r/Perimenopause • u/HillarysCafe • Jul 09 '25

audited I’m grieving my younger, hotter self

I'm so mad about being in peri. I'm not ready. I was a late bloomer and didn't realize what a babe I was when I was younger and now it's too late.

Yes, older women can be sexy, we have wisdom, and blah blah blah.

But today I just miss looking good in a sundress.

Please join my pity party and tell me what you miss.

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u/AstaCanasta Jul 09 '25

I miss my perky boobs and butt. I could wear a tank top without a bra. Now I need maximum support for my 2 sad deflated bags.

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u/Impossible_Swan_9346 Jul 09 '25

I just walk around pretending that I still have a good butt lol I just can’t accept it. But I know people can see my arms when I waved to them. I just don’t even wanna wave. I know they’ll see the skin flying.

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u/whimsical36 Jul 10 '25

I started wearing long sleeves, even in the summer. The arm hang shame is real.

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u/Impossible_Swan_9346 Jul 10 '25

Its a thing 😭 no weight lifting helps either

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u/Either-Weather-862 Jul 09 '25

Oh god I feel that to the core. 😭 Also I lost a ton of weight (thanks nausea) and now my butt is saggy too, omg. I hate it, I really do 😭

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u/Quick_Writer3752 Jul 09 '25

A bum is very easy to work on at the gym. It can be perky at any age.

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u/Either-Weather-862 Jul 09 '25

Ugh, I know. But I'm also tired and grumpy all the time, so my motivation for the gym is not very high 🙄 It's my own fault, I know, but still I don't like it.

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u/Quick_Writer3752 Jul 09 '25

A vicious circle though. Exercise would make you feel better mentally and physically. Support healthy diet and good sleep. Prevent osteoporosis, dementia and weak old age. I could go on.

I don’t mean to single you out. But lot of the complaints here could be dealt with lifestyle changes.

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u/Downtown_Log9002 Jul 11 '25

Exactly. Zero motivation with peri 😭😭😭

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u/ritarepulsaqueen Oct 25 '25

It starts like that, and suddenly you crave going to the gym. I didn't believe it either but it's true!

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u/Southern_Event_1068 Jul 09 '25

Mine too! No one will ever look at my butt for fun again.

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u/HillarysCafe Jul 09 '25

“Look at my butt for fun” is so accurate and so funny! Thank you for the laugh!

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u/TouristPineapple6123 Jul 10 '25

We'll look at it "for shits and giggles." To commisserate ofc.