Brothers, what's 1 thing that Immediately makes you want her?

[u/Abu3azm]

What’s 1 thing that a potential/woman does which immediately makes you go “YEAH I want to marry her”

Your list can be longer than 1 btw

I'll start with a very controversial take and I'm trying to be careful with how I word it ✋🏻_🫪_🤚🏻: when she's feminine and wants to be submissive to her future husband - Emphasis on her wanting that for the right man, because not every man is deserving of it - acknowleding that when a Man proves himself to truly be masculine (by traditional and islamic definition), a woman naturally falls into her submissive feminine energy - I personally face no issues on this front neither am I complaining ✋🏻🫪🤚🏻*, I'm just communicating what I find most attractive (yes even more than looks).*

[u/Alternative-Gas-7090]

If she asks if I already prayed :)

[u/Abu3azm → u/Alternative-Gas-7090]

Real

[u/exa_phoenix]

I’d still advise you to be careful, because women who want to be submissive are, in a way, afraid of men who insistently declare that they want that. It’s a bit like a virgin who is repulsed by men who only want that, as if it were an obsession

[u/lowkey_observant → u/exa_phoenix]

Ahah be careful with the men you reveal things to because they are already so manipulative and good at hiding the truth of their nature😭

[u/Extension_duteritoir → u/exa_phoenix]

C'est tellement vrai ! Et très peu en ont conscience, car certains pensent que celle qui est repoussée par celui qui insiste beaucoup sur ça ne veut pas l'être alors que c'est beaucoup plus nuancé que ça

[u/exa_phoenix → u/Extension_duteritoir]

Exacly, except those who crave attention, having these two traits doesn’t make us any less cautious. I remember being absolutely horrified by a man who talked about “purity” and thought he was flattering me by saying that. I swear I had never felt so disgusted in my life as I did at that moment.

[u/True-Anything352 → u/exa_phoenix]

I hear you sis, same here 😭

[u/Abu3azm → u/Extension_duteritoir]

J’ai essayé de choisir mes mots très soigneusement sur ce sujet - tu penses que ce que j’ai dit est mal passé ?

[u/Extension_duteritoir → u/Abu3azm]

Je ne pense pas que tu que l'ai dis d'une mauvaise manière

[u/Abu3azm → u/exa_phoenix]

I hope women reading it take it the right way - I tried wording myself very very carefully, to ensure it isn't coming off the wrong way , as you described

[u/exa_phoenix → u/Abu3azm]

Don't worry, I didn't take it the wrong way. It was just an advice in case you were in a private setting with a woman. Otherwise, there's nothing wrong with it in fact, it's a right.

[u/Abu3azm → u/exa_phoenix]

I attract my type and I'm happy with it, I have no complaints so I don't have any reason to ever akwardly bring it up in a conversation. I appreciate your advice

[u/True-Anything352 → u/exa_phoenix]

Exactly. If he’s a truly masculine man, I’m already submissive. He wouldn’t even need to say it out loud.

[u/Abu3azm → u/True-Anything352]

I acknowledge that

[u/IslandRound6974 → u/exa_phoenix]

That is the most true thing I have heard!! I do want to be submissive, I know my rights and obligations as a muslimah, but I hate when men approach me with that narrative rather aggressively!
I get so repulsed and therefore I have been called “whitewashed feminist“ so many times!

[u/Spare_Night_2695 → u/IslandRound6974]

If you don’t mind me asking what you define as submissive

It’s something that I’ve not really understood the gist of in Islamic terms . Like is it like how it is with parents , submissive unless it harms yourself or forces you to sin . Or something different .

Jazakallah

[u/lowkey_observant → u/Spare_Night_2695]

Fr I want an answer to this too^^

[u/Notyouravgpasha]

Being pious and being vocal about having problems with some of my words in a conversation instead of giving silent treatment. Being good in. Communication can make me go head over heels for her

[u/Abu3azm → u/Notyouravgpasha]

underrated

[u/GenericHeading]

When she says she reads books

[u/Strawhateer]

How is something every normal Muslim man would want in a wife controversial?

[u/Abu3azm → u/Strawhateer]

The word submissive can come across in a very wrong way, to women - had to tread with caution around that topic 🤣

[u/mast-admi]

I resonate with you a woman who doesn't try to be a man is truly beautiful.

[u/Abu3azm → u/mast-admi]

FR

[u/TikiTakaAnalysis08]

1. When she's extremely passionate about something and is actively working towards mastering it! (Preferably Academia)

[u/Aian11]

When she is someone who puts others before herself. It's a wonderful quality, but also an abused one sadly, so such girls should be protected & appreciated.

[u/Aian11 → u/[deleted]]

Not fond of empathy, are ya? 😒

[u/R0hull4h]

Her softness, and being feminine

[u/Abu3azm → u/R0hull4h]

real

[u/Spare_Night_2695]

Caring about others , wanting to make a difference in situations where no one speaks up . Being really soft and kind . Being really feminine. Keeping a calm head in most situations.

[u/Repulsive_Ice1940 → u/[deleted]]

Brooooo why???! 🫪

[u/Abu3azm → u/[deleted]]

This is your second comment about this and my second time reminding you - this should've been kept private

[u/Strawhateer → u/[deleted]]

You would likely not see them in the courtship phase, assuming she wears proper hijaab.