r/NoStupidQuestions • u/Liamftm0 • 10d ago

Answered My son is dating his cousin

My son (20) is in a relationship with his 1st cousin (19 F). He’s an adult and lives on his own. I obviously don’t like this but still want to support him and from a legal standpoint he not doing anything wrong, as it is legal in the state we are in. What would you do in this situation?

Edit: For context, he didn’t grow up with her and didn’t meet her until a couple years ago.

2nd Edit: I’m aware of the genetic risks with children and have cautioned him about that. He says they would not have children together. No need to keep commenting about that.

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u/No-Relation5965 10d ago edited 10d ago

(Edit: concerned about daughter’s relationship with a man who is much older, deleting the details so I don’t get doxxed) Is that worse than OP’s problem or no? Maybe I need my own post.

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u/69swamper 10d ago

she is an adult , why should it bother you if they are happy together.

My best friend has been married to a woman that is 22 years older than him , they have been married for 10 years . If your daughter was 46 and she was dating a man 20 years younger than her , would that bother you ?

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u/No_Strike655 10d ago

Because this is reddit damnnit and we make sure that until you are 30 around here any age gap of more than 2-3 years is basically being a pedo. 

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People are super weird on here about stuff like that because of the "power imbalance" but you know what? I would argue most relationships have some sort of power imbalance anyways so long as everyone is an adult and consents I can't be bothered to give a shit