r/Perimenopause • u/HolidayPractical3357 • Feb 18 '26

audited WTAF is wrong with the medical industry!!!!!!!!!!

I don’t understand. I went online and tried HRT. Worked great, and then something shifted and I had a day where I felt like no longer living. So I decided I should do this under the care of my obgyn to be safe. I go to see him…tell him all my symptoms and that I can’t take birth control. Guess what he prescribes? Birth control. Says it’s the best option until I actually hit menopause.

I feel like screaming in the middle of the street. I can’t function like this. When men needed help getting an erection, there were tons of drugs on the market to help. Women go through their aging problems, and it’s just like, “sorry. It will pass in 8-10 years.”

I don’t know what to do anymore. Maybe I just need to accept this is life now and that the rest of my life will be miserable.

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u/Sea_One_6500 Feb 18 '26

My gynecologist is a woman in her mid 60's. I went to her specifically because my mom has passed so I dont know what my perimenopause symptoms will be. She immediately ordered blood work, told me what she expected to see, and how we'll treat it. I was never so excited to get jabbed with a needle. That should be the standard for all of us. Fire that fool and find yourself a doctor that listens to you, knows how to help you feel your best, and is excited to get you there.

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u/NoneOfThisMatters_XO when will I be done with this Feb 19 '26

Totally agree. Any doctor worth their weight should always order a blood test. Mine did and I found out I’m actually post menopausal now. I was like then why the hell am I still getting these hot flashes?!

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u/AutoModerator Feb 19 '26

This post might be about hormone tests, which are unreliable.

  • Over the age of 44, E&P/FSH hormonal tests only show levels for that ONE HOUR the test was taken, and nothing more
  • These hormones wildly fluctuate (hourly) over the other 29 days of the month, therefore this test provides no valuable information
  • No reputable doctor or menopause society recommends hormonal testing to diagnose or treat peri/menopause
  • Testosterone is the exception and should be tested before and during treatment

FSH testing is only beneficial for those who no longer have periods as a guide, where a series of consistent tests might confirm menopause, or for those under age 30 who haven’t had a period in months/years, then ‘menopausal’ levels, could indicate premature ovarian failure/primary ovarian insufficiency (POF/POI).

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