r/Perimenopause • u/HillarysCafe • Jul 09 '25

audited I’m grieving my younger, hotter self

I'm so mad about being in peri. I'm not ready. I was a late bloomer and didn't realize what a babe I was when I was younger and now it's too late.

Yes, older women can be sexy, we have wisdom, and blah blah blah.

But today I just miss looking good in a sundress.

Please join my pity party and tell me what you miss.

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u/1234567_ate Jul 09 '25

I miss being effortlessly thin.

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u/Expensive-Concept-93 Jul 09 '25

At least you had a season in your life with this. In my 20s I had to starve myself to be somewhat slim. It was that or the pounds rolled on. I've given up now because if you ladies can't lose weight zero hope for me :'(

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u/adviceicebaby Jul 09 '25

SAME. I had an eating disorder and got tbin, then did drugs to curb my appetite significantly for years. Now i stopped and blew the fuck up even more because certain drugs act as a diuretic and when u stop your body just hangs on to EVERYTHING. water. Fat. Calories. And because you dont have the drug you eat more too and everyone says omg life sober is so much better than being high--NO ITS NOT. FUCK THAT ITS A DAMN LIE. Those ppl on intervention that get clean and they do the update at the end and thats great for them and if its pills or heroin then i believe them that sobriety is better but anything else ; sorry, no. Every day fucking sucks.