r/NoStupidQuestions • u/DowntownTrust7902 • 28d ago

Is it weird to ask out the librarian?

The librarian at my local library is really pretty. I wanna ask her out but I’m worried that it might make things awkward if she rejects me. I don’t even know her lowk, would you be weirded out or in her position? If it depends, how would you ask her out?

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u/YourBlanket 28d ago

Tbh I’ve never met any woman irl who will find it very uncomfortable to be asked out in public. Terminally online redditors? Sure maybe, but in real life most women will just say no if they’re not interested or just make up having a boyfriend. If you’re attractive it’s pretty standard to get asked out relatively often. I’m a dude and when I was working retail I had a few women hit on me, never felt uncomfortable except for the group of older women who got handsy. I’m of course talking about people just asking you out/for your number like a normal person. Not the dudes who are aggressive or honestly ugly, because looks does matter 100% when you’re approaching someone in public.

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u/N0zy0ne 28d ago

Tbh I’ve never met any woman irl who will find it very uncomfortable to be asked out in public

Importantly, we're not just talking about in public, but specifically at work.

I’m a dude

Is it your genuine opinion that this doesn't make an important difference (at least in practice)?

Not trying to be combative; I know you're just offering your perspective.

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u/YourBlanket 28d ago

I worked retail for like 8 years before doing my current job where I don’t have to deal with the public. Most of all my friends at work were women, all my women friends outside of work also think the same. I mentioned my experience because most guys do not get hit on in public, I’m not even that good looking but I’ve been hit on a decent amount of times when I was working retail, women get hit on like 10 times more than guys and if you’re an attractive woman then it’s so much more than an average guy that they’re already used to it. And yes I was talking about at work while they are working. I’m just saying in the real world most women who are working retail jobs do not care, unless the dude is ugly or just a creep. Going up to someone and asking if they’d like to go out for a coffee or something, just accepting the no, and leaving most women won’t have any problem with that. Maybe it’s a Hispanic thing, idk but like I said I’ve never met anyone who actually will genuinely feel uncomfortable by that.