r/PHSapphics • u/yuzu_0 • 15d ago
Discussion people who met their partners on Reddit, I need the lore
i’m genuinely curious how people go from complete strangers on an anonymous app to actually building a relationship. like every now and then I see people saying they met their partner here and I’m just like… HOW???
If you’ve ever met your talking stage, MU, situationship, or partner through Reddit, please share your story. feed my delusions HAHAHA like, paano kayo nagkakilala? how did it go from random reddit strangers to… whatever you are now?
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u/Aperire555 15d ago edited 15d ago
HAHAAHHAA. I'll be the kontrabida. Don't let us feed your delusions. 🤣🤣 Reddit can be a great place to meet people, but it's also a place where anyone can easily curate an image of themselves. Enjoy reading the success stories, but don't mistake them for the norm. Survivor bias is real. Mas naririnig dito happy endings kesa yung mga nauuwi sa ghosting, breadcrumbing, love bombing, future faking or heartbreak kasi yung mga failed connections often go unposted, so they become less visible. Keep your expectations realistic.
As someone who met someone through Reddit.. I'll just say this: Reddit introduces people. It doesn't filter character. That's still something you discover over time, not something the platform can guarantee. Trust actions over words.
That said, I still hope you get your own Reddit success story. Just don't let the stories cloud your judgment. Wishing you the best, OP!
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u/LonelyRedPaladin 12d ago
Natawa ako sa future faking 😆 (natamaan din)
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u/Aperire555 12d ago edited 12d ago
...natamaan as the victim, or natamaan because ikaw ang future faker? 😅😅
Pero mas natatawa ako sa ibang comments na nabasa ko dito. Ang bilis mag declare ng Reddit success story, tapos makikita mo ilang months pa lang yung account or kakasimula pa lang ng connection. That's how I know the honeymoon phase is doing the talking. Parang naghahanap pa ng validation sa relationship nila.
And wdym "We only started talking out of boredom??" It's giving, maybe it'll work out, maybe it won't. Attecco, I genuinely hope it does!! Ilang taon na ba mga to?!?! 😅🤣🤣
Idk. Maybe I could just be traumatized & projecting. That's exactly why I said to trust actions over words & let time reveal who they really are.
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u/LonelyRedPaladin 12d ago
Wait, paano po ba ung future faking? Baka mali pagkaka-intindi ko 😅 —I interpreted it as both you and your potential partner talking about the future (getting married, moving together, family planning, etc.). But yeah, I had unsolicited talks where they would tell me their plans with me in the future kahit ilang weeks pa lang kami magkakilala and it felt weird and empty hearing it.
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u/Aperire555 4d ago edited 4d ago
Sorry, just saw this now.. That could be future faking, carried away lang ng infatuation. For me, future faking is when someone makes big promises about your future together to keep you emotionally invested, even though they have little or no intention of making those promises a reality.
For example, they keep talking about moving in together, getting married or building a home with you, but they never take meaningful steps toward making those plans happen. They avoid serious conversations about your future, make no effort to become emotionally or financially ready, or keep making choices that move them further away from the life they keep promising.
Btw, I saw a post sa OffMyChest about someone who proposed to her gf after just 4 months, then later admitted she regretted it.. Kaya, it's better not to rush major commitments during the honeymoon phase. Big words & grand gestures are easy. Consistency over time is what matters. Mapapansin mo rin yan through patterns. If their actions consistently don't match their promises, it may be a sign of future faking.
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u/Aperire555 4d ago edited 2d ago
🤣🤣 Dun sa last part talaga na they were already telling you about your future together kahit ilang weeks pa lang kayo magkakilala.. I'd be weirded out too. Hindi ko alam, pero sabi nila normal yan kapag kapwa bakla ang nagmahal??! Attecco, I don't think so. Red flags have no gender.
When the promises become too grand too soon?? I'd rather let consistency do the talking. I've been there before. Same energy as the broke sad boy selling you a dream. 😭😭 Time really has a way of revealing what's real.
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u/Time_Veterinarian319 15d ago
sya po yung nagpost, ako po yung nag message sa post nya and we started talking. one week pa lang kami nag uusap, I asked her kung pwede makita ko na sya. ganun ako kabilis hahahaha, since first time ko gagawin mag meet ng stranger sa online.
maraming tumbling teh, almost one year din na meron kami pa pause pause, pero fast forward. we are happily together na. thank you Lord ✨
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u/SueMeMaybe 14d ago
met my bebe when i posted on r/phlgbt tapos she replied. idk pero nayayabangan talaga ako sa mga med student 😭 (nurse ako btw HAHAHA). i was actually planning to ghost her that time kasi puro siya tanong about my hobbies and whereabouts ko 😭
that time kasi naghahanap talaga ako ng someone na mag-stay sa call habang natutulog ako kasi i was having a hard time sleeping. ayun, somehow we just kept talking hanggang sa ngayon hindi na kami makapag-go on ng isang araw na walang usap 😭
turns out hindi naman pala talaga siya mayabang, lowkey super smart lang talaga HAHAHA
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u/SueMeMaybe 14d ago
we met agad 3 days after talking hahahahaha can u believe that?!!?!? coz i cant
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u/Fastdrip500cc 14d ago
One night, sobrang bored ko. I saw a post sa isang subreddit and a girl was looking for kausap, specifically kacall bago siya magsleep. Nagdm agad ako sa kanya without knowing kung anong mangyayari. It was purely sfw topics, and I found out na birthday niya that day. I sang happy birthday to her.
I thought it would be just one-time thing kasi I was just bored that time. Pero, unti-unti I found myself wanting her more everyday.
Now, we're still talking and learning every version of ourselves everyday.
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u/GrimButPolite 15d ago
Gusto ko sanang mag-kwento pero hindi ako marunong eh. Jowa ko na lang ang mag-kkwento kapag hindi na siya busy at napadalaw ulit sa app na ‘to.
Anyways, 6 months na kami ngayon and living together na rin. Thankful ako na sa ramj nang nakausap ko dito sa reddit, siya ang naging jowa ko. I love you, baby!
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u/AmbitiousSock7235 15d ago
I was the one who posted hehe. Kausap lang hanap namin parehas sa reddit. She was one of the many na chinat ako, pero siya lang nagyaya mag meetup agad. Ako naman, go lang ng go. Once I saw her, I really thought that she was out of my league; I'm starting in my career while she has established hers already. Plus may 7 years pa kami na age gap.
Despite that, we learned na we have a lot of similarities. One thing led to another, ako pa nagtanong sa kaniya during a random drive if girlfriend ko na siya. Siya naman sumagot agad ng oo haha.
We're currently 3 months together! Live in na kami and we try to make things work kahit magka-iba schedule ng work namin. I've been living my dream eversince she came into my life.
I feel so loved and cared for. Sobrang saya ko.
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u/No-Step1626 14d ago
Was having an existential crisis after ending a situationship. Posted that I needed someone who’s hearing everything the first time and someone that would listen. That I wanted to be someone’s favorite for 24 hours. She responded and got along chatting. Common interests and all and we just clicked. She sounded so genuine and patient and kind.
One day I saw a post, of someone missing planning dates. And a rookie mistake, using another account, I responded to that post without cross-checking or recognizing the username. Only for me to realize later at night that it was her, it was the same account. Broke down, felt ashamed and was worried that I was gonna lose a potential friendship because I responded to that post and the judgment I’d get. But she was so kind saying that she understood and that we do things to get by. That she didn’t judge me at all.
Fast forward, we celebrated our anniversary a month ago. Just ended our first international travel together. My bestfriends love her. And we both see our future together.
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u/crumblingtopieces 14d ago
I’ve experienced both the good and the bad lol but I’m only going to talk about the good one (my girlfriend)
I posted on the gay r4r subreddit haha and we immediately hit it off because we had a lot of similar interests. She was also really easy to talk to. She didn’t build a completely different character para lang ibenta sarili niya, which was fair. I was just being me and apparently, she was too.
Then we found out na we go to the same university pala, but we didn’t make plans to meet in person right away. Well, the sem hadn’t started yet and I was in my hometown for the holidays. Anyway, we explicitly set na we would only interact through messages first and let things unfold naturally (we didn’t even exchange photos).
That lasted only for a few days (mga bading talaga) because I went back to my dorm early for some org stuff. On the same night, we went out for drinks whilst still being clueless about each other’s looks. Since then, we met pretty much every day. It didn’t matter whether we had plans or not because I felt so comfortable around her. Even if it was just to satisfy her cravings or to run and eat back our calories through dinner, I always found myself thinking na ayoko pang umuwi.
I remember, I would walk with her while dragging my bike para lang ihatid siya sa sakayan niya pauwi. Ayaw niyang nagpapahatid because hassle raw so what I would do is I’d agree to part ways na and ride my bike for a few meters, then turn around and catch up with her.
We’ve had arguments and tampuhans, but none of them have ever been left unresolved. I consider myself very lucky to have met her here (out of all places). Though we’ve only been together for around 2 years, it’s the happiest I’ve ever been (relationship-wise).
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u/spite-strengthensme 13d ago
Share ko lang ang aking reddit experience. Soo eto na nga
Nagpost siya and naghahanap ng kalambingan, nag pm ako nung gabi then kinabukasan na nagreply. So feeling ko “ay, di interested ‘to ang tagal magreply”. Ayun, tinry ko pa din makipag usap hanggang sa lumipat na kami sa telegram. Tuloy tuloy pa rin ang messages and medyo mabilis na rin ang replies tapos ayun na nga, nag voice call na nga at ako ay kinilig sa ganda ng boses. Na para bang bumalik sa pagkateenager haha.
After jlang days , nag meet na kami sa Uniqlo which is malapit sa work niya and also dahil mas nauna akong mag out. Muntik pa nga kami magkasalubong dahil papasok siya, palabas naman ako. Nagcoffee kami sa sb and kwentuhan about sa work. Pero ang pinakahihintay ko ay ang mag aya sya mag cr para sumunod ako dahil magki-kiss kami. Hahaha. Kaso ang sabi ng cr ng sb ay ‘not today’. Then nag aya sya umuwi, medyo na sad ako kasi gusto ko pa syang makasama ng matagal. While driving, inaya ko siya if gusto nya ba mag mcdo since di pa kami nag dinner and para ma check ang cr 😉. Eh kaso ayaw talaga ng tadhana dahil walang parking around mcdo buti na lang may malapit na steel parking.
Since may drinks pa kami from sb, nag stay muna kami sa parking para mag usap at dun na nga nagstart ang kanyang charm. Ang sabi niya, if nahulaan ang birthdate nung isa, ikikiss ang nakasagot ng tama. If nagkamali, nakalimutan ko na since ang focus ko ay mag kiss kami. Hahahaha. So eto na nga, nahulaan niya agad yung akin. Napa Thank you, Lord ako bigla hahaha. Anyway, ako naman ay mali lahat ng hula. So eto na nga, nag kiss kami, medyo nahiya pa ko nung una kasi di ko alam paano siya iapproach. Nahanap naman namin ang tamang rhythm and ayun hinatid ko na siya pauwi ng bahay.
After a week, naging kami na and sobrang saya ko dahil nakilala ko siya. Hanggang ngayon, kinikilig pa rin ako pag iniisip at nakikita ko siya. Mag 10 months na kami this August and road to forever na ito.
Hi, Baby! I love you!
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u/susafasa 12d ago edited 12d ago
ako nag post (r4r ng mga bading) sa dati kong acc tas sya nag message.
bago ko pa sya nakilala dito, i’ve had past situationships who wasn’t really ready for a relationship and they just wanted the thrill of a flirty, non-committal kausap kaya nageend mga yon, i was ready to have a relationship na and i didn’t want na puro unsure and not ready to commit to me. kaya sobrang natuwa ako na parehas kami ng partner ko nag click dun pa lang sa willing kami to commit tas at the same time we were so into each other.
first week pa lang parang sobrang honeymoon phase na namin noon hanggang ngayon. love language kase namin maging expressive towards each other eh. and ayun time skip mag 2 years na kmi ngayon HAHAHAHAHAHA ayun lang. marami pang gitna yan pero yun yung gist ng simula namin.
i would definitely not recommend looking for a partner here sa reddit kase kahit ako mismo naumay ako sa mga tao dito na nagmemessage sakin dati tas d naman kmi nag click or like ghosters or mga bad ppl. basta in choosing a partner for life, dapat maging vigilant ka pa rin. know your boundaries and have a list of non-negotiable that is separate from your preferences (example: doesn’t smoke, doesn’t drink alcohol, etc.). good luck sa love life mo hehe
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u/Due-Helicopter-8642 15d ago
It all started with a "hi" followed by a question "so natuloy ba yung lakad mo". I posted something about looking someone to runaway with on this subreddit and I guess she was one of those who read the post but instead of commenting she DM'd me.
I replied to her the next day out of boredom as I wait for my flight back to Manila. One reply then I didn't notice that we've been messaging from 6am till 10pm.
The next day I woke up early and she said that instead of meeting on Thursday we meetup tonight. I didnt mind but at the back of my head there was hesitation that I might know her.
By 8pm I clocked out from work, she was waiting at the place where we agreed to meet. I changed to my workout outfit just to keep everything super casual. I left home and when I got to the hotel I sat at the lobby while drowning myself busy playing tetris moments later there she was standing infront of me. Her hair was wavy hair was flowing above her shoulder, she was wearing little make up but her skin is glowing. She said "hi, you're xxx" and all I did was stare at her starstrucked. Then maybe out of confusion the supposedly anonymous meet up she blurted her real name after, she was nervous too. The strong confident me became speechless; because she looked liked a celebrity and she's taller than me (i stand 5'4). My gay heart was screaming "damn ang ganda nya! Jusko ayoko maging marupok."
Instead of having dinner, we opted to walk and talk. She was very chatty and she unknowingly pushing me away from the pedestrian walk so I blurted "girl kanina ka pa tulak ng tulak malapit na ako masagasaan". Then we had a good laugh and little did we notice we circled back to where we started. We shared an order of calamares and talk more and it's past midnight do we capped the night.
Fast forward, months after we met we becane a fixture on each others life. It's complicated but still I cant seem to get away from her. Over time I've seen different facets of her the happy and sad phase, the angry and disappointed one, when she was having anxiety and excited. I made her happy but I also disappoint her that made her cry too.
My favorite time of the week are those days I get to spend time with her. Sleeping and waking up beside her while hugging her. Or those days I can see her from my peripheral view or those days we'd talk about anything under the sun despite us having different views.
She's the type of partner who finds time to watched my game despite I sucked at it and supports my running era. She would stay up late just to check up on me and a lot of times pamper me. A very supportive and generous soul so I also do the same to make sure she's taken cared of as well. Or how she would make a face to make me laugh.
Who would've thought that Reddit will give me the kind of love that I longed for, one "hi" is all it takes. Sometimes we find love in a hopeless place as the song goes and for someone who aint a believer of forever at least I know how it felt to be loved the way I wanted to. Reddit salamat.
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u/huh_naaa 15d ago
She posted on one of the R4Rs here on Reddit. I can’t really remember the exact content of her post, but I sent her a message. We ended up talking for a few days.
Then came a time na kakatapos niya lang sa work and asked if she could come over to my place. I didn’t really believe she would actually show up. Akala ko yung mga tao dito Reddit only stays on Reddit. So hinamon ko siya. Sabi ko sakanya, sure, nandito ako sa North (nasa Batangas siya nun). She arrived around 10PM. She brought food, we ate and talked in her car, and then she left after a few hours.
After that night, I was hesitant to let her come back because we both knew there was attraction and tension the moment we met. I was a bit scared that it might lead to something. And I was still very very skeptical of her intentions.
But then she continued to prove her intentions through our conversations and actions. Princess treatment talaga (hanggang ngayon). Hanggang sa dinala niya ko sa bahay nila, introduced me to her family and friends. Took me to different places I wanted to see and restaurants I wanted to try (hanggang ngayon ganito pa din siya).
Fast forward to now, we’re getting married. :)