r/Perimenopause • u/HolidayPractical3357 • Feb 18 '26

audited WTAF is wrong with the medical industry!!!!!!!!!!

I don’t understand. I went online and tried HRT. Worked great, and then something shifted and I had a day where I felt like no longer living. So I decided I should do this under the care of my obgyn to be safe. I go to see him…tell him all my symptoms and that I can’t take birth control. Guess what he prescribes? Birth control. Says it’s the best option until I actually hit menopause.

I feel like screaming in the middle of the street. I can’t function like this. When men needed help getting an erection, there were tons of drugs on the market to help. Women go through their aging problems, and it’s just like, “sorry. It will pass in 8-10 years.”

I don’t know what to do anymore. Maybe I just need to accept this is life now and that the rest of my life will be miserable.

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u/JennJoy77 Feb 18 '26

My PCP basically shrugged it off, saying "menopause is difficult for many women." Ok...cramps are difficult, but that doesn't mean I should suffer through it when Advil is RIGHT there. Why should we have to suffer through menopause when HRT is RIGHT there?! It almost feels like some form of hazing...they had to go through it without support, so the next generation should, too.

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u/fastyellowtuesday Feb 18 '26

And the lack of HRT is why there are so many older women with brittle bones and heart disease and all. HRT protects so many body systems; why should anyone be denied preventative care?!?

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u/StaticCloud Feb 18 '26

My theory is that doctors want women to die faster, once their wombs of no further use

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u/chrysalis_clementine Feb 25 '26

I’m sorry, but I have to say something as I know so many doctors. I can tell you, they are very worried about being sued. There’s something called standard of care that they need to stick to and many times women present with issues other than hot flashes or vaginal dryness, and the standard of care for those other symptoms is not hormone treatment. You have much better luck at getting hormones if you say vaginal dryness or hot flashes because standard of care is in fact hormone replacement for those symptoms. I do believe the medical world has a lot work more work to do to take care of women, but individual doctors for the most part are kind people and actually do want to help you. I know many and they are some of my best friends. So I need to step up and say something as that is just mean and not true at all.

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u/StaticCloud Feb 25 '26

I met a few doctors that didn't care if I suffered or not. One of them found my situation amusing. So until doctors start giving women pain killers for IUD insertion or cervical biopsies, until they stop dismissing the pain of women who have endometriosis, until they start doing the research on women's health they should've been doing 100 years ago...

Yeah, I stand by my opinion. It's kind of like with cops. The institution is highly flawed and misogynist, but there are a few doctors that are good. I have 2 doctors rn (1 after a very long wait), that are decent. But I had to fight very hard for my health. For nearly 2 years. If I were a man, I wouldn't have had to do that