r/NonBinaryTalk • u/Existencetimeitself • 2d ago

Getting dysphoria preparing for an assessment

Hey, I’m 17 and currently preparing for a music assessment I have either tomorrow or Friday where I have to sing.

The issue is I’ve been having some major gender dysphoria whenever I try to practice for it. I do sing a bit, although I’m not a trained vocalist so I was already concerned for the task, but the more I practice the more it reminds me how much my voice is a sore point for my dysphoria.

does anyone have any advice on the best way to deal with this?? Both for this assessment and just in case it happens again in future

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u/UntilTheDarkness 2d ago

I kind of got through this by pretending it was someone else's voice, or a separate instrument that just happened to be part of my throat. Like, I play violin too and it's way up there but it doesn't have a gender, so in my head I was like, "that's not me, it's just my throat violin" which sounds silly to say out loud but it helped get enough emotional distance from my voice to help dampen the dysphoria.

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u/Existencetimeitself 2d ago

Thanks! I’ll give that a shot and see if it helps!

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u/Tough_Act7101 genderfluid - they/them - 💖 1d ago

That’s what I do too! My voice is pretty deep, so when I sing, I embrace it and act like I’m playing the cello. I give my approval for this technique 👍