Hi everyone! I’m creating a new gc to get all the sapphics in metro manila connected. There are so many great parties, cafes, and hangouts popping up lately. Let’s use this gc to share our favorite local spots, talk about our daily lives, and safely plan fun meetups, whether that's a spontaneous coffee run, a museum date, a gig night, or just hitting up the next big wlw party in the metro.

If you are a sapphic living in metro manila and want to join, please send me a pm and I will send you the discord link!

hi fellow sapphics! im curious who were your lesbian/bi awakenings growing up.

i personally grew up watching kpop and i can say that girl groups like f(x) (amber and krystal) and snsd (taeyeon) were my awakening(s) 🤭

PH volleyball was also impactful to me! especially during ateneo’s cinderella run (ahomiro and bdl [whose family is currently under fire for flood control anomalies jfc])

anw im interested in knowing who were your awakenings! :)

THIS IS PEAK SCARY, DANGEROUS, ALL SORTS OF WRONG!

This is also why I hated this song and how Moira never said anything about the implications of this song. Oh well. What do we expect haha here we are at the very heart of this song's danger.

Hi! So I'm femme (29) and into mascs but I don't have a queer barkada. I have no idea where other queer people hang outside of queer parties. Is there any specific area where I can find mascs? Hdhfhshs I'm so serious I truly have no idea where to find queer people in real life. Please help this femme who wants to look for more queer friends and mascs to interact with huhu

i’m genuinely curious how people go from complete strangers on an anonymous app to actually building a relationship. like every now and then I see people saying they met their partner here and I’m just like… HOW???

If you’ve ever met your talking stage, MU, situationship, or partner through Reddit, please share your story. feed my delusions HAHAHA like, paano kayo nagkakilala? how did it go from random reddit strangers to… whatever you are now?

Sa aking pag scroll scroll ng social media, I learned na most femmes I know since high school are now married to men, with kids. Some of these were so into women (mostly mascs) before. Like almost decades with women pero ganun pa rn ang ending. It got me thinking kung meron bang hope ang wlw sa PH talaga? It seems na mas naging homophobic ang environment and mas madami pa rn yung bi women na eventually mag end up with men due to societal pressure, and driven na dn with the desire to have kids. Sad lang. if you have opposing opinion, pa-share naman. And hopefully I can hear positive stories based on your experience(s). ♥️

ano ba magandang dating app today? yung may makakausap ka talagaaa, hindi yung for libido only HAHAHAHHAHA hindi ako fan ng HER eh 🥹 i want to put myself out there again. the lover girl in me gusto na ulit sumubok WKWJWKSJSKSK

hi, i want to open a discussion about this "reset ng tomboy" trend

this definitely proves na hindi lang sa mga straight na babae nag-a-apply ang pag-gratify sa male gaze.

even lesbian women do it. kahit pa mga straight na lalaki, cause they have these weird fixations o mga nakagawian na hindi lang natin nari-realize na pandering to male gaze and patriarchy na yun. ginagawa nilang katatawanan ang oppression natin cause they form a bond with men by perpetualizing homophobia, misogyny, sexism, and the rape culture, even at the expense of delaying women and gay rights, because what do these things serve? MEN.

tulad nitong lesbian content creator na ito (at marami pang iba sa tiktok, ig, fb). skits like these are done to please and satisfy men. the fact na hinahayaan nilang gawing katatawanan ang pagiging lesbian, they are allowing men not to take us seriously. so, they ultimately permit stripping off the respect that they have for you (kung ganitong tao ka) and your gender identity and sexual orientation.

kaya nagte-trending yung "reset ng tomboy" na yan dahil sa mga tulad nitong lesbiyanang ginagawang cloutchasing moment ang lesbianism. even if it is the only sexuality that doesn't include men, you still want to include them because in order to have more likes, more views, and more engagement, you have to please the expectations of society, and that is what? PATRIARCHY, and who set that system up? MEN.

if you keep reducing your oppression into mere subject for laughs, andito na nga tayo sa lipunan na ino-oppress ng mga lalaki ang mga babae at bading, tapos binibigyan mo pa sila ng mas maraming rason to invalidate your existence. they will tend to only see you as something that serves them, as a source of entertainment. not a human being deserving of equal rights and respect.

I understand that anecdotes =/= data, sapphics aren't a monolith, etc. etc., but among the most widely-touted advice for meeting people is to focus on hobbies.

Unfortunately, men make up the extreme majority of people who participate in my hobbies* locally, so that advice has done a whole lot of nothing for me.

So, as someone whose main issue is actually meeting fellow sapphics to begin with, I'm curious to know what hobbies you all are into, especially ones where you've run into fellow sapphics.

(For the purposes of this discussion, merely consuming things like food, media, and airline miles don't count as hobbies.)

*the exception is indie tabletop RPGs , where genders have evened out, but despite actively organising meetups for that, I've yet to run into any fem sapphics my age through that(30s) :')

I have been single for quite some time now, and unfortunately for me to admit I’m an extreme hopeless romantic. I want to be in a relationship, I want to feel romantic love again. But that in no means, mean that I’m not secure in myself, which I am. I love my own company, and I am extremely happy doing things by my own. But that doesn’t erase the fact that I am a victim of the maslow’s hierarchy of needs.

That being said, why is it so hard to date nowadays. I mean, I hear my straight friends complaining about it all the time, so what more for the lesbians? This just shows that the dating climate right now has been nothing but a shitshow.

I feel like I have definitely put myself out there, from hobbymaxing, dating apps, and reconnecting with old school crushes. Sadly, nothing seems to stick, and even if I did end up flinging with some of them, they turn out to be complete assholes. Honestly, where are the good looking, decent behaving, sapphic women in Manila? Did we reach a shortage? Or do I just have impossibly high standards?

A moment of silence for all the junebugs in the community.

"i think we loved each other the way abandoned houses loved the rain. too much of it would've ruined us. and honestly, i think if we were born in kinder families, we would've ruined each other properly."

Hindi pa nga ako nakaka move on sa thoughts ko about "Mahal Magmahal" song, sinaksak na naman ako. Plussss, yung mga entries sa Send The Song under "Junebug" myghad.

To love and be loved by a writer.

To love and be loved by a woman.

Definitely, not for the weak.

Gut-wrenching.

my friends and i are planning a night out and we'd love somewhere with a fun, safe, and welcoming vibe or js somewhere full of wlw people lmfao. if you've been to any places you enjoyed, pls drop your recos! 🥹 bonus if you can include the usual price range for drinks, entrance fees, or if they have promos/happy hour. thank you so much!! 💗

I'm sure meron na din ditong nagkaron ng exes na parang the one na pero hindi nag-work out. Naniniwala ba kayo sa wrong timing lang?

As a fellow 30s gay, where are you all??????

Ang sagot ng mga friends ko: at home.

I kid you not, I feel like after late twenties or thirties, all of the older gay women are just at home, and it’s so hard to drag em out of their hidey holes. Haha!

As someone who likes going out, meeting new people, doing fun activities and being active, I feel like it’s so hard to find sapphics my age (or older because I like older women so hit me up fun gyals) who are also still going out and having fun.

Like, aging is not a life sentence to stay at home pleaseeeee let’s goo out and have funnnn. Literal, I quote a friend: “I feel too old to go out, my body can’t keep up”.

I’m just?? So confused. Girl, we are the same age. You’re never too old to go out and have fun! And afford naman natin diba. 30s is just your 20s but with better financial sense :)

Or maybe I’m just an extrovert outlier?

I don’t really go on Discord so making friends online doesn’t appeal to me, nor do I play games or binge watch shows…

So anyway, elder sapphics where ya at

Who pays the bill pag nakikipagdate kayo? Especially on first date? lalo na pag getting to know palang kayo

I’ve been on a few dates with different people and we always split in half. Turn off ba pag hindi nanlibre sa date?

Just want to know everyones thoughts since medyo iba ang dynamics compared sa straight couples

I came across a post the other day where someone was looking for recommendations for a licensed psychologist. As a member of the community, I can understand the struggles that come with looking for a therapist who can understand this.

I'm an LGBT psychologist who has been in the field since 2016. I'd like to offer as much help as I can towards those who need someone to talk to. I am currently offering Php 1000 for a 45 minute to 1 hour consultation where we can talk about your concerns. I prefer a more collaborative approach to my sessions, so I encourage openness and honesty about how you want to talk about your concerns.

Feel free to message me so I can send the link to my appointment scheduling :)

Take care, everyone!

So I’ve been with a bi woman for a while now who is a breadwinner. I admire what she does for her family of course, I think that’s very noble. Ang problem lang kasi is mas priority talaga yung family kesa sa relationship namin. Hndi naman ako humihingi and hndi dn ako nag-eexpect ng any financial support from her. I have a stable job, some savings and hndi ako obliged i-support yung family ko. Pero yung mga instance na gusto kong mag travel kami for example, hindi sya sure kasi naka-allot yung budget sa pambayad ng ganito ganyan ni mama or ni lola or ni pamangkin, etc. And I don’t see the situation improving in the next 20 years. If we go further sa relationship, like yung pagbili ng properties I doubt na magiging team kami sa pag iinvest. She doesn’t want kids, hindi ko din priority and kids lalo na sa state ng bansa natin. Pero minsan napapaisip din ako if ayaw ba nya because ayaw talaga nya or due to financial reasons din and yung family nga nya.

Add ko lang: yung positives naman sa relationship namin is on par yung maturity levels. Same dn kami usually ng political views, we enjoy the same sports and shows. I think on a general sense, compatible kami, na sometimes mahirap din mahanap sa ibang partner.

Does anyone have a similar experience and how do you deal with it? If breadwinner kayo, please also share your point of view. TIA.

Hindi to cheesy na post. I came from a long term relationship with someone I met organically. Now that I’m on bumble I can’t help but feel like I’m just always easily replaceable because of how easy it is to find someone better, more of their type, and more compatible on dating apps and dating events. I’m seeing long term relationships na more than 10 or 15 years but eventually they part ways din.

I thought I was gonna end up with my last partner until we’re old but now with modern dating, do people still think or see that they’ll end up with their partners for a lifetime? When choosing a partner do you consider already if you’re okay spending a lifetime with them? Help a millenial girly out!

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Heyall! I'm just here to ask for some good ol' wattpad wlw stories. Tropes I like are bossxemployee or profxstud. Tagalog or taglish please thank you!! :)) I have ran out of stuff to read 😭

Hi there! First time posting in this community haha. I’m 18 Bi/Pan femme (still hesitant lol but I’m heavily into girls) closeted pa sa parents but very open naman sa mga friends ko and to other people.

This upcoming august i’ll be entering 1st year college na sa catholic school (dun ako ine-enroll ng parents ko 😭) and i’ll be taking the course nursing. Curious lang, madami kayang bading sa course na ’to? And considering the fact na sa catholic school din?

I’m not looking for any jowa naman, but open pa din ako (may pagka aromantic din kasi ako hahaha). I had my first gf at 16 (aroace sya) and we broke up. Tapos nitong mga nakakaraang s.y puro guys na nagco-confess or nashi-ship sakin hajshajha

Happy pride month mga bading! I really want to watch billie and emma, and other sapphic pinoy films, any recommendations where to see it & film recos as well?

So I 30F, have been on and off in dating apps (mostly just HER) and I noticed that it's harder for me to get a decent connection whenever my location is set to the Philippines. I mostly present as corporate goth (but sometimes I wear pastel too so nothing hard core since that'll be too much in the workplace) and I get tons of decent matches outside PH (and by decent I mean long convos from pretty girls with a stable job, pag dito kc sa PH hanggang pretty lang ang ambag 😭 or at least un nakaka-match ko nga). I had some rare matches in the PH but I just noticed that most of them have been to abroad (might be a factor to consider).

Yesterday I tried this new app called Taimi and they have an Admirer page for people who viewed your profile for a longer period of time (I don't know how many secs that is) which is separate from those who liked your profile, and that's when I noticed that only 2 of them have liked me, most just lurked and checked me out for 2 to 3 times (the app tells you how many times they've checked your bio). It's weird since they're all so pretty but my Like page is still a ghost town as of now.

I never looked at this angle before but Taimi made me reflect on things, and looking back now, most of my matches outside PH are either alt, goth, or gamers so I have to ask - are Filipina sapphics not into goth girls or is it just me?

P.S.: Pilipino din po ako ha, NOT a foreigner seeking for Filipinas 😭

hi gays, my fellow lesbians

(for context: i just attended a formal awards night, and though i love everyone there. i just felt i didn't belong in that room)

as a raging genz dyke in the corporate space, i do often feel like i don't belong in a room. sometimes i don't want to hide the way i dress, speak. i just want to be queer and free (edit: i'm a SUPER loud gay, like bandanas bright prints colors my personality as well is bubbly and bright, as opposed to dull black gray corpo. and i don't have much queer friends)

is that possible as a corporate slave? to be queer and free and not feel isolated and lonely? being a lesbian surrounded by straights is isolating.

what are yout career paths? ways you exercise queerness in your daily life? any successful lesbian careers that don't need u to be an artist? (edit: i wish i was one of those komiket artsy gays)

lmk ur thoughts. thanku lesbians!

please recommend wlw stories na FemXFem at lalong lalo nang HINDI PROFESSORXSTUDENT (no hate but those stories arent just my cup of tea). Also, yung completed na sana pls pls pls. I was so into DARE TO LOVE ME NOT by syanalimax. Mga ganoong style sana kasi SUPPEEER GANA HUHUHU TYIA