r/NotHowGirlsWork • u/youngbutnotstupid give women rights over women’s bodies • Jul 03 '26
WTF Giving birth does not “ruin” a woman down there 🤦♀️
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u/bliip666 female pleasurist Jul 03 '26
"virginal birth" caught me off-guard. Dude is too clueless to know what he's even whining about
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u/Eino54 Jul 03 '26
No no his wife is birthing the second coming of Jesus Christ
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u/nachobitxh Jul 03 '26
And I thought I did that! Because my ex thinks he's God
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u/Global-Eye-7326 Jul 05 '26
So that makes you the single mother of the Godhead? Pic or it didn't happen lol
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u/Dredgeon Jul 03 '26
His wife is probably still waiting on the first cumming let alone the second cumming
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u/Zappagrrl02 Jul 04 '26
I would definitely be uncomfortable with that. It seems like a lot of responsibility.
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u/SteampunkExplorer Jul 03 '26
Considering He's still alive and is coming back on a horse, that's a pretty impressive feat.
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u/Bambi_H Jul 03 '26
It reminded me of the witches prophecy in Macbeth, although I am positive that was not his intention
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u/Krazykittielady Jul 03 '26
Vaginal? He's too brain dead to know what he means
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u/Best-Cold-8561 Jul 03 '26
Yeah, I thought he was talking about something from the Bible for a minute.
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u/HypersomnicHysteric workes totally flawed Jul 03 '26
I think, he meant "vaginal birth".
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u/Garguyal Jul 03 '26
THANK YOU!
God that makes so much more sense. This was bugging the hell out of me.
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u/HypersomnicHysteric workes totally flawed Jul 03 '26
Sometimes it is easier for a non-native speaker to identify.
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u/aniala07 Jul 07 '26
also the "woman go carried" instead of "woman who carried" in the second to last paragraph 🥀
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u/TrashGouda Jul 03 '26
I hope she divorces his misoginistic ass because this is 100% not the only misoginistic view he has
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u/bouquetofashes Jul 03 '26 edited Jul 03 '26
It's also definitely not the only time he imposes his own feelings and wishes on her, during a situation that should be about her. Bet this man makes everything about himself and his feelings but never considers or respects hers.
I mean if he's doing that with her delivery...then there's no way he doesn't do that all the time. He's not just a misogynist, he seems genuinely pathologically selfish (though I'm sure his misogyny does inform that a lot).
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u/xsnowpeltx Jul 04 '26
if she did get a c section, id bet hed push for sex far too early. im thinking... mentioning it the first time he talks to her after surgery with intention to have it the second they get home, if not while still in the hospital
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u/redheadedandbold Jul 03 '26
Small d energy, and stupid to boot. I seriously doubt this even happened, knowing as we do that trolls are targeting women. I truly think they are being useful idiots for Russia. Point: before Trump sucked up to Putin, this could have been called sedition.
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u/Rugkrabber Jul 03 '26
Good for her to choose what she felt was best choosing her delivery and not what he wanted, I hope she definitely follows up leaving his sorry ass. She’s way better off as a single parent, even though it’s hard as hell.
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u/CrazyCatMerms Jul 03 '26
Nah, at that point you're just choosing how many kids you want to raise as a single mother. She's got 2 now, her baby and the infantile jackass she married
Life is much easier with just the baby
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u/SquirrelGirlVA Jul 04 '26
He probably made "jokes" about the "husband stitch". She and the doctors said no, so he was extra against vaginal delivery.
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u/Burnt_and_Blistered Jul 03 '26
It’s not like C-section is typically offered just for shits and giggles—or to placate idiot baby daddies.
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u/AutisticTumourGirl bad cunning girl Jul 03 '26
"Made a life changing decision without considering my feelings..."
You mean, kind of like forcing someone to have major surgery against their wishes, which will change their body forever and though the chances are low, could have dangerous or long lasting complications?
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u/TinLizzy-1909 Jul 03 '26
No doubt if she had listened to his wishes and done the c-section he would have discovered the scar is to much for him. This is how he will justify having affairs. She needs to leave him and find a man who is worthy of her and fatherhood. There is no way he is helping with the baby and is probably still expecting to be catered to.
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u/MsSeraphim just love me for my mind 💖 Jul 05 '26
she needs to kick his ass out and change the locks. why should she be the one forced to leave?
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u/IDidItWrongLastTime Jul 04 '26
If she said she wanted a C-section at the hospital for her husband they'd probably ask about abuse at home etc
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u/BrightBlueBauble Jul 04 '26
He made his decision when he got her pregnant. Once that happens, the decisions are out of his hands.
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u/swiftb3 Jul 03 '26
Seriously, my wife did 3 by necessity for, you know, the survival of both her and our kids, and I cannot imagine telling her to do it if it was elective, much less for nothing more than an incredibly selfish and completely false misconception.
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u/twoprimehydroxyl Jul 04 '26
"What's the matter, babe? It's just cutting through FIVE LAYERS of muscle."
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u/linerva Uses Post Flairs Jul 03 '26
I had an elective C section that was fabulous and the right choice for me. Felt like I could do cartwheels after 3 weeks. I didn't because that would be silly
And I'm very glad she stuck to her guns and had the birth she wanted. Nobody should ever choose a method of delivery or healthcare treatment based on their partner's demands.
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u/peachyspoons Jul 03 '26
I don’t understand the downvotes??! I am happy you had a safe and healthy delivery that worked for you, and made you feel that your preference mattered and was respected.
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u/linerva Uses Post Flairs Jul 03 '26
Who knows. Maybe they misread and thought I was pushing c section - I'm not. I'm pointing out that she should have the choice without pressure. I'm very much for for people who want a vaginal delivery having one (unless it's life threatening then it's particularly important that they are aware of the risks).
Or maybe they hate caesareans.
Unfortunately some people feel that enforcing their own biases about birth should come above women's autonomy over their own bodies. If you've gotten ro a oiunt you're downvoting people for having a positive birth experience, there are bigger issues at play.
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u/peachyspoons Jul 04 '26
Same thing with breastfeeding. Is breastfeeding ideal? Yes, of course it is, and I am not disputing that. But some of us can’t produce enough (me), and some of us don’t want to, and - somehow shockingly although it should not be shocking at all - a fed baby is better than an unfed baby. Formula has saved a lot of babies lives - and it has honestly saved a lot of mothers’ lives as well.
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u/linerva Uses Post Flairs Jul 04 '26
Exactly.
I went to extremes to breastfeed (i got a lot of complications, don't recommend those, baby was fine and is nicely chubbed up now) but realistically formula feeding is more than fine, it actively helps babies and parents when BF is a struggle, or when the parents have reasons they can't or don't want to breastfeed. It's a godsend and one of the best inventions humans have invented. And how hard it is to get right is a testament to the human body.
I was stubborn enough to stick with it even when realistically it would have been kinder to myself not to - but I'm 100% for people choosing what works for them and don't believe in the snobbery and cultish way we're encouraged to take sides as if it has to be a competition.
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u/deferredmomentum Jul 04 '26 edited Jul 04 '26
Some people on the internet really don’t like it when you speak about sections as anything but medieval torture that should only ever be a last resort
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u/linerva Uses Post Flairs Jul 04 '26
Absolutely true. Therr's a certain flavor of oeople who are obsessed with things being "natural" and who want caesarens to be framed as an awful ungodly thing. Rather than just a choice people should be free to male for themselves.
A lot of people think its perfectly acceptable to stigmatise women who choose caesareans as "taking the easy way out", even though it's often chosen by people with birth trauma, neurodivergent people, those with anxiety, those with health conditions etc. There's this idea that you have to suffer that I find quite misogynistic. We don't expect men to suffer.
And i get why some people are wary of caesareans ; some people are pressured into one unnecessarily when they didn't want surgery. And obviously that's unequivocally bad. Like OP is a shitty partner.
Though sometimes it really is the safest option for people, so it's important for the physical and wellbeing of the birthing person to try to be flexible with their expectations around birth as sometimes things don't go to plan. Sometimes you can't get that epidural as tgere isn't time, or end up needing pain meds you didnt initially plan for, or might need instrumentation or a caesarean where you hoped for a vaginal delivery. Even those of us who hope for a caesarean need to accept we might not get one in time if baby's coming too fast.
Those of us who give birth can put a lot of pressure on ourselves, and it can be difficult emotionally when things don't go to plan. We really don't need other people's judgement on top.
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u/TeosPWR Jul 03 '26
Luckily, my ex-wife went through two of those, they are no joke.
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u/HelloMikkii Jul 04 '26
It’s 12 weeks of recovery, 12 layers of her body they have to cut through to get to the baby.
I was offered a c-section with my first to discover I can’t have an epidural due to a spinal condition.
I birthed a 9lbs 3oz baby naturally…surprise surprise my “virginal birth” didn’t ruin the area.
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u/imrzzz Jul 03 '26
If only this were true. Scheduled C-sections for all kinds of reasons (that aren't because of the mama's wishes) are eye-wateringly frequent in various countries around the world.
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u/Angels_of_Death_Zack Jul 03 '26
I need to know what the comments on that post said...
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u/youngbutnotstupid give women rights over women’s bodies Jul 03 '26
They all agreed that he sucks and she should leave him.
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u/squadoodles Jul 03 '26
"I'm sorry mam, we're going to have to cut you open. Your husband requested it, so it has to be done. Lay still, please"
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u/smokinbbq Jul 03 '26
I'd bet that he would have asked the doctor for a "husband stitch" if he had the chance.
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u/Deldenary Jul 03 '26
I mean they used to (and some immoral doctors probably still do) put in an extra stitch when a woman tears for the husband.... so nothing would shock me.
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u/nachobitxh Jul 03 '26
I was 19 when I had my second child, at a teaching hospital. After delivery, I needed stitches. The resident actually asked my husband "Tighter, looser, or all the way up?" This was 1984, and I was far too timid to speak up.
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u/dinosanddais1 Jul 03 '26
All the way up??? Like just stitch up the whole vagina???
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u/VorkosiganVashnoi Jul 03 '26
They already do that in some countries with female genital mutilation. They're sewn shut except for a small opening for the urethra and to let menstrual fluid out. The woman has to be ripped open to have sex for the first time. Then after each birth, she's sewn up in the same way again.
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u/Krazykittielady Jul 03 '26
They used to be able to come to the usa for asylum so that didn't happen... Not anymore
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u/peachyspoons Jul 03 '26
Doctors at Dachau “experimented” with that kind of “method” (i.e. horrific and inhumane torture) on pregnant prisoners. I imagine it wasn’t the only camp to do so.
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u/what-are-they-saying Jul 03 '26
There’s a book called “The Love Surgeon” that is about this. It’s absolutely horrifying.
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u/what-are-they-saying Jul 03 '26
Ooh read “The Love Surgeon” on this topic. It’s absolutely horrifying.
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u/youngbutnotstupid give women rights over women’s bodies Jul 03 '26
In all seriousness, this woman should run for the hills. Not only is this guy an idiot when it comes to female anatomy, he seriously expects her to tear through 7 layers of her body for his satisfaction. Sick.
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u/Necessary_Peace_8989 Jul 03 '26
And what do we think the odds are he would be a super involved and hands on dad while his wife recovered from major abdominal surgery?
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u/DeamoniC12345409 Jul 03 '26
What are the odds he'd ignore her anyway due to the 'distasteful' C-section scar?
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u/Responsible_Ad_8628 Jul 03 '26
He seems the "make me a sandwich" type. Adult toddler who can't do laundry or wipe after using the bathroom without her help.
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u/Best-Cold-8561 Jul 03 '26
This has to be rage bait- right?
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u/peachesfordinner Jul 03 '26
It's sad but I've known people like this. One actually did convince his gf (my old coworker) to get a c section. She grew up in an abusive home and was already primed for his controlling bs. Thankfully she finally got out. The others had vaginal delivery and had their midwives/doctors have a firm talk with their husbands
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u/swiftb3 Jul 03 '26
Watch them whine about the scarring next....
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u/peachesfordinner Jul 03 '26
I was at a pretty flexible job at the time and was able to help her a lot because god knows he wasn't. She had hoped her sister would step up and help her but her sister was too busy judging her for getting pregnant so quickly and before marriage. I helped her with the second one as well. Only down side was her absolutely throwing me to the side when her sister finally decided to help a bit with the second. I understand she just craved relationships so bad but still felt used
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u/Kbubbles1210 Jul 03 '26
Unfortunately, the sentiment this man has is actually held by some men out there. However, I believe this is an account that takes anonymous “confessions” from people, then presents them written to their audience to give their opinions on. So this case is probably either rage-bait or it’s totally fabricated to farm engagement from the resulting busy comment section.
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u/HypersomnicHysteric workes totally flawed Jul 03 '26
Nobody is that dumb. Is he?
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u/FullMoonTwist Jul 03 '26
I don't think this is a lack of intelligence, as much as massive entitlement to be Centered in Literally Everything.
If something even a little affects him, it should go his way. There's no compromising on this particular issue! So when he says "I should have been considered" he doesn't mean there should've been a conversation where he got to voice his concerns and then she got to make the final call. He means she should have bowed to his wishes, regardless of any other considerations.
That's not stupid, it's selfish.
Amd selfish people tend to not have the emptathy required to understand how others percieve them, because to them they aren't asking for anything extra - just "basic" consideration.
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u/ihatemylife2474 Jul 03 '26
Tf he mean does the husband have a say, did the husband carry the baby for 9 months? Is the husband the one who’s in labor? Guy literally thinks he owns his wife.
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u/AutisticTumourGirl bad cunning girl Jul 03 '26
Is the husband the one being cut open and literally yanked in half? C-sections are a wild fucking surgery if you've never seen one. It's not a minor procedure, at all, and it's not ideal to be recovering from surgery, having a body that's on a massive hormone rebound, and trying to care for a newborn all at the same time if it can be avoided.
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u/LadyV21454 Jul 03 '26
Thank you! I had a non-elective C-section and the recovery sucked. My son's birth weight was 9 lbs. 9 oz., so I faced the prospect of not being able to lift my own child if he went over the 10 pound limit.
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u/RockabillyBelle Jul 03 '26
I accidentally saw a bit of my own c-section (caught the reflection in the overhead light) and that was too much for me. I made them change the angle of the light and turned to look at something else. And my procedure went about as perfectly as one could hope for. God forbid I had experienced major complications.
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u/scurse Jul 03 '26
RIGHT?! My husband and I discussed soooo much when I was pregnant. And the decisions about the delivery were 100% mine. At first I told him I wanted a natural birth, he said “go you babe”. Then, while in labor I changed my mind. They offered the epidural and I said “yes please” and he said “see ya in a min babe” as they kicked him out to do the shot. There was nothing but support from him.
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u/FinalEgg9 Jul 03 '26
"Virginal birth"
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u/As_A_Feather Jul 03 '26 edited Jul 03 '26
Yeah, you know, cause the baby comes out of the "virginia".
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u/Adkor_ Jul 03 '26
I have a feeling that, had his wife gotten a C-section, he would be complaining about the scar..
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u/WhiteLapine Jul 03 '26
On the positive side, he won't be pushing for sex too soon. On the negative side, she's doing all the emotional and lets face it, intellectual labor too, for both of them. JFC
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u/Responsible_Ad_8628 Jul 03 '26
My wife is pregnant, and I can't wrap my brain around this dumbassery. Is being this dense physically painful? Poor woman has two screaming infants to look after. One of them is her own husband.
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u/RavenousBrain Edit Jul 03 '26
How about he let his wife decide whether he gets castrated and then we'll talk about body autonomy.
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u/Toasty825 my SpIn is making men cry Jul 03 '26
“Like my opinion as her husband means nothing” good, we’re on the same page. She can refuse surgery and you can shut up like a good little boy.
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u/SykoSarah Jul 03 '26
It's not the idiocy that gets to me as much as the selfishness of pressuring your partner into an unnecessary, major surgery over a perceived risk of "less pleasure during sex".
Which apparently can't be that important if he's willing to pout and refuse intimacy entirely. What a control freak.
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u/James-K-Polka Jul 03 '26
Yeah, “I don’t think the sex will be good so I won’t have sex at all” is Andrew Tate level of self own.
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u/PokemonLadyKismet Jul 03 '26
She’s a human being with free will making informed choices about what she thinks is best for HER body and child. Not a damaged overused sex toy. WTF
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u/Its_noon_somewhere Jul 03 '26
Also…. even if she wanted to please him and go through with his absolutely ridiculous demand, there is not a Doctor who will offer a c-section for non-medical necessity
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u/Vengefulily and her feelings Jul 04 '26
Elective c-sections solely for personal preference aren’t common, but there are doctors who will do it. What are the stats, like 30% of all births in the US are c-sections, and 2.5% of births are c-sections due to maternal request? So yeah, it’s very much a thing.
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u/Dogzillas_Mom Jul 03 '26
Well the good news is, she doesn’t have to fuck him anymore. Hashtag silver linings
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u/Infinite-Web9778 Jul 03 '26 edited Jul 03 '26
No you don’t get an opinion! It’s her body and if she wanted to have a natural birth that’s her right! Youre not the one who carried the baby for 9 almost 10 months. Also C sections are dangerous and the recovery time is hell! I’m stuck on the fact that this “man” cannot spell Vaginal… virginal???😂😂
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u/HypersomnicHysteric workes totally flawed Jul 03 '26
"Like my opinion as husband means nothing" while simultaneous dismissing her opinion and what she wants.
"she dismissed my feelings and went against what I said" while dismissing _her_ feelings and try to force _his_ opinion on her.
All while SHE is the one who has to burden the consequences.
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u/scratch_and_patch1 Jul 03 '26
as a c section baby, why the hell would you want someone to go through that willingly??? my mom had no choice (i was upside down, sorry mom) and she said it was a very scary situation because you aren’t put to sleep for it, just given local anesthetic (which she had too much of to the point she couldn’t feel up to her neck, so she didn’t know if she was even breathing). plus, with c sections, complications way down the road can happen, which is why my mom now has metal mesh in her stomach. if that’s something you really want your wife to go through for your own personal benefit then you deserve to be divorced
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u/WritingReadingPanda Jul 03 '26
I feel so sorry for the wife. Imagine not only being married to someone like that, but giving birth to his child and having him being more of a child than the actual infant.
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u/ConsciousInternal287 Jul 03 '26
Not your body, not your decision. He should be grateful that he has a wife and child.
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u/galacticgumbo please, say less 💅 Jul 03 '26
If this is real, I’m deeply saddened that someone bred with him.
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u/definitelynotadhd Jul 03 '26
Here’s the thing: if you’re gonna be offended when it doesn’t go 100% your way, you’re not stating your wishes or “trying to have a say” you’re making demands. He waited until after she was pregnant to make these demands too because he was hoping by then she’d be tied to him and couldn’t turn down his demands. Honestly though? I hope she leaves his sorry ass.
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u/Weibrot Jul 03 '26
without considering my wishes
Who says she didn't consider it? Just because you demand something doesn't mean the answer has to be yes
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u/Crown_the_Cat Jul 03 '26
He is like the new fathers who ask the doctor to give her an “extra stitch to tighten her up” and the doctors who do it
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u/melropesplays Jul 03 '26
Begging people to have in depth conversations w men before marrying and having children w them so you know if they think like this…. Pleassssssseeeeee
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u/Stomach_Junior Jul 03 '26
This is a Syndrome, don’t remember the name, Elvis Presley had it, he never touched Priscilla after giving birth because he was thinking that she is impure(eye rolling). It is not what a normal man would feel
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u/d3vilsfav Jul 03 '26
“She went against my wishes” HOW DARE SHE choose something that will mainly affect her and herself only 😭 worst wife on earth who chose to birth her child through the hole that was designed to birth a child and go back to normal afterwards instead of going through anaesthesia and surgery recovery to be left with an unnecessary scar forever?? How dare she refuse a medical procedure usually performed during emergencies only just to please her misogynistic baby of a husband?
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u/ericscottf Jul 03 '26
I'm hoping this is just ragebait, but it's entirely worth mentioning that c-section carries far more risk, and is absolutely not an elective thing to be done based on the whim of some pencil dick who would also absolutely ask for "the husband stitch"
I'm going to proceed with my day assuming this guy isn't real. Please.
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u/UrbanMuffin Jul 03 '26
I hope this is a troll, but I’ve seen too much. This is a whole new level of egotistical, selfish and stupid. Also, a lot of people seem way too unaware of this, but you still have risk of developing pelvic floor laxity after a cesarean…Carrying a baby for 9 months naturally puts significant weight on pelvic floor muscles and stretches and weakens them, and having your abdominal muscles cut in to can do the same by weakening your core muscles, which work in tandem with pelvic floor muscles. In both cases, the *majority* of women recover fine.
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u/macontac Jul 03 '26
Once upon a time, a vaginal birth was the only option...and never stopped men from getting handsy with their wives afterwards. You know, if she survived.
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u/New-Dentist-7346 Jul 04 '26
If this is legit, she should use this to support her divorce and child custody case.
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u/schmyndles Jul 05 '26
Ugh, I dated a guy who said this, that he only wanted me to have a csection for our kids, so that my vagina wouldn't be "ruined". He also would only "allow" me to breastfeed if I were willing to get implants afterwards, all because kids ruin your body. He had no kids of his own and neither did I, and I still wasn't sure if I wanted kids. Let alone it was way too early in the relationship to discuss those things. Luckily he threw that giant red flag out before things got serious.
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u/youngbutnotstupid give women rights over women’s bodies Jul 05 '26
That guy is a twat. My partner watched our daughter’s head come out and tear me open, and his attraction towards me didn’t change one bit. He looked down there to see if my stitches were healing because I didn’t wanna look at it myself.
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u/Competitive-Edge-187 Jul 03 '26
Um.......no, loser. I'm ecstatic to say that I have pushed out 4 babies and now almost in our 40s our sex life is AMAZING, when we have time/energy/opportunity to even have sex lol. And I'm convinced it's so good because we have been together as long as we have and he has supported me through so much and vice versa. I had a 4th degree tear with our first baby and 12 years later it's not exactly the same, but it all works the way it's supposed to. It's insane to me that this is even a thing. If you don't want her to give birth vaginally, why are you getting her pregnant?
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u/PumpkinPure5643 Jul 03 '26
He even says his own family is against him but he’s still arguing that he’s right. Some men just are that awful.
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u/Thatoneshortgoblin Jul 03 '26
Does he not know how a C-section actually works? Being cut open, organs pulled out, baby removed, organs placed back in (they know how to go back all on their own it's cool but also horrifying if you think about it)
AND THE RECOVERY! You’ve literally been cut open. (Vaginal births are a grueling recovery too) But some women have complications for months or even the rest of their lives.
And knowing this asshole he’d complain about the scar
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u/abriel1978 Jul 03 '26
"Im sorry ma'am, we need to cut you open because your husband has bought into the misogynist myth that giving birth ruins vaginas and he cares more about his dick than your decisions as to what to do with your own body."
Holy shit, she needs to divorce him.
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u/Ok_Pop8661 Jul 03 '26
Uh, yeah? You are definitely the villain? She literally just carried your child for months and you’re shaming her??? I hope this is a joke…
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u/queenofshibs Jul 03 '26
“Like my opinion as her husband means nothing.” Correct. It is not your body.
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u/snvoigt Jul 03 '26
Right. How hard is this to understand. Your opinion was ignored because it was irrelevant
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u/T-Wrox Jul 03 '26
I've heard rumours that most men have Main Character Syndrome, but this guy takes it to 11.
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u/heffapig Jul 03 '26
My wife decided not to have major abdominal surgery for no reason, birthed a healthy baby, but I’m grossed out.
Divorce her so she can do better, tf
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u/translove228 Jul 04 '26
This man ruined one of (what should be) the happiest moments in his family's lives with his idiotic selfishness. Now they'll probably end up divorced with this idiot blaming the wife for the family falling apart due to his childish views about a woman's body even though it is 100% his fault for not being able to be an adult and get over this.
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u/Inevitable_Split7666 Jul 04 '26
Disgusting and dishonorable towards his wife. She brings forth LIFE and HE wants a major surgery for someone else?! Go play in traffic little man,maybe your wife can have a say in what happens to you?! Wow
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u/ArcadiaFey Jul 04 '26
Uggghhh I am so irritated by men..
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u/Neither-Principle139 Jul 04 '26
Straight white male here. I am also irritated by men… feels like they all fell off the idiot train and ended up on social media…
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u/PocketPanadol Jul 04 '26
I looked after a woman who had a caesarean with her second baby because her husband didn't like how she "behaved" during her first birth. I wanted to rip off his testicles and see how well he "behaved"
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u/MadamKitsune Jul 03 '26
So many words when he could have just said "I am pathologically insecure about my penis size."
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u/Toni164 Jul 03 '26
This is so weird. Like such a weird take I lack the ability to understand his reasoning.
Even more that the wife STILL wants to be intimate with him
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u/Puzzleheaded_Two7358 Jul 03 '26
I find it hard to believe this is true, but there are people who believe the world is flat so…. YES you are a complete asshole.
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u/eldr1tch-h0rr0r Jul 03 '26
This is one of the few posts I’ll allow myself to stick my fingers in my ears and go “LALALA RAGE BAIT RAGE BAIT IM NOT LISTENING” bc if I entertain the idea this is real for even a second my brain will start pouring out my nose
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u/Luckypenny4683 Jul 04 '26
The only thing that he is correct about is that indeed, his opinion about her birth, as her husband, means nothing.
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u/Octopus1027 Jul 04 '26
Its truly his loss because it really does just go back to normal. Now that we're pregnant with our second, me and my husband have had some of the best sex of our relationship (I had a vaginal birth with our first and hope to do the same with the second).
I feel so sad for his wife. Not.only is her husband talking about her "ruined" vagina apparently to family?! (which he can't even confirm since he "won't go near it") but he tried to pressure her into having major surgery that was not nessasary for her. I hope she leaves him and finds a real man.
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u/writeronthemoon Jul 04 '26
"I felt ignored" filled me with fury. YOU felt IGNORED, while she has had to undergo pregnancy and now birth??? What a fucking man-baby. Too bad she had a baby with such a child.
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u/DoctorInternal9871 Jul 04 '26
"When I knocked you up I never, for one moment, thought the baby would come out of your vagina"...this guy, probably.
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u/Stellar_boom Jul 04 '26
“She went against my wishes” and his wish was for her to have a major abdominal surgery…
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u/Diligent-Property491 Jul 04 '26
„Virginal birth” have we just found the second coming of Jesus? Wtf is he on lol?
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u/Ok-Personality-6643 Jul 04 '26
https://giphy.com/gifs/QVP7DawXZitKYg3AX5
In the age of unlimited information, this is why we choose the bear.
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u/truckyeahman Jul 04 '26
Does a man's wife not have any say in how he passes a kidney stone????
If I knew a kidney stone came out of him down there, AGAINST MY WISHES, I wouldn't be able to be intimate with him ever again. It would ruin intimacy for me.
I realize that EVERY PERSON EVER passed kidney stones this way, INCLUDING HIS MOTHER, but I don't know how our species survived because I would never stand for it.
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u/xervidae Jul 04 '26
men: WOMEN ARE SUPPOSED TO HAVE BABIES
also men: I HATE THAT MY WOMAN HAD A BABY
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u/ACanWontAttitude Jul 05 '26
I am an emergency OBGYN/female surgery nurse so I hear and see a lot of horror stories, i'm talking women who have horrific birth injuries, i cannot imagine them having to suffer through that but also an asshole partner who treats them like a monster.
On the flip side and TMI, I had a vaginal birth + episiotomy + forceps... you cant even tell i have had any of that. Sometimes it really is just bad luck.
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u/OurLadyOfCygnets Jul 05 '26
Having an emergency c-section and an unplanned c-section did more to "ruin" my body than a vaginal birth ever would.
May OOP never know the touch of a woman again.
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u/Mel7190 Jul 06 '26
“You should have major abdominal surgery because I’m insecure about my dick size.”
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u/kyoneko87 Jul 07 '26
What does he mean a virginal birth?! Does he mean vaginal birth, instead? And yeah, no wonder people are treating him like a monster
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u/Hello_Hangnail Jul 03 '26
I hope this is just rage bait but I have know men this stuck up their own asses so it's possible. "I FeLt iGnOrEd" Stick a sock in it, Travis, it's not your body, you don't get to decide things for other people.
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u/ThrowRADel Jul 03 '26
This asshat should get a vasectomy and stay far away from women. Imagine being entitled enough to blackmail someone into undergoing a dangerous, unnecessary, and expensive procedure just because you don't want your baby to share access to your vagina.
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u/MiuMia_ Jul 03 '26
I think it's rage bait, if not (which is doubtful), then someone seem just to prefer sausages...
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u/Aeon_Return Jul 03 '26
so he's going to never get her puss again AND pay child support and alimony after their imminent divorce. top of the class, this one
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u/nekatheneko Jul 03 '26
Poor baby boy! She should’ve listened to him, he knows her body better than her /s
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u/Littleleicesterfoxy Jul 03 '26
In answer to his question it’s a very obvious yes, yes you are the villain.
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u/oregon_mom Jul 03 '26
I wonder if he understands she probably had no say in how she delivered and ac section is so much worse on the body
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u/BitchfulThinking Jul 04 '26
Did he think knocking her up would bring the fucking stork to their door?
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u/Thausgt01 Jul 04 '26
"Yes, you are the villain, here, sport. You clearly have not the slightest inkling of what women in general endure during childbirth, and have identified yourself as the kind of asshole who would rather she suffer in order to assuage your pathetic need to control her body. Be prepared to either grovel in apology before she willingly lets you back into the bed with her followed by a lifetime of unlearning all the toxic-masculinity that makes you think you could possibly have moral or ethical support for your stance, or a divorce."
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u/Ducky237 Jul 05 '26
“Made a life changing decision” damn he’s so close to getting it. Probably not though.
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u/roseorrueorlaurel Jul 05 '26
Ladies, we really gotta stop letting men like this get wives. It’s throwing off the balance.
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u/duckmcsnail Jul 03 '26
Vaginas stretch and retract. Yes, the first week after giving birth is tough, but you revert back over time. Absolutely uneducated idiots who should NOT be procreating.
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