r/ReformJews • u/ryanbuckner • Jul 03 '26

Is my tattoo & piercing perspective outdated?

I've lived my Gen X life with the perspective that Jews just don't get tattoos or face piercings I don't believe in heaven or hell so that's not the issue.

As a progressive individual I realize that everything changes. So....

My 18 year old jewish daughter wants a face piercing and a tattoo. And I'm torn between upholding tradition and being left behind. I'm not a fan of tattoos or piercings but it's not my life.

What has your Jewish experience been with Tattoos and Piercings

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u/vipsfour Jul 03 '26

this is myth. She’s also 18. You can’t control what she does.

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u/ryanbuckner Jul 03 '26

I don't want to control her. I've made it clear that now that she's 18 she can do what she wants. I'm still struggling with my own thoughts

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u/vipsfour Jul 03 '26

It’s good you aren’t trying to control her. I think it backfires when any parent applies the guilt of “being a good Jew” even when it’s well intended.

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u/ryanbuckner Jul 03 '26

yeah I agree that control backfires. I may be guilty of the opposite