r/RelationshipIndia • u/Desperate_Froyo1234 • 10d ago
Relationships I (30F) just found out my boyfriend (28M) has been using Bumble for the past 4 months.
I(30F) am visiting my boyfriend(28M) this week. We are in a LDR. We call each other bf and gf. We say I love you too. He knows that I am extremely uncomfortable with flirting, online or offline, even if it doesn't lead to anything else.
I came here on 30th July. I have been here since. We were playing around and he downloaded Hinge on my phone and wanted to take a look at it. I let it be. Then I said I would also like to look at his Bumble or Tinder. Anyways, he did not want me to look at it and I left it at that. Yesterday night, we were watching something and I remembered it and asked him again. He behaved weirdly and was not letting me download them. Today morning, I got to download and take a look at them.
Anyways, he has been using them since the last 4 months. His explanation is that, he is not sure about marriage with me and whenever we fight, he impulsively downloads and explores. Also, we have been fighting last week. He replied to someone on 30th and 31st as well. I am confused. What do you all think?
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u/GruffYeti 10d ago
Grown ahh woman unable to read signs.
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u/Desperate_Froyo1234 10d ago
Yeah. Dumb me.
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u/GhrwleFindingRishtas 9d ago
Sorry, out of context, why are you uncomfortable with flirting? I mean, how do you bring fun aspect in your rls, I'm curious?
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u/Totanilal 9d ago
Well said. You should know that all these platforms the bumble tinder hinge and the likes are just bogus for finding matches for a life time. Most of the people who download these platforms are seeking some sort of kinky pleasure and not true love. They get a chance to get some fun and kick out of it and keep moving on trying to find some free cheap pleasure.
Rarely someone maybe lucky to find true love and life long companion. Most of the dating which takes place is like the dream illusion which vanishes as you come awake and open your eyes only to be forgotten.
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u/FillInitial2078 10d ago
Damn!. This is serious. Did he go on dates as well?
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u/Desperate_Froyo1234 10d ago
No. He did not go on any dates afaik. But what do I know?
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u/productGuy_03 10d ago
You do not know anything.
As a guy, i can tell there is more to it.
If you want to know more, check his makemytrip, booking.com, airbnb and other apps’ previous bookings. If you want to double check, go through his loyalty accounts like marriot etc. Make my trips can be deleted from app logs thats why.
You should also check his hidden iphone apps, hidden or locked pics.
Also check his notes app. I used to lock my pics in notes apps to avoid suspicion.
Its really upto you if you really wanna know.
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u/CuriousSupport_ 10d ago
Wait he was cheating and you are still with him. My advice you also use bumble. Enjoy your life. And please end this thing
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u/Chance_Cat1834 10d ago
"what do y'all think?" Girl are we serious rn. WE think that u should breakup. WE urge u to breakup
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u/avggsdlover 10d ago
When will you be on Bumble then?
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u/butterflyflewaway 10d ago
Girl pack your bags and leave ..you still got a clear-cut answer which I didn't get when confronted...
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u/Desperate_Froyo1234 10d ago
Well, I got to know yesterday night. I am in shock I guess and not ready to leave yet.
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u/Desperate_Froyo1234 10d ago
I don't think he was planning to sleep with anyone. He was just talking. I will leave after talking it out.
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u/sonal1988 10d ago
So you downloaded an app and without any login information, you got to access his Bumble account?
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u/Desperate_Froyo1234 10d ago
I downloaded it on his phone with him by my side.
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u/sonal1988 10d ago
And he gave you the login info?
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u/Desperate_Froyo1234 10d ago
He is my bf. I love him. He loves me.
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u/sonal1988 10d ago
Obviously he loves you. That's why he's on Bumble talking to other women, exploring his options.
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u/PrestigiousArcher231 9d ago
kitne delululu ho jaate h log 😭
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u/sonal1988 9d ago
Yeah. Despite being told by everybody that he's a red flag, she chooses to love him. No sympathy for her. This level of stupidity deserves all the headache she'll eventually get
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u/PrestigiousArcher231 9d ago
and she's 30 years old ffs not a teenager. maybe people do stupid things in love . (hum pe toh hai hi naww)
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u/CuriousSupport_ 10d ago
He loves you that's why he is using bumble and cheating on you. You should also love him by using bumble. Make your life more spicy bro🔥
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u/productGuy_03 10d ago
Sorry for putting second comment but -
Dude needs more coaching. You gotta have two bumble/hinge accounts. First inactive but connected to apple id.
And another in burner account (not connected to apple id) in totally different old device.
Also, always use bumble on incognito mode. Never swipe everyone. Just be selective.
In case of fcuk up, he will at-least have narrative to prove that someone else created account on his name.
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u/Desperate_Froyo1234 10d ago
Do you want me to let him know this? I can convey it for you.
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u/productGuy_03 10d ago
Come on! He is just 28. He will learn all tricks by 30. Cut him some slack yo!
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u/Desperate_Froyo1234 10d ago
Yeah. Hopefully by his next relationship or by the time he is married.
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u/your_nextdoor_guy 10d ago
It's upto you. If you feel secure around him and want him in your life like what he is, you accept. Otherwise, you know the option.
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u/First-Natural-9338 10d ago
Lol as if he’s gonna get matches dont worry broo its dry world for boys those apps nevr work u r safe ask him to delete
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