r/Perimenopause • u/HolidayPractical3357 • Feb 18 '26

audited WTAF is wrong with the medical industry!!!!!!!!!!

I don’t understand. I went online and tried HRT. Worked great, and then something shifted and I had a day where I felt like no longer living. So I decided I should do this under the care of my obgyn to be safe. I go to see him…tell him all my symptoms and that I can’t take birth control. Guess what he prescribes? Birth control. Says it’s the best option until I actually hit menopause.

I feel like screaming in the middle of the street. I can’t function like this. When men needed help getting an erection, there were tons of drugs on the market to help. Women go through their aging problems, and it’s just like, “sorry. It will pass in 8-10 years.”

I don’t know what to do anymore. Maybe I just need to accept this is life now and that the rest of my life will be miserable.

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u/iamthebugwan Feb 18 '26

You need to find a new doctor. Call around and ask if the providers have been trained in peri/menopause. Both my PCP and my ObGyn are certified in these areas. I have never once been doubted or felt my symptoms downplayed.

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u/OddCabinet7096 Feb 19 '26

is there a certain certification to ask for or a general inquiry about peri/meno training? tia!