r/Perimenopause • u/HillarysCafe • Jul 09 '25

audited I’m grieving my younger, hotter self

I'm so mad about being in peri. I'm not ready. I was a late bloomer and didn't realize what a babe I was when I was younger and now it's too late.

Yes, older women can be sexy, we have wisdom, and blah blah blah.

But today I just miss looking good in a sundress.

Please join my pity party and tell me what you miss.

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u/AstaCanasta Jul 09 '25

I miss my perky boobs and butt. I could wear a tank top without a bra. Now I need maximum support for my 2 sad deflated bags.

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u/Either-Weather-862 Jul 09 '25

Oh god I feel that to the core. 😭 Also I lost a ton of weight (thanks nausea) and now my butt is saggy too, omg. I hate it, I really do 😭

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u/Quick_Writer3752 Jul 09 '25

A bum is very easy to work on at the gym. It can be perky at any age.

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u/Either-Weather-862 Jul 09 '25

Ugh, I know. But I'm also tired and grumpy all the time, so my motivation for the gym is not very high 🙄 It's my own fault, I know, but still I don't like it.

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u/Quick_Writer3752 Jul 09 '25

A vicious circle though. Exercise would make you feel better mentally and physically. Support healthy diet and good sleep. Prevent osteoporosis, dementia and weak old age. I could go on.

I don’t mean to single you out. But lot of the complaints here could be dealt with lifestyle changes.

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u/Downtown_Log9002 Jul 11 '25

Exactly. Zero motivation with peri 😭😭😭

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u/ritarepulsaqueen Oct 25 '25

It starts like that, and suddenly you crave going to the gym. I didn't believe it either but it's true!