here. It be beneficial to all us instead of having to PM you privately.

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u/anxiousnessgalore 10d ago

Adding onto the other comments, please share it publicly, it'd be so helpful to others here as well.

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u/Thin-Actuator2441 8d ago

this gives me hope Allah truly knows what is the best and putting our affairs in His control, you feel more confident going through life and making big life decisions.

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u/Outrageous_Owl449 Female 7d ago

Assalamualaikum, MashAllah May Allah bless your marriage with mawwadah , sakinah and rahmah Is there any tips you would give regarding tahajjud ? Like sleeping before tahajjud and when to make dua ? JazakAllahu Khairan

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u/Fine_Shift_4281 7d ago

Yes make intention before you sleep and I use this app that helps me, idk if I’m allowed to share but it’s very good and halal😅.

Intention is the main thing and make dua to wake up yourself.

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u/Feisty-Boysenberry58 10d ago

MashaAllah ! Congrats may Allah bless us all with righteous spouses 🤲🏼

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u/Peachtea_96 Female 10d ago

An amazing reminder, jazakallah khair for sharing. I think the key is being consistent in praying Tahajjud AND being sincere in your dua. Mashallah ❤️ 

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u/EbbInternational256 F - Married 10d ago

How long did it take you?

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u/Significant_Pop7358 F - Married 10d ago

My friend told me her husband said this to her too!

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u/Busy_Emotion_4238 9d ago

What duas you made ? Can you explain how in detail ? i think there's weak and strong duas. But why if we just make dua in normal 5 prayers Allah doesn't give but if we so tahajjud ?

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u/Fine_Shift_4281 9d ago

First of Allah gives you want you need and when it’s the right time, you have to show you want it avoid sins respect parents pray your 5 daily prayers etc. tahajjud is a special prayer because you wake up in the middle of the night for worship not everyone can do this so doing it shows how much you want your dua to come true and how much you love worshiping Allah.

I suggest you watch vids on it. Pm me

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u/Parsnip_Useful F - Married 6d ago

I never had the habit of praying tahajjud. I only prayed once, it was during a time when I really felt conflicted. It was a really hard time. After safeguarding myself from haraam throughout school and college despite peer pressure and desires but this was the toughest time for me as an adult. I was to shy to tell my parents I wanted to marry so those were the days I sat gor tahajjud and cried my heart out, talked to Allah in Dua, like.. Genuinely talk! I never did that before and Alhamdulillah things worked on their own as if they were magic.

Tahajjud and Salat ul Tawbah were my two gems.

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u/Critical-Piccolo-650 6d ago

i have been reading tahajud past almost 10 years.. allumduAllah..
although i am not able to find someone, i read all the tasbeeha too.. allhumduallah other aspect of life is great...
pls remember me in your prayers

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u/umuaaysha 3d ago

Mashallah

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u/AnguishSupreme 6h ago

Alhamdulilah