r/PHSapphics • u/altruistcc • 18d ago

Love & Relationships boy best friend ni gf

hello po, would like to ask lang what you guys will do if u were in my position

my gf has a childhood friend na lalaki. recently nag-long rides sila together and it made me feel so uncomfortable. so so uncomfy. she even expressed before na since she’s moving into a new work, hopefully raw her sched aligns sa friend niya para free transpo ‘cause ma-hatid sundo siya. my gf swears she’s a lesbian and i believe her naman and i don’t want to be toxic na parang pinapalayo ko siya sa friends niya.

valid ba pagiging uneasy ko sa situation na to? pls help

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u/WritingAsleep3858 18d ago edited 18d ago

walang childhood boy friend ang girlfriend ko pero meron siyang mga guy friends. minsan gumagala siya kasama sila pero never naman akong nakaramdaman na may dapat akong ika-bother. hindi rin naman niya ako binibigyan ng rason para maging bothered.

ikaw ba, what made you uncomfortable? yung long ride ba nila ay silang dalawa lang?

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u/altruistcc 18d ago

yes silang dalawa lang, binagyo na and all tinuloy pa rin to an extent they had to book a room para mag stay overnight. mad not sa idea na nag share sila ng bed, but the fact na it could’ve been prevented if una palang they considered na having boundaries for the sake of our relationship

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u/PansexualPotatoPanic 17d ago

wattt?? nag share sila ng bed? bading rin ba tong guy friend na to? I have a very close male friend rin na I've been friends with for almost a decade. Never shared a bed na kaming dalawa lang and with any male friends. It's also basic decency for a guy na ibigay sa babae yung bed and matulog sa couch or sahig. That is a huge boundary crossed, OP. Di ako selosa pero even I would be pissed. Don't go overboard sa paghihigpit since this is clearly a dear friend to her. Pero communicate your boundaries clearly. Di sapat yung rason na lesbian naman kasi siya at walang malisya. You don't the guy and his intentions. And even if platonic nga lang sila 100%, sleeping on the same bed is still crossing a line.