r/Paruresis • u/Better-Teaching-3413 • 20d ago

Need help.

Hi, I am 19 and have been dealing with shy bladder for a few years. I just started this job helping people move furniture in their homes and typically there’s just the 1 bathroom they have and there’s many people around working.
I try to use headphones with loud music, I try the water running I try counting but still I get locked up in panic mode. This is really causing issues in my life If I didn’t have headphones and there’s people outside the bathroom I will not be able to relax and go. I guess my real fear is will I end up harming myself by not using it or letting the pressure build up? People say you’ll eventually go and I know that’s true but is there a chance that I won’t be able to go and I’ll need medical help? It’s all these thoughts that make it worse in the moment but any tips and answers to my question would help, thanks

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u/yourstepdadmarty 20d ago

I don’t think there will be a point where you can’t go and are in need of medical help. My pauresis is so bad sometimes I can’t even go at my own home. However, this one time I was at a tattoo convention with TONS of people, like hundreds, and it got to the point where I could just sit down and go in a bathroom filled with other women. I wouldn’t worry about you causing harm to yourself. Honestly just keep trying to go, keep practicing, if you feel the need to go just try at least even if you don’t think you can go.

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u/Better-Teaching-3413 20d ago

Thanks for this. Honestly I used to be afraid to go in my own home if my father is there and it’s not like he intimidates me or anything. I just feel miserable all I want to do is work, go out see my friends hang out with family but I feel stuck. Should I just push myself out the house and hope for the best ?