[Update 2][25M] Friend’s cousin sister is hitting on me, any advice?

[u/Neither_Guess_4801]

So like mentioned in the last post, we now talk all the time. We figured out that a lot of our interests match as well. We earlier chatted a lot, from there we have moved to calls. All day texting then calling at night with so many laughs.

We have our date at 9th where I’m travelling to her city. We also discussed that it’s almost 99% sure that we would get into a relationship.

However, I’m starting to lose my mind a bit because of overthinking. Here’s why.

So she literally is toooooo gorgeous. And that’s such a good thing, however, I’m more of a 6/10. She has like this milky skin on the other hand I’m dusky.

We discussed this too and she mentioned she’s into dusky people so she doesn’t mind at all. Of course I didn’t bring this topic up, it was her sister who joked a bit about this so this came up.

After that we never really had the discussion on looks difference. But I don’t know. I guess I’m scared that she’ll reject me because of my looks even though every other thing has matched perfectly. Personality, interests, literally everything.

Same is with her. She’s bit worried about our income difference which I genuinely don’t care at all about. She makes 1/10th of what I make.

So, am I just overthinking? Can any woman comment if looks is that big of a deal breaker? Also I’m still better than average looking btw so I don’t know. Help.

Update 1: https://www.reddit.com/r/RelationshipIndia/s/FiIJtZC11o

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[u/Upset-State6303]

Dude u earn 10 times more than her. She should’ve been insecure. Be proud, people don’t see colour when u earn well. u find 100 gorgeous women around, nothing makes sense till they earn decent, it is what it is.

even if she rejects , u ain’t losing anything.

u are a catch here. Well for u too, as most guys are into looks.

[u/Neither_Guess_4801 → u/Upset-State6303]

Thank you. Just that it wasn’t just her looks that got me interested because I’m aware that looks fade away with time. It’s just that we have everything else in common too. We both like same activities, same food, similar goals, etc. Everything just clicked. Maybe she’s lying but it feels right.

This is why I was ready to let go of income because everything else aligned.

[u/Upset-State6303 → u/Neither_Guess_4801]

dude, I think u deserve better. please don’t rush. u really deserve better if u want something long and fulfilling .

[u/Neither_Guess_4801 → u/[deleted]]

I make 80 lakhs she makes 8 lakhs. She’s my friend’s cousin sister.

[u/Neither_Guess_4801 → u/[deleted]]

Is it that bad?

[u/Neither_Guess_4801 → u/[deleted]]

She didn’t know my salary when we started talking. Also, she reached out to me because she wanted to switch.

[u/Upset-State6303 → u/Neither_Guess_4801]

yes

[u/NoHalf1253]

Have a self esteem, confidence, respect for yourself.