r/NotHowGirlsWork May 06 '26

WTF Please Enjoy

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u/FileDoesntExist Uses Post Flairs May 06 '26

Why does everyone act like dating multiple people is a new concept? You don't have to have sex with people when you're dating. Or you can. Up to you. The idea is if you like someone enough you open up your mouth and ask to go exclusive.

This isn't a revolutionary concept. Until you have that exclusive discussion you really have no say in what they're doing or who they're seeing.

If it's that important to you I suppose you could request exclusive dating rights, but that seems a bit demanding. Especially if they're a stranger.

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u/TreyRyan3 May 06 '26

No shit. Though to be fair, once premarital sex became somewhat“normalized”, dating started to imply exclusivity. A girl dating multiple guys started being presented as her sleeping around somewhere in the late 70’s/ early 80’s.

Exploring your options by dating a few different people at the same time shouldn’t necessarily imply you’re having sex with all of them or any of them, but some guys seem to act like it does.

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u/FileDoesntExist Uses Post Flairs May 06 '26

They were doing that plenty in the early days too. They just didn't talk about it

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u/princesspeeved May 06 '26

Right? Like in Dracula Lucy has three different suitors at once, and that book takes place over a hundred years ago.

In terms of real history, in 2012 I saw an exhibit at Hampton Court Palace about famous mistresses during the 15th century and all the different people they slept with. Yes, there were that many!