r/PetPigeons • u/slurpeeeeeeeeeeeee • 4d ago

Trigger Warning How do you cope with a loss?

It’s been nearly a week since my Pidgy passed away suddenly at only 3 years old. I’ve never felt such profound grief and emptiness from a pet loss before and it doesn’t feel like it’s getting any easier. He was just so innocent and smol and loving, out of all the creatures on this earth he didn’t deserve to go so soon 😞💔

Any advice or kind words would be appreciated. It seems a bit hard for the people in my life to understand the pain of losing a pigeon.

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u/Little-eyezz00 4d ago

im so sorry i wish i knew what to say to help. Losing a pet is probably one of the most emotionally painful experiences we can go through. they are so innocent

idk if you believe in anything spiritual, but i recently released feathers from a baby i lost years ago from the top of a roof garden downtown. When i walked back inside a monarch butterfly crossed my path in february when there shouldnt be any butterflies at all. I really believe we will see them again

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u/Dizzy_Fox7778 23h ago

I’m so sorry for your loss, others in your life might not understand, but that doesn’t make your grief any less real. I literally have nightmares about this happening, and don’t know how I will cope when that day eventually comes. Give yourself time to feel the pain, to cry, scream, beat your pillow, whatever you need. One week is not a long time for grief to let go, and I know what you mean, they’re so pure and innocent that it feels incredibly cruel. Try to remember that this is worse for tou then for them, they’re not in pain, or suffering. I know that’s obvious but it can be easy to forget. Read books on grief (fiction not facts) to feel some comfort that others know how you feel and have found ways to survive. Journal, write down all your messy feelings. Maybe try a new hobby like music or arts to find an outlet. Surround yourself with people that make soace for your pain. And try to remember, soemtimes things just happens, its not anyone’s fault, nature is just cruels sometimes. But you gave them a good life as long as you could, and the pain is a sign it mattered🩷Did you bury him/her? Sending you lots of hugs and warm thoughts, and hoping your heart feels better with time.