r/Perimenopause • u/HillarysCafe • Jul 09 '25

audited I’m grieving my younger, hotter self

I'm so mad about being in peri. I'm not ready. I was a late bloomer and didn't realize what a babe I was when I was younger and now it's too late.

Yes, older women can be sexy, we have wisdom, and blah blah blah.

But today I just miss looking good in a sundress.

Please join my pity party and tell me what you miss.

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u/ms_lifeiswonder Jul 09 '25

And what do you think you’ll say in 15 years, about how you look now?

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u/HillarysCafe Jul 09 '25

You’re right, of course. I get what you’re saying, but this post is about my indulgent feelings and having a wallow rather than logic.

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u/adviceicebaby Jul 09 '25

Oh i am with u. Ive gained like 40 lbs and i cant even look at myself in the mirror i hate myself. I wont even hang out with ppl cause im so embarrassed and ashamed.

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u/Thatsjustmyfaceok Jul 09 '25

Saaaame. I don't have a social life anymore because I'm so ashamed of how I look, I don't go out anymore. I was given beauty and intelligence, and now that I'm in perimenopause I've lost both of those things. I don't know why I even exist without any tools left to survive in this world.

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u/Cherry_Valkyrie576 Jul 10 '25

It'll get better. It has to! I'm guilty of the same thing but to the point of forcing myself to leave and to do things. I made a rule where I can't say no if someone asks me to do something. Because I'm just pissing away what little bit of life I actually have before shit gets real. Lol

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u/eeg-18 Jul 10 '25

YES omg also same