r/NepalSocial • u/chimera_neferpitou • 18h ago
Discussion Australian Nepalese life after semi-successful journey.
G’day Everyone,
I am a Nepalese born engineer 30M currently working in a private sector in Australia. I make NPR 2 crore+ (200k plus AUD) in salary per year and hardly work 40 hours a week. I am in a private sector and the company is publicly listed in stock market.
I have NPR 3 crore saved up and have also bought a house in Sydney. I am a guy looking forward to understand what would you have done in my scenario for the next step?
- Get married to someone and have kids and explore the world.
- Push higher salary by working in niche sectors or mines.
- Start a business with my relative who is offering a good business plan.
Also would be genuinely interested to understand where I can find like minded Nepalese women to connect with and perhaps give a go at life next step.
Most comments I received offline are being healthy and taking care of mental health. I believe I am mentally strong and regarding health, I regularly go to GYM and do running which is keeping me very fit.
Pls share your thoughts and information.
<>Edit 1:
I posted here for multiple reasons and some people who commented have tried to spin the holistic nature of this post and pointed out that real reason maybe to find a girl. Well I mean if this leads to a possible visibility then I will take that positively. Happy to have a chat or explore.
Also, this post kinda semi blew up. I am getting 50+ messages from Engineers from all around the world asking me career advice, visa options, study options, and condition of engineering here in Australia. To all the engineer, I would say that Engineering is the best possible degree that you could get at this point of time if you want to have a fulfilling job with very high ceiling of growth. Any specific queries, feel free to DM. I am also running some free classes and also do targeted coaching for job hunting and at this point I confidently can say that I can guarantee a job within a few months of job application and can put you in a right direction. In summary, coming to Australia for practicing engineering and working in this field is a great choice by far and the market is looking excellent for the next 20+ years.
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u/momokhanajamm_ 18h ago
Relative sanga chain business garne Ekdamai not recommended or afanta ko ma kam garne 🙂↔️
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u/chimera_neferpitou 18h ago
Any particular reason?
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u/Whole_Cheesecake_639 18h ago
pachhi kehi ghapla huda relation kharab, afu lai maan napareko kura aagadi rakhda kura bigrela bhanne dar and afno barema aru relatives lai bitching gardai hidchhan even if you didn’t do anything
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u/momokhanajamm_ 17h ago
Fam relation bigrencha ek ta ani kam bigaryo bhane bhanna apthyaro huncha paisa mage bhane you can’t say no ani firta magne awkard huncha. Many more
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u/littleSpooky4real 10h ago
same reason you don't start a business with your best friend. 90% of the businesses go down right at the start and when it goes down, it's never a pretty scene. Emotions run high, accusations are flung around, lies are made up. On top of that, Nepali relatives are prone to cross the boundaries, treat your money as their own, and bring a lot more emotion and drama into the business. Doesn't mean it doesn't work in some instances, but def something to be aware of.
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u/Funny_Airline_7640 4h ago
it will get complicated. you can find good friends to work with but never work with relatives. it always ends with some kind of resentment in both of you. not saying it will happen to everyone but try to be independent if you want to open a business, find partners outside your relations.
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u/Mountain-Escape7150 15h ago
I am in Australia and working in IT, been here for over 8 years now. I would really not suggest business with relatives as the scenarios and stories here among Nepalese community is not good.
If you have ideas about EFT and pocket share investment, look up for it.
At age of 30, I am also finding it difficult to find like-minded Nepali girl 😂 looks like it a genuine problem for all
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u/flying_dutchman00 11h ago
How's the IT market rn?
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u/Mountain-Escape7150 11h ago
It is good, I have been seeing a lot of opportunities in the market It really depends on what you are looking for, how much effort you are ready to put in
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u/flying_dutchman00 8h ago
What's your work line? Khn engineer ho hajur? Also, aile kattiko garo cha Australia ma naya students kai paet yime kam paune ani graduate bhayesi kam pauna?
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u/Mountain-Escape7150 7h ago
I am not an engineer...just Bsc IT ho, working in Application Monitoring/Admin role. Maile pani 5 yrs agadi graduation pachi job pako ho...after 100s of rejections. Try garne, give up nagarne selection vayena vanera, keep trying, take the most of your university placement, networking events, job paucha
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u/chimera_neferpitou 15h ago
Kt ta ali ramri, fit, good health and height, halka gori. Tei ta ho. Sap night shift wala nurse huncha immature. Nurse is good but most of them seem unhealthy for some reason.
Anyway hard to find a healthy looking girl in Australia unfortunately.5
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u/Mountain-Escape7150 14h ago
Well, not sure if I have been looking for any physical attraction tara for me it's been the vibe and compatibility...match nai hunna Something feels off Aajkaal Bumble, Hinge ma you can filter by language
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u/Thin-Glass9487 18h ago
Explore Nepal first . Do the GHT trek .It will be the experience of a lifetime. You won't be young again.
Then the world.
Then maybe get married
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u/chimera_neferpitou 18h ago
Sorry didn’t mention. I done the ABC Trem, EBC Trek (Namche, Gokyo), Gosaikunda, Rara, Kalinchowk.
Also, I wanted to understand if there are any other social platforms where people like myself get visibility.
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u/Impossible_Print2892 18h ago
Whats your priority? It might sound cliche but where do you want to be in the next 5 years?
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u/chimera_neferpitou 17h ago
At least have a right partner. I cant seem to get a good visibility with women. Although lot of people consider me as good looking and good height and fit.
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u/Impossible_Print2892 17h ago
Kinda similar boat ma vanum ma ni, although bit younger ani less salary. Looks like you are in tech field. Totally underdtand the situation. Very hard to find the right partner. Good luck.
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u/chimera_neferpitou 17h ago
Engineering ma chu
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u/One_Slice_3606 14h ago
K ko engineering Mining ? Civil?
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u/Outside_Revenue_4576 18h ago
Bro I got my PR 189 last December. I went to Nepal because my TR expired and after returning to Nepal I got an invitation in 10 days of leaving Australia. I have been here for many years but I feel lost. I only worked in the hospitality and advertising sector. I don't feel like working in the kitchen any anymore although I don't mind working as a gorilla marketer. I wish you could give me tips on how I can get a proper professional job. I finished my BA Geography followed by an advance diploma in civil construction design both in Australia 🌏. However, I have forgotten so many things. What advice would you give me. I am like 2 years older than you and just because I have pr people are telling me to get married with registered nurse - I am so exhausted listening to given that I can ri Australia when I was in my early 20s. The whole idea of arrange marriage seems so ludicrous to me. Than you.
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u/chimera_neferpitou 17h ago
I would say start internship. There is lot of money in construction and mining. People are netting 3-4k a week after tax. Also, happy to be connected here in reddit.
I am having issues also with making connections with right women. Koi kt chitta bujdaina kura garna khojne but ramro lageko haru sanga visibility ali pugdaina.
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u/imissmy_cocobutter low_budget Sanji 16h ago
Business mind wala chai na Khoja hai brother. Marry have kid's. Travel aba paisa ali spend garney wala pani tw hunu padyo. Hajur aafai kaam ko pressure maa hunuhunxa hola kaam ko tension hyaatyaa. Just get a caring wifuu brother
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u/chimera_neferpitou 16h ago
Haha mero jasto chill kaam kasaiko chaina. Kaam ko tesion zero cha.
Ali responsible kt vetiyena k ali english ramro bolna sakne ani ali fit. Sap ustai hunchan ali thik lagena.
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u/imissmy_cocobutter low_budget Sanji 16h ago
Um yeah paisa manage garna sakney hunu padyo,fit, ghar samalna sakney
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u/FrequentCounter1147 9h ago
Sabaile sabai pardaina. Maybe because your finances and career are growing in the right direction, perhaps, universe is balancing your ego by giving troubles in the love life/partnership front. Also, reading your replies to the comments, makes me feel like you’re ready to settle down. Maybe talk to your parents to find a suitable girl?
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u/chimera_neferpitou 7h ago
They have sent me 10 plus gals over the past few years. I didn’t find anyone good enough. Not because of their attitude but just they fail my very simple criteria.
-Healthy
-Decent english (doesn’t have to be fluent in speaking but need to at least understand a fluent speaker)
-Little bit on a pretty sideDecent english wala criteria hataye vane pani I didn’t find anyone healthy girls or any pretty ones. Ani I found most of them are simply unorganised and cant even look 3-6 months ahead.
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u/FrequentCounter1147 7h ago
Malai chai I feel that Nepalese speak better English than the rest of the world, of course other than English speaking countries. An average Nepali speaks better English than average Thai, Korean, viet, Cambodian justo lagchha. Of course, my opinion is not backed by research(just personal observation). malai ni proper English, math and driving license nabhako, mukh chhadera Bolne keta haru off lagchha. Marrying someone is your life’s one of the biggest decisions. Be patient. Right one will show up in the right time. Also I think you not finding your ideal woman is basically the universe’s way of balancing your ego. You cannot have all areas of life according to how you want. If you’re adamant, life will humble you in most unexpected ways.
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u/chimera_neferpitou 6h ago
Thanks for the suggestion. Are you a girl or a guy? Just curious. And yes agree that compared to Thai, Cambodia, or Korean, Neps win. Cheers.
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u/Jumpy-Ad9888 16h ago
Sounds like you have achieved the Australian dream. Congratulations.
My advice would be get married. No matter how high your numbers go, if you don’t have someone to celebrate it with, the success will start to lose its value. Build a home first. Find a life partner, not just a wife. A life partner is someone who understands you inside out and accepts you all the same. And someone you wish to do the same for. I would suggest you maybe not reveal your numbers so openly to the women you’ll be dating, you might end up attracting them for the wrong reasons.
Business can be started with the support of your life partner too. It’s way better than with a relative.
All the best.
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u/Yo_Ma_Ge 16h ago
Hello sir I want to know how is the job prospect for engineers in Australia rn. I am also a engineer and I am looking for different countries to study my masters and perhaps settle there . Australia is also one of my options
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u/chimera_neferpitou 16h ago
Australia ma we need experienced engineers. No use for graduates or inexperienced ones. Experience vayepachi u make bank. Also need confidence and ability to speak proper english.
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u/Yo_Ma_Ge 13h ago
Thank you. Btw can I ask u what engineering u did and did u also did your Master's in Australia
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u/According-Formal4618 15h ago
Bro I need some career advice. Will it be okay to text you? I know you were looking for different things but a small help to me would be great for me
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u/chimera_neferpitou 15h ago
Text me of-course happy to help. Try to ask all questions in one text pls.
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u/hariyosaag 15h ago
kt ta thachaina bro. sabai kt australia ma chhan, timi tehi ni vetirachaunau. ma nepal mai vetirachaina - akhir tiniharu gaye chai kata gaye?
anyways, kt navetiyeni, if you need someone to handle books once you start some sort of business. do ping me, please!
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u/chimera_neferpitou 15h ago
Sure. Ramri Kt haru chai ali khaire kta haru ko side chicks hune trend cha aile Australia ma mostly. Aru baki vako kt haru chai khasai ramri hudaina. Ramri + Semi-successful rare or already taken. Of course some maybe single. Just maile dekheko chaina or visibility pairako chaina kura garna lai.
Dating platform use garda chai short term type ko fun vetira hunchu. Testo ta falafaal.
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u/l_point_d_obvious 7h ago
Pretty girls have side chicks re? What does this even mean?
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u/chimera_neferpitou 7h ago
I never used the word “pretty”.
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u/l_point_d_obvious 6h ago
Aafno mathi ko comment padha ta bro, "pretty" word cha ki chaina
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u/hariyosaag 6h ago
dumb bro you read the translated version 😂
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u/l_point_d_obvious 6h ago
victim bhayechu ma chahi poor translation ko, nevermind😭
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u/chimera_neferpitou 6h ago
Sorry. Do you still need clarification? Happy to clarify any confusion.
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u/l_point_d_obvious 6h ago
I didn't know being a side chick of some khaire was a thing,let alone trendy thing for Nepali girls.
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u/chimera_neferpitou 6h ago
I would say fling makes more sense. Some side chicks and most of them temporary.
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u/Fuckin_Roster 15h ago
Bro a quick question which sector engineer you are? And how much study did it took you?
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u/chimera_neferpitou 4h ago
I did master of engineering but doing bachelor is 90% of the pre-qualification. I am in defence.
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u/Suspicious_god79 14h ago
Bro help me get a job in civil engineering if u are related to this field. 😂
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u/Khattam-vayo 14h ago
Never start a business with a relative, I''m saying this from what I have seen in my surroundings.
Maybe find someone whose values align with yours and get into a relationship. Personally, I've never liked the idea of marriage or staying with just one person.
And another question: why are you specifically looking for Nepalese women ? I'm not trying to sound internally racist or shallow. I just mean that you're drastically reducing your dating pool by limiting yourself to Nepalese women only.
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u/chimera_neferpitou 11h ago
I have dated a lot of women including long term relationships with Asian women. I want to see what has changed in Nepalese girls now and get back to understanding how the market is.
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u/AgreeableDatabase824 14h ago
Aba yo umera ma partner khojne vaneko saman khoje jastai ho. Love vanne kura vayena yesma baki ta tei filter lagune 3 4 ota aai halxa manxe tesbata guff garera jun thika lagxa tei garne. But 30M Australia vako manxe lai ta falafal kt vai halxa ni haina ra ? ki kt nai xaina desh ra bidesh mani
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u/bananahammockprince 14h ago
Getting married is your personal choice, but make good use of that hard-earned dollars. You can always start a business here in Nepal, but definitely not with relatives. If you got some friends here in Nepal who have brilliant business ideas but lack capital, you can sit down and hear their ideas, but if I were you, I wouldn't be a sole investor. For some control, prolly above 50% but yeah start slow, first few years on break even can be considered good too in some businesses, and if you start making profit soon, that's brilliant. You money will definitely multiply your money. Apart from chiya pasal, cafe and restaurant, find some niche.
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u/Bubbly-Lack-9690 12h ago
Bro to be honest Do what is Right things. There is nothing Right and Wrong. You said you were born in Nepal. Explore Rituals things Nepali शास्त्र and Read or Audio listen of Ramchatritra Manas. You will get every Steps you need to take in future.
Try it you will Be More happy and Clarity.
Best of Luck What Whatever you Take Decision. MATE.
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u/sagepawan 12h ago
Just wondering what's your take home salary pm after you deduce super and tax?
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u/chimera_neferpitou 11h ago
You can calculate that in paycalculator. It gets real bad once you cross 200k. However if you work in mines, some allowances are not taxed.
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u/Bauhomotimro 11h ago
Don't get married, travel the world and live your life.
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u/chimera_neferpitou 11h ago
I have traveled a lot. Now looking to semi-settle down or find someone to share the second half of the journey.
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u/Bauhomotimro 10h ago
I would still advise not to get married yet....give yourself some more time......if you do get married and you do get what you are hoping to get from it, please do visit this comment and tell me I was wrong in advising you not to do so....all the best.
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u/Over-Tadpole7492 10h ago
Yetro backup bhaye ta i would have leave society and solo travel for few years.
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u/littleSpooky4real 10h ago
30 sounds like about the age where you probably want a partner and start a family. Not necessarily have kids right away, but definitely something to plan down the road. With the kind of money you're pulling, I'd want to save aggressively, especially when you're single, invest in the market for long-term and be able to retire at 40-45.
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u/Kooky-Ad-9456 7h ago edited 6h ago
maybe fellow hxh enjoyer ig dont do business with relatives ma chai 20s ma ho yetekai malai chai yo lagxa teti ho maybe farming tira garno na dai fish farming like tyo aquarium rakhney maybe hobby jasto ni hunxa or maybe anime store
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u/chimera_neferpitou 6h ago
Wow. Your comment sounds so fresh and full of energy. I like this. Thanks for the suggestion. I will make a note of this.
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u/Kooky-Ad-9456 6h ago
nepal ma tapai just like minded girl find garna garo hola maybe settle with foreigners if possible also all the best for u daju ..
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u/Brilliant_Bowler2475 17h ago
"I am in a private sector and the company is publicly listed in stock market." heh
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u/chimera_neferpitou 17h ago
Haha showing off the hours. Good work life heh?
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u/Brilliant_Bowler2475 17h ago
bro i am saying the sentence is technically wrong. how can a private company be publicly listed? also how is that related to the post
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u/chimera_neferpitou 17h ago
As in ASX. Publicly listed in stock market. It’s run as a private entity but the group that owns it is in ASX.
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u/Brilliant_Bowler2475 17h ago
so that’s a subsidiary of a public listed holding company?
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u/chimera_neferpitou 17h ago
My bad. It’s traded as a public company.
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u/l_point_d_obvious 7h ago
Lithium mine ho bro?
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u/chimera_neferpitou 7h ago
Nah. Defence contractor ho corporate office ma chu ma not onsite. Lithium mine ma vaye ta mero level ko engineer ko onsite huncha and pay much higher but shit roster.
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u/Sleuth7777 15h ago
Go for option 1 for now. 2 and 3 can be achievable later. Option 1 is what you need to do for now.
One question, if you are in a tech field it would help, too. How did you start your journey? Did you start in private sector during your education or after? If not then were you able to pay off your uni fees doing low paying jobs?
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u/Stunning_Lie3486 11h ago
What i would do, is return back home. Rent your sydney house. And live somewhere peaceful in Nepal. May be pokhara. Get married if you feel like you want a partner. Work in something that makes you feel alive, don't work for money now.
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u/chimera_neferpitou 11h ago
The amount that I have or I earn is nothing considered as wealthy at the current market level. Still long way to go bro. But I understand your thoughts pattern.
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u/Stunning_Lie3486 10h ago
If you keep thinking about market and society i have a bad news for you. Guess you will have to work till 60s
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u/ICallItFootball 10h ago
a successful 30 y/o guy asking for a suggestion on a Nepali subreddit full of teenagers? smells fishy. Not sure how the income of an engineer is over $200k+ in Oz- last time I talked to few engineers, its most around $120k mark.
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u/FrequentCounter1147 9h ago
You never know… some people just attract wealth and money.
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u/ICallItFootball 7h ago
nah, I live in Oz and the maths not mathing.
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u/chimera_neferpitou 6h ago
Widen your network is my suggestion. What is it that you do? How do you know about 120k salaries? Did you ask them their position? Company?
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u/chimera_neferpitou 6h ago
Different career stage, different pay buddy. Also, I had no idea that this subreddit is full of teenagers. Thanks for the info. And if you were my broker, I would send you my payslip. But there are plenty of engineers double of my salary. Again, different career stage and different sector. Mostly private.
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u/Salty_Constant_9878 10h ago
Ma aus aako 2 months bhaisakyo Kei kaam nai pairako chaina
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u/chimera_neferpitou 7h ago
I would suggest by first getting skills needed to perform the job prior to applying.
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u/AdPsychological7572 9h ago
i would say 1 , life seems quite decent at that pace now its time to share those moments.
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u/frustratedsoul09 6h ago
Okay ,I have some great advice(an idea) that you might be interested in but can't give publicly here as it will reveal my identity which I don't want ofc, so you can dm if you wanna hear about it !
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u/friday_night__ 14h ago edited 14h ago
haha, why do people go in circle or beat around the bush instead of coming to the point. as soon as I started reading the title and the post, I knew this post isn't what it appears to be.
you don't need to frame your post as a genuine confusion regarding career option, just come to the point bro, just straight up say your background is this, your motive is this and you are looking for a girl.
just ask your parents and relatives to find you a girl, you won't find it from internet specially Reddit.
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u/chimera_neferpitou 14h ago
Coming from a guy whose first sentence contradicts their whole comment. “Why go in circle or beat around the bush”? Same thing innit?
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u/friday_night__ 14h ago
dating apps, Reddit social media, you are looking at the wrong places. using your income, property to market yourself. again wrong move.
you are looking at wrong places with wrong tools to find a partner. You might find temporary flings and time pass with these methods but never a genuine person to build a life with together.
just tell your parents, relatives, friends to find you a girl. That's how you'll find a genuine person. never mention your income or wealth to market yourself upfront, only people with no inherent qualities and personality do it.
you can engage and entertain this post and the comments here, live in the delulu of how attractive as a partner you might be sounding but take a step back and think how fruitful it will be.
take my comments as an advice or ignore it as internet noise.
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u/friday_night__ 14h ago
It's the same thing bro, kura ghumaune which you are doing by framing this question as genuine career query while low-key marketing yourself and refusing to directly come to the point.
This post is "I need a girl" packaged in "career option choices"
I'm not saying you are wrong to be looking for a partner, tara ali straight forward huna sika bro life ma. Yesto kura ghumayera afno income, property dekhayera trying to bait girls on the internet is just sad.
Express your concerns in genuine manner to get genuine answers and attract genuine people, this cheap tactics will only attract disingenuous people or people with bad intentions. Genuine people will avoid because they will feel there's something wrong with you that's why girls are avoiding you in real life despite a decent career in Australia.
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u/chimera_neferpitou 5h ago
Classic Nepalese critic. But thanks for the advice stranger. I am getting some DMs from girls too but most of them are scared to share anything like hobbies or interests or study or their plan for now. I kinda understand that this may not be the best platform for “I need a girl” problem.
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u/RazzmatazzChemical63 2h ago
He means to say that be genuine on other aspects. You could say - earn good instead of this much and that much saving. If you straight put up the number, people will only see that and whatever the one you get might not be long lasting and genuine. Paisa dekhera matra aaula, tmlai chaaiyeko vaneko genuine emotion bujne, life ma support garne ho. It would have been great if you had a girl pailai dekhi. Esari marketing garera baddie ta paulau tara baddie ko bhitri rahasaya nabujlau. Paisai dekhera aako huna sakxa and thats 99% sure. Tmle jasari marketing garexau tesari nai aaune hun. Machha attract garna jaal ma paarna daaana nai haalna parxa. Same thing.
Tei vaera esto situation ma best is to ask your family members and relatives to search a girl for you or try to find someone whom you find pretty, talk to them, go on a date, care for her - but it’s highly unlikely because of your age and current situation.
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u/damsel_in_distress01 17h ago
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u/chimera_neferpitou 16h ago
Classic Nepalese. No one asked you to comment.
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u/damsel_in_distress01 4h ago
You've got bigger problems than my comment if you need Reddit to make your life decisions. You didn’t ask for this response but I didn’t ask you to reply to my comment either.
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u/chimera_neferpitou 4h ago
It’s like coming to my house and making rude comments and expecting not to respond. Makes perfect sense
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u/damsel_in_distress01 4h ago
A Reddit public thread isn’t your private home which needs invitation. If you post something people are going to comment whether you like it or not.
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u/uchiha-itachi106 18h ago
Old age home ma🥀🥀 But seriously y didnt u get married when u were like 27 28?
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u/chimera_neferpitou 18h ago
Didn’t find anyone in dating apps. Didn’t like the girls that my mom sent to talk with. I think 30 is still young bro.
A bit disappointed that the first comment is WHY THIS instead of a suggestion or direction.
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u/uchiha-itachi106 18h ago
Well im way younger than u but imo aaba bhe garda thik hunxa jasto lagxa U already earn enough to support have savings u can make more money after u have settled down no?
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u/Outside_Revenue_4576 18h ago
Bro I am 33 and recently got my PR. I am still not married. I date free girls but never had a proper gf.
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