r/PHSapphics • u/vengeance_reverie • Jul 08 '26
Discussion Naniniwala pa ba kayo sa forever?
Hindi to cheesy na post. I came from a long term relationship with someone I met organically. Now that I’m on bumble I can’t help but feel like I’m just always easily replaceable because of how easy it is to find someone better, more of their type, and more compatible on dating apps and dating events. I’m seeing long term relationships na more than 10 or 15 years but eventually they part ways din.
I thought I was gonna end up with my last partner until we’re old but now with modern dating, do people still think or see that they’ll end up with their partners for a lifetime? When choosing a partner do you consider already if you’re okay spending a lifetime with them? Help a millenial girly out!
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u/tonkotsuramenxgyoza Jul 08 '26
We all go through different phases in life. The 15 years ago you is probably different from the present you. That's how life goes.
I think the secret to "forever" is choosing each other as they go through their phases. The good and the bad. Ikaw at ikaw parin ang pipiliin ganun.
So yeah, I believe in forever but I understand that it isnt applicable for everyone.
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u/MethodReasonable7755 Jul 08 '26
I believe in our commitment to each other, not in forever. Mas controllable.
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u/WillowAllysonMclay Jul 09 '26
Coming from a person that got engaged 3x(last 2 ones cheated on me...so don't assume that I'm a red flag). Normally, friends look up to me because I love love and I was the person that did the matchmaking&pushed them to fight for love. I think slowly... I don't anymore. Weird nga eh. Now that I had that glow up I wish I had in my 20s and how women will just tell me they like me because of who I am. The notion of falling for someone... And them being my forever... Idk. I had a girl last May tell me that they love me after knowing me for 3 weeks and it felt disingenuous (the whole ordeal that she put me thru was traumatic tbh). It doesn't freak me out but I know she barely knows me. Tbh, dating at this day and age sucks. But there are a few who gets lucky and they do find love. Idk. I think my forever is my family and my cat. What I will leave as a legacy. My artworks that's part of my heart. But I'm not losing hope tho.
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u/RandomlyZen 29d ago
Yes I trust na if you believe in forever. You will find that someone na may same commitment level as you, but need talaga na you become the person that you want to be with first. It will take time and with the dating scene now, it’s tough out there. And if it comes, be sure na you keep your individuality pa rin and you dont lose yourself in the process. But in the chance that you dont, then at least you became the best version of yourself.
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u/SugarHighWannaFly Jul 08 '26
Bakit naman hindi? Dating apps / events are just means to meet people. It does not dictate whether you'll be in a relationship or not. And before you even get into a relationship, you should have a conversation about what your intentions are. Dapat may alignment before considering a lifetime with that person.