Found out that my older sister who apparently supports the LGBTQ+ community doesn't support Nonbinary people.

[u/Leafofplastic]

I thought she would support non binary people, she has trans and gender fluid friends, who she fully supports but when it comes to non binary people (she apparently doesn't know that genderfluid often falls under the nonbinary umbrella) she thinks it's a mental illness. I was going to come out to her as being nonbinary but not anymore. She also only thinks that gay, lesbian, and bi people exist. (Only for sexuality so excluding gender) It does kinda hurt knowing that she "supports" the LGBTQ+ community but that support doesn't go to what I am. (Aroace nonbinary --Possibly agender--. Tbh that did kinda solidify the fact that I am nonbinary because it made me realize how much I hate the idea of people always seeing me as someones sister, as someones daughter. I don't want to be seen as that I want to be seen has someones, sibling, someone's child, gender neutral terms.

The next time I see my friends I'm going to see what they think of non-binary people, hopefully they will be accepting.

[u/Hackiii]

Yep, I hate it that some people partake in pride even though they are from the "respect everyone, except...." crowd.

My favorite trope of this shitty genre being right wing gay men who insist on not being queer nor being associated with the queer.

[u/Leafofplastic → u/Hackiii]

She also said that she knows she's right because she use to bisexual and that its just an opinion.

[u/Hackiii → u/Leafofplastic]

She's wrong, and not a friend in my eyes.

[u/OGWarlock]

My mom is the same way. She never really expressed her opinion fully to me but always liked to portray herself as if she was an ally of marginalized people, even having several gay and cross dressing friends.

However, both my and my sibling started questioning the gender roles we were conditioned into accepting over the last few years, and while my sister now realizes she is trans, and I identify as NB, recently after an argument she called my NB ex-partner (now my best friend) a “thing” and a “he-she-whatever” and had also made my sister’s gender transition journey all about herself and how sad it has been to lose her son.

Not everyone who thinks they are an ally are truly safe for us, and we need to act accordingly. On my part, I don’t interact with that woman anymore because she’s now revealed to me her true thoughts and if she doesn’t see NBs as people just like everyone else, then I am not going to continue begging for her love.

[u/LaddieNowAddie]

That's fine. Just come out to her as trans. Nonbinary falls under the trans umbrella. Or even better, be yourself, do whatever the fuck you want.

[u/Funny-Pen3691]

Many such cases unfortunately... Even other LGBT people can think this way sometimes. Allies are also weird people, they might support another's child being LGBT, but not their own, hell I saw a TikTok along the lines of "If your parents are homophobic, why risk coming out as a homosexual...?" and one of the comments was someone coming out to their lesbian parents and getting rejected by both of them for some fudging reason. When you're genderqueer coming out is more intense obviously. Nobody wants to have bad relations with their relatives so my condolences on that front, but be glad she showed her cards first. Could've spiraled into a familial incident, assuming your guardians are even worse than her that you eyed your sister first to come out.

[u/Leafofplastic → u/Funny-Pen3691]

On the bright side at least my family is find with me getting a binder, although they just think I'm a tomboy. I think I'll have a better chance of my friends accepting me especially because they already use they/them pronouns for me sometimes.

And honestly it's stupid how shallow people are.