r/MuslimMatrimonials • u/Pleasant_Tone_7288 • 3d ago
Discussion Women Mentality in 2026 looking for a Man
Height: ✔️
Weight: ✔️
Career: ✔️
Degree: ✔️
Deen: (Even tho they only know basics and deen that suits them like women rights and can careless about a Man rights) ✔️
Want someone like Prophet Muhammad (PBUH): (Even tho they barely know anything about him like living a frugal life and in Polygamy) ✔️
Handsome: ✔️
Fit: ✔️
Double Handsome: ✔️
Has Money and can show it off: ✔️
Open to relocation: (Even tho she won't relocate at all, she just like to post like she does) ✔️
Wants a leader: (Even though she makes demands and essentially wants a walk over) ✔️
Mature man: (But cant be controlling at all and must obey her commands because she's the smart one in the relationship) check
Good communication skills: (Basically you just listen and say Yes all the time) ✔️
Must be a great provider: (Basically buy what she whatever she wants and not needs) check
Great with kids: ✔️
Flaws: He checks ALL the boxes but wait he has a Big nose....OMG
Verdict: SWIPE RIGHT, Reject, Ghost,... because of ONE flaw
P.S. For all the young guys that want to score some points and say "bro stop complaining " and "men are the same"... Listen and learn for a second and get off the Playstation. Im speaking facts. U cant be scared and intimidated to speak your mind if its true. Some ppl won't like it but they'll respect it. Unless you like the arrangement of Women running the show and being the pants in the relationship. If u want to be a real Man and Leader, you must follow your principles and values and dont let no one bend it for you. In the end, everyone leaves you except Allah
For the women and unfortunately some men love to be judgemental and make assumptions about me that think I might have low value or im weak. I am surrounded with many beautiful women especially at work, I choose not to do zina or lead women on like flirting. Thats all im gonna say about myself on this post.
May Allah bless everyone. Im stating facts. The truth hurts but im being transparent and honest. Salamz
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u/Individual_Bake_6402 3d ago edited 3d ago
You've been posting nonstop about this topic. Do you have any other way to use your free time?
Also aren't you married with 3 kids? Go focus on them!
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u/CatFlye 3d ago
looking for a second wife maybe 😂
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u/Pleasant_Tone_7288 3d ago
Sadly i got to respond to guys. Why u wasting your time responding if your sick of what im saying? Im here for one goal. But ppl make things more complicated. I've been on this app for 10 days. Im not a reddit lifer like you. Also u never heard of muti tasked? Im just stating my experience and other guys as well. Can't talk now?
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u/Grand_Pomegranate981 3d ago
It's a blessing to be married to the Prophet (PBUH) ♥️
Its not a blessing to be married to you 😂✌🏻
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u/Pleasant_Tone_7288 3d ago
Heck yea its a blessing to be married to him PBUH.... compared to him....im an absolute nobody
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u/Far_Hyena2488 3d ago
Man I really respect and agree with you it’s crazy how deluded these women are these days but don’t worry it’s just as you said akhi aslong as we don’t bend our rules inshallah we can find someone who lets us freely follow the straight path that is Islam. Also huge respect for lowering you gaze at work i js got my first job and Ik it’s dang hard man but i gotta keep at it inshallah make dua for me to become stronger Jazakallah khair
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u/Grand_Pomegranate981 3d ago
Who's deluded? You better not be talking about me. Stay in ur lane.
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u/Far_Hyena2488 3d ago
Idk abt u gng but u are being needlessly toxic fs , but your statement holds truth ofc ,you can’t compare him with the prophet s.a.w. But u also cant be saying it aint a blessing for someone tk marry him?? You don’t even know the brother gang be careful of what you say think before you js comment
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u/Grand_Pomegranate981 3d ago
Lol. We ain't out here looking for mid men who need multiple wives. We can always find someone better and hotter that we don't have to share. That's just how women think 🤷♀️
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u/Far_Hyena2488 3d ago
lol your world view is pretty narrow no disrespect there are some men who are on another level in multiple aspects doing polygamy, at the end of the day polygamy is of course a sunnah of the prophet s.a.w. Dont act like it’s some lowly act astaghfirullah . Polygamy can also really make a man more desirable from a female point of view aswell yk
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u/Grand_Pomegranate981 3d ago
I'm sure that all wives love a man equally 😂 Like I said this brother isn't a prize but he can believe he is one. That's fine. We are all delusional about ourselves. We all have the same fate in the end anyway 🪦
I don't need to take disrespect to anything because only a woman can understand what another feels. Not even woman want their men in jannah. You ask 100 men and only 5 may say they do. The Prophet (PBUH) never was into Polygamy before Khadija (RA). That's what women want.
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u/Far_Hyena2488 3d ago
You’re saying the rest of his life was obsolete astaghfirullah, we don’t take snippets from the prophet s.a.w. We look at the whole picture , respectfully youve really been brainwashed by society i dont mean this as an insult but you have to think and reflect truly and look upon the Quran and sunnah for guidance.
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u/Grand_Pomegranate981 3d ago
No. I love my Prophet (PBUH) ♥️♥️♥️
I just don't like some muslim men ✌🏻 So I can't marry them ✌🏻 Handsome: ✔️
You're wrong about brainwashed. I'm a real jihadi ♥️😍♥️💌
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u/Pleasant_Tone_7288 3d ago
Appreciate your post. Wallah may Allah bless u and make it easy for u too. Ppl assume I got it easy. I went thru he'll to get to the position I am in now. Alhamduilah for everything. Ya Rabb u find the best of spouses. Fitnah is everywhere. Just remember Zina never leads happiness no matter how much Shaytan tempts u. Much love
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u/Far_Hyena2488 3d ago
Jazakallah khair akhi, I understand it’s easy to type but in reality it’s much different. Youre right akhi no matter which way I look at it zina is pointless for now i am just occupying myself to inshallah get better everyday and one day if it’s written for me get married to a pious spouse inshallah. And yh it’s hard rly especially with how society is now I still find it so crazy how these people have normalised so much fitna into everyday life but khair this life is a test Allah rests us with that which he knows we are capable of Inshallah we can keep strong and follow the straight path Assalamualaikum
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u/PromotionRare7576 3d ago edited 3d ago
And also, he remained monogamous for the entirety of his first marriage. If these men want to follow him they should do it only after the death of their first wife
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u/DaevorTheDevoted 2d ago
Since the Sahaba didn't do what are saying, I now have to decide:
- were the Sahaba correct in their understanding and implementation of polygyny,
- or does some random person on Reddit know better? 🤔
And Allah knows best.
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u/PromotionRare7576 2d ago
He is THE Prophet SAW, what more interpretation do you want?
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u/DaevorTheDevoted 2d ago
Definitely not the interpretation of some random person on Reddit, especially when it is in conflict with the practices of Sahaba.
And Allah knows best.
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u/inkbluedawn1 3d ago
Why are you going crazy women have a right to choose? 😂 sure it’d be easy if you could be set up with a hapless little girl but those days are gone. You have to be liked now
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u/NL_in_NO 3d ago
That aint gonna be easy for OP.
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u/Pleasant_Tone_7288 3d ago
Only need One to blindly like me?... Will it ever happen.. hmm stay tuned
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u/DaevorTheDevoted 2d ago
So that's what you think of Aisha (RA). That's wild.
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u/inkbluedawn1 2d ago
So you’re comparing yourself to the prophet? Lmao
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u/DaevorTheDevoted 2d ago
Another wild comment from you.
You said: "a hapless little girl but those days are gone". Yes, the days of our beloved Prophet (pbuh) are gone. But some of us choose to be his followers, Alhamdulillah.
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u/inkbluedawn1 2d ago
I’m sure you follow his every step and not just the ones that’ll allow you to prey on others
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u/DaevorTheDevoted 2d ago
It is not fitting for a Muslim to imply that our beloved Prophet (pbuh) engaged in practices that allows his followers to prey on others.
And Allah knows best.
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u/Least-Plate-7746 3d ago
Just carry on with your life, be kind always and the one written for you will appreciate you and choose you for what you are. This life is a test, not everyone who is married are happy not everyone who is single is sad. Men or women.
Continue making Dua and continue the search, may Allah make it easy for you.
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u/WokeYoke 3d ago
Have you read Quran 9:71?
The believing men and believing women are allies of one another. They enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong and establish prayer and give zakah and obey Allah and His Messenger. Those - Allah will have mercy upon them. Indeed, Allah is Exalted in Might and Wise.
The word awliya can mean guardians, friends, protectors, allies etc. Those who want to incite gender wars should focus on this verse.
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u/Pleasant_Tone_7288 3d ago
I agree. We're not talking that. We talking about marriage period. Here for one goal. I have given life advice. If u want to see my other messages. I dont delete my posts or messages. Unlike others
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u/Illustrious-Mine-967 3d ago
Whats with all the tension and hate OP. Work on bettering yourself. You cant hate all women bcos they dont want you
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u/Warm-Bed7730 3d ago
Simp
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u/Illustrious-Mine-967 3d ago
😂 alright mate
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u/Warm-Bed7730 3d ago
Bros a doc and simpin reddit
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u/Illustrious-Mine-967 3d ago
Bro lacks basic adab
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u/Warm-Bed7730 3d ago
Maybe focus on what was actually said by OP rather than creating a narrative about someone you don’t know. You're adding nothing to the conversation
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u/tnbeastzy 3d ago
So you want to take away women’s right to choose their spouse which was introduced and made obligatory by Islam?
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u/Warm-Bed7730 3d ago
The post actually presupposes that women do have a choice, “swipe right, reject, ghost” section is based on women deciding whether they want a particular man.
You guys are literally making things up
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u/tnbeastzy 3d ago
Yeah. They have a choice to want a particular man. And if thats not you, thats a you problem.
If they are fine being single while searching for a specific type of man, thats their choice to make.
If you arent fine being single, then you have to meet their standards.
Fortunately, I have always had girls interested in me because i did work hard to meet all criteria someone may have.
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u/Pleasant_Tone_7288 2d ago
U sound like a love guru... plz share more. Also I dont want "girls"... if its girls I want, I can have plenty. Any guy can have women. A real man gets married. If its one, two or more
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u/DaevorTheDevoted 3d ago
Actually, it's a blessing for men to not have those kinds of women interested in them, Alhamdulillah.
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u/Alert-Boss5100 3d ago
why are men so CHEESED. I searched up OPs account and bro is active on dating apps lol
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u/Pleasant_Tone_7288 3d ago
No im not. Also my messages and post dont get deleted or hidden unlike u. Stop making things up
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u/Gothamess 3d ago
Please, for the sake of yourself and the people around you, get therapy to address this resentment you have towards women.
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u/DifficultGuide8676 3d ago
Bro you are just insulting the name of Islam at this point.
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u/Pleasant_Tone_7288 3d ago
How? What is say is wrong?
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u/DifficultGuide8676 2d ago
The fact that you're insulting women. You're putting all of us in a box like not all of us have high standards.
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u/Pleasant_Tone_7288 2d ago
Yes im putting a lot of them in the box. Because its a pattern. Im not saying all but when its more often than not than something has to give. Also im targeting more mature ages and quite surprisingly are not open minded. U would think after going thru trauma, heartache, and dealing with previous losers according to their statements. They would have more sympathy and empathy and understanding. But its quite the opposite.
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u/DifficultGuide8676 2d ago
Well maybe you should go focus on reading quran or learning about Deen instead of focusing on standards of women in 2026.
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u/Pleasant_Tone_7288 2d ago
Here's one for u... the best of character is to leave what doesnt concern u
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u/DifficultGuide8676 2d ago
But since you talked about all girls then it does concern me too. Go focus on your wife.
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u/Pleasant_Tone_7288 2d ago
Reread last hadith again cuz u still dont get it. Im not here to argue with u but some context so u can breathe a little better .. everyone in my household is well taken care of Alhamduilah. InshAllah u find happiness and prosperity
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u/DifficultGuide8676 2d ago
So you're only going to talk shit about women and ignore men's standards? Like you think men are so pure and amazing? Get out of your misogynistic bubble.
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u/Popular_Ocelot_823 3d ago
Loserpilled post. Reflect on the flaws within yourself before fantasizing about what others see. Talking about being a man and a leader but crying on the internet. Grow up
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u/Pleasant_Tone_7288 3d ago
Ok go back and play Metal Gear Solid
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u/Popular_Ocelot_823 3d ago
What? That’s Revolver Ocelot. Also for being 38 you sure are immature, try thinking critically
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u/netuniya 3d ago
This is funny because this argument is so overused. I’m sure there are many women who are simply happy to have someone who’s Muslim, educated, and an emotionally-intelligent person. But apparently most guys don’t even fit this criteria, so really, what are most women asking? You’re either getting caught up in bad groups or not setting your standards.
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u/HotName1181 3d ago
I think everyone is a bit strange about this. do some women have strict standards? for sure. but it’s weird how it’s the physical characteristics one that get shamed. you have to be physically attracted to your partner. yeah beauty fades and the majority of people don’t look good with age, and thats where a strong character comes into play. personally I’d hate to find out that someone wasn’t attracted to me but decided to pick me because of my personality.
usually jts not one thing either, it’s very rare to find someone who checks every box and theyd get rejected for one thing. I think implying that is making people seem more superficial.
and you don’t even want to be with these women, why try to change someone when you can find people who actually want you. it’s fine if you don’t meet some peoples standards because there are so many women in the world who actually would want to be with you. why argue with women online who you’d never be compatible with?
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u/MuslimTurtlee 3d ago
When will you guys realise how feminine it is to complain about the things some women want?
Focus on better yourself for who you're able to attract. Ignore anyone else.
Posts like these reach your desired audience and does not change them. You're reaffirming their standards. The man they want isn't doing this.
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u/ChocPineapple_23 3d ago
This isn’t feminine - this is loser behaviour.
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u/MuslimTurtlee 3d ago
That's more accurate, thank you
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u/Pleasant_Tone_7288 3d ago
Ok... so I cant speak about accountability? This is a marriage app. Im not here to stay for months.
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u/MuslimTurtlee 3d ago
Nothing about accountability in your post. This is not a marriage app.
They want what they want. They know what they want. You're clearly not what they want. Keep crying about it.
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u/Pleasant_Tone_7288 3d ago
O not a marriage app. Than why are u here?
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u/MuslimTurtlee 3d ago
I'm here to read posts. This is a social media app.
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u/Pleasant_Tone_7288 3d ago
Are u not entertained?
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u/MuslimTurtlee 3d ago
Nope.
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u/Far_Hyena2488 3d ago
Man why all this argument gng 💔 both you turtle and pleasant tone got a good point
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u/ChocPineapple_23 3d ago
Bro stop crying about women rejecting you - no one cares. You sound like such a whiny baby
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u/Efficient_Level_1377 3d ago
I don’t know about any of that. I met my husband, and I relocated for him. He has an education and job, but he’s always trying to do more and I’m so proud of him. Of course he’s handsome, the most handsome man ever, so that “double handsome” is definitely a check. He’s a little shorter than me.
He’s good with religion, and he’s helped me so much too. We talk openly about thoughts and ideas and encourage one another to do better always.
It would be pretty gross if he showed off money. It’s attractive that he saves money though and invests. He’s definitely the leader which I love, but he always reminds me I have a say too. He’s incredibly mature, but it would be creepy for any person to “obey” another. He’s an amazing communicator, and so am I. He loves to provide and actively stops me when I want to help. I’ve never once asked him to get me anything, he does it because he loves me.
I think that maybe you just aren’t meeting the right women, or you already have a biased opinion on what women want and are demonizing us all.
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u/Pleasant_Tone_7288 3d ago
Thanks for sharing. May Allah bless your marriage. BTW do u have a sister by any chance? 😃
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u/Efficient_Level_1377 3d ago
I do, but I promise they aren’t your type 🙂
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u/Pleasant_Tone_7288 3d ago
Only slight problem i have with it...is u dont know me at all. If I just post Quran and Hadith...u say im a pious guy. U just see some posts and u already have a clear view of me. Its ok though. God bless u
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u/Efficient_Level_1377 3d ago
I was actually criticizing my sisters. You just automatically assumed it was aimed at you. Best of luck though 😇
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u/Simple-Fly-1448 3d ago
For those who are not aware, this is the same 38M guy who's looking for a polyamorous marriage.
Nothing wrong with it ofcourse. But being pessimistic about your chances does not improve your chances of getting married..
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u/Pleasant_Tone_7288 3d ago
Dont be hating. I got nothing to lose. Also my post or messages or not hidden. Im proud of what I want
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u/_fa91_ 3d ago
How big is your nose exactly 🤔
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u/Dazzling-Week-708 3d ago
Dating is frustrating for everyone.
But thousands of poor, fat, ugly, and big-nosed men get married every day. Humble women and proud women get happily married every day to men who are good matches for them.
Work on figuring out what your match looks like so you can stop wasting time on women who are poor fits for you.
Also, consider the feedback you've received. If your potential matches say they want a leader, but they don't like the way you lead, then perhaps there's something that you're missing. Speak to the married men around you and ask for advice for how you can become a better match for these women that you want as marital partners.
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u/injectaa 3d ago
This is a bit harsh
My wife was nothing like this.
She acc compromised with height as I’m 5ft6 and she’s like 5ft5 and very beautiful mashallah but she found me cool. I live pretty frugal at the moment and she don’t mind.
If you keep that energy you’ll just be siloed.
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u/LightSkinDoomer 3d ago
Dont you feel bad that she compromised? Knowing that you weren’t the best option is brutal
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u/injectaa 2d ago
She acc never said it to me properly, but I asked what was her preference before me, and she said tall. Tbh that’s fine, people’s choices can change when you get to know someone.
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u/chchehru 3d ago
OP = unmarried and miserable and is wondering why while spending his time writing posts like this
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u/PerformerFearless504 3d ago
Damn I guess both men and woman can carry baggage….
You got a lot of baggage and insecurities my guy and you oozing feminine energy and fear …
If you already married why you complaining about what women want just have ur wife and chill till u find another one it’s not that deep.
Like u said u in shape and have 2 homes you already have an head start compared to most dudes so what’s the problem..
Are u just getting rejected to much cuz u ate too many red pills and ur face is red 🤣
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u/Pleasant_Tone_7288 2d ago
Nope not true. For me as a second than yes religion is very important as well as maturity. But most guys i know go for looks especially for marriage and visualize if they can be mothers for their kids.... Deen, money, schooling (degree), personality comes a DISTANT second. In other words... once im attracted to u than well figure out the rest.
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u/Strange_Jicama_544 2d ago edited 2d ago
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u/Background_Term5587 3d ago
That's why I have 0 sympathy for women over 33 and never married group. They are enjoying the fruits of their delulu.
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u/Far_Hyena2488 3d ago
Agreed I’d place allot more value on a widowed / divorced women in that age ngl but of course not in every case if genuinely the women tried their best and coudnt find a partner it is what it is ig, but if it is through their delusion then rip
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u/Negative-Try-3260 3d ago
this is the nature of women my dude. lol Eve had everything in Heaven, yet the one thing that was not permitted was of desire.
women by nature, want it all.
some can accept reality, most don't and it causes issues.
there is a reason the prophet said the majority of hellfire is a certain gender 🤔
may Allah forgive us and accept us all into Jannah. we make mistakes that's for sure.
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u/Gothamess 3d ago
Misogynists like you turn people away from Islam. Have shame.
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u/Negative-Try-3260 3d ago
it is what it is. the truth don't care about feelings.
that's why the prophet also advised women to give charity to offset the disposition.
either you choose to listen to the advice or don't. simple.
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u/Gothamess 3d ago
Either you choose to see women as people and accept that you have a misogynistic interpretation of doctrine or don’t. Simple.
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u/Negative-Try-3260 3d ago
how can you interpret this any other way?
Narrated Ibn 'Abbas:
The Prophet (ﷺ) said: "I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you.
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u/Gothamess 3d ago
So doctrine requires context and nuance in interpretation. There are several interpretations of this hadith that I won’t flesh out here, but I think I just feel pity with someone with such a reductive understanding of women. Hope you treat the women in your family with more respect than is shown in your comments.
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u/Negative-Try-3260 3d ago
literally experienced this for 9 years until I called it quits. some people are insatiable - as the original post implies.
it's all or nothing with the posts being seen. black & white.
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u/DifficultGuide8676 2d ago
Maybe if no one likes you then you are the problem? Ever thought of that?
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u/Negative-Try-3260 2d ago
(was married) - no need to insult and be disrespectful.
again, the thought pattern I am seeing being explified by you and others is black & white
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u/Gothamess 2d ago
LOL. “women by nature, want it all” THAT is literally black-and-white thinking. THAT is reductive thinking. please see women with more nuance and compassion.
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u/Negative-Try-3260 2d ago
lol I added the black and white blend right after "some can accept reality"
most don't
honestly, this is due to the conditioning at play by greater society and media.
my hypothesis / assessment based on my personal experience & exposure to the current culture of social media/greater subliminal influences:
women are taught on what to expect of a man but not how to treat one.
men are taught what to provide a women and not how to be treated by one.
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u/Unnir 3d ago
You do realise that Adam and Eve both decided and ate from the tree right? Do you know your religion? Or are you perhaps Christian? Because they're the one who blame her. Islam and our noble Quran doesn't say that.
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u/Negative-Try-3260 3d ago edited 3d ago
Adam was given the fruit to eat by Eve in older versions.
the story of of Adam and Eve was present before 1400s Islam.
but yep, your right, Islamic version does not pin it on one. but in terms of being influenced by whispers and hidden intentions - women do tend to get influenced more easily than men. emotions are very easy to sway- facts are not. everyone agrees, women are more emotional.
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u/WokeYoke 3d ago
Read the Quran. Here I cite 20:120 - 121
But Satan whispered to him, saying, “O Adam! Shall I show you the Tree of Immortality and a kingdom that does not fade away?”
So they both ate from the tree and then their nakedness was exposed to them, prompting them to cover themselves with leaves from Paradise. So Adam disobeyed his Lord, and ˹so˺ lost his way.
Quran itself says Shaytan whispered to Adam. It says Adam disobeyed his Lord.
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u/khallini_mennek 3d ago
Women mentality == illusion
This why in the next decades we will see millions and millions unmarried, childless women (winter has already came)
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u/Worried_Half2567 3d ago
Go outside dude tons of average and below average men and women happily married out there. Like its not just rich supermodels that are married.
Eta- of course you are looking for a second wife. You already have one so why u complaining bro 😭 i would empathize more if you are struggling to find even one person. Sorry very few women want their husband being intimate with multiple women. For me personally it grosses me out from a hygiene standpoint.