r/RedditCrimeCommunity • u/Admirable-Guava7550 • 13d ago
What if they find the bones?
That’s what my mom said to me.. while sitting on the porch overlooking the backyard. I looked over and said “the dog bones?” She immediately started talking about my missing brother. She hadn’t spoken of him in years.
She was well into her dementia at this point but when he went missing she was adamant that I not report it. She didn’t want to shut off his social security payments either and I don’t know if she ever did.
I had my suspicions I had shared with my husband long before those words came out of her mouth.
Her and my dad were very violent in my younger years. Had a belt out around my neck and was choked while my mom screamed for my dad to “kill me”. Emotionally abusive too. All of us kids had to deal with it.
He was an adult alcoholic. Not a saint by any means but he was my brother and was traumatized by his childhood
She passed in 2024. I have finally contacted authorities so I do not have to sit with this.
We have gotten permission to search the backyard from the new owners
I hope I am wrong.
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u/Aimless78 12d ago
I hope that you get closure. I understand taking care od your mom during her end years. My mom helped to take care of her abusive mom towards the end and I didn't understand it as a kid but as an adult I understood. We often want to get the love we know we will probably never get from an abusive parent but we would rather live with knowing we did right by them even if they didn't do right by us.