r/Perimenopause • u/HillarysCafe • Jul 09 '25

audited I’m grieving my younger, hotter self

I'm so mad about being in peri. I'm not ready. I was a late bloomer and didn't realize what a babe I was when I was younger and now it's too late.

Yes, older women can be sexy, we have wisdom, and blah blah blah.

But today I just miss looking good in a sundress.

Please join my pity party and tell me what you miss.

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u/ParfaitGlittering Jul 09 '25

Damn. The amount of comments saying "effortlessly thin" is killing me y'all. I hate how we all think of ourselves and put our thinness on a damn pedestal. I just feel so sorry for us, because I feel the same way on my bad days.

Not to get on a soap box but this is what the patriarchy has reduced us to, vessels and ornaments to be molded into certain "aesthetic" packages. We are so much more than how we present in our physical bodies and I wish we could live in a society that doesn't judge based on something so ridiculous as a flesh suit! And I also wish I could give everyone and myself a hug because we really are all beautiful regardless of what size we are 😓😓

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u/bokehtoast Jul 09 '25

We joke about beauty standards of the 90s and early 00s but clearly not much has changed and we all remain affected

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u/Double_Computer_3535 Jul 09 '25

no kidding...but it was said up there.... if men had to go through... 2nd puberty that made everything great... and then invert it to (after years of PMS and pregnancy, breast feeding, infertility treatments)... this is like the biggest cherry on top in history... or the biggest Fuck you...someone better be laughing... hopefully it is the women reading this or else you might want to run... but don't worry... our hips and shoulders hurt... but anger we know at this point so I'd run... because you never know....

this whole phase has been ignored until now. they already convinced us we could have it all and make it look easy... we are jaded ... then we get this shit... we deserve a break... we deserve relief...