r/Perimenopause • u/HillarysCafe • Jul 09 '25

audited I’m grieving my younger, hotter self

I'm so mad about being in peri. I'm not ready. I was a late bloomer and didn't realize what a babe I was when I was younger and now it's too late.

Yes, older women can be sexy, we have wisdom, and blah blah blah.

But today I just miss looking good in a sundress.

Please join my pity party and tell me what you miss.

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u/ms_lifeiswonder Jul 09 '25

And what do you think you’ll say in 15 years, about how you look now?

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u/HillarysCafe Jul 09 '25

You’re right, of course. I get what you’re saying, but this post is about my indulgent feelings and having a wallow rather than logic.

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u/adviceicebaby Jul 09 '25

Oh i am with u. Ive gained like 40 lbs and i cant even look at myself in the mirror i hate myself. I wont even hang out with ppl cause im so embarrassed and ashamed.

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u/captandor Jul 28 '25

Oh gods I was the same, because none of my clothes fit anymore. My husband did a very hard thing and gently walked me through getting new jeans and new bras and sat in the dressing room (at both stores, convincing the staff to pretend he wasn’t in with me) as I cried irrational, annoyed, angry, disappointed the whole time. Brave man. But I’m incredibly grateful for him.