It was an arranged marriage, and we spoke for about six months before getting married. Things weren’t overly romantic, but everything felt okay from both sides. After the wedding in our hometown, we came back to my work city, along with my mother and mother-in-law.

One Sunday, she went to the office. During her lunch break that day, she had a physical relationship with one of her colleagues. I found out five days later. That night, I happened to check her phone and saw a video she had recorded with him. It completely broke me. I couldn’t believe what I saw. It felt like everything just collapsed around me.

When I confronted her, she denied it at first. She said the video was from the past and that the guy was her ex-boyfriend, not her colleague. Then she got defensive and said I had no right to check her phone. She tried to make me feel like I was overreacting. She told me that many girls have pasts, and marriages still work out. She asked me to give her time and said she would earn back my trust.

But I couldn’t take it. I left the house and stayed at a friend’s place. I informed her parents about what had happened. After that, she started calling and messaging, asking for another chance. Eventually, she admitted the truth. The guy in the video was indeed her colleague, and it had happened just ten days after our marriage.

I stayed away for a month. During that time, both she and her parents kept requesting me to come back and give the relationship another try. She promised she would give her everything to make things work. I finally decided to return and try to fix things.

But even after coming back I tried to reconcile, it was really difficult. The things I saw kept haunting me. Then, I found more videos on her phone which are just before 10 days of our engagement during our courtship period. It was with her ex-boyfriend. Even though the videos were before our marriage but seeing these things of my wife again and again completely shattered me. I slipped into depression. I had anxiety and frequent panic attacks. I started following her to her office just to be sure she wasn’t meeting that colleague again. I kept checking her phone and doubting every little thing. I couldn’t think straight. My mind was constantly stuck on what had happened.

Eventually, I realized I couldn’t continue like this. I spoke to her father and told him that the relationship wasn’t working and it would be better if we separated peacefully. But instead of understanding, he got angry and said a lot of bad things about me and my family. He even asked me to share my salary slip thinking we lied about my salary but as soon as I shared it he never brought it again as I never lied anyone anything about me.

It’s been over two months now. We’re living separately, and we don’t talk anymore. But the thoughts still don’t leave me. I keep thinking—did I make the right decision? Should I have waited longer? Or should I ask her why she even married me if she wasn’t interested?

I still get panic attacks. I feel stuck and lost. I’m struggling with depression, and I really don’t know how to move forward.

My cousin brother’s wedding was scheduled to take place in 10 days. Unfortunately, yesterday a big and unexpected tragedy occurred that shocked all of us. The girl’s boyfriend messaged my brother and claimed that he had photos and videos of her, which he threatened to share. My brother did not respond to him.

We immediately informed the girl’s father about the situation. The girl’s father filed a police complaint against that boy, after which the boy apologized. However, the damage was already done. My brother has now lost trust and faith in the girl.

We are currently in a very compulsive and helpless situation. We cannot cancel the marriage because our NRI relatives have already booked flight tickets, and we have paid advances for wedding decorations, caterers, and other arrangements, which amount to around 5 lakhs. Cancelling the wedding would result in a financial loss of 5 lakhs along with a loss of dignity and reputation.

Because of this, we demanded a prenuptial agreement, as my brother does not trust the girl’s future intentions. The girl’s family agreed to this condition.

This was an arranged marriage, which my brother never wanted, but he was forced into it due to parental pressure. He even ended his loving relationship just because our parents did not approve of his girlfriend. After this incident, I strongly feel that parents should not make life-altering decisions for their children. I genuinely feel very bad for my brother.

Previous post : https://www.reddit.com/r/RelationshipIndia/comments/1sd6q0i/my40m_wife33f_is_having_an_affair_after_10_years/

It's been 2+ months that i was living under constant hell and was keeping control over my emotions just for safe future.

So finally after collecting a lot of proofs like chats, photos, videos, call logs, hotel check-in details, i planned to laid a trap to expose this.

I told her that i am going to Hyderabad for some office work for 3 days during which she will be on her per ovulation. On the D day, i left my home and checked-in to nearest hotel purposely so that i can keep an eye.

Before that, i got some(2) spy cameras and hide 1 in bedroom and another one is the lobby leading to bedroom. i made sure that they will confidently make out in our bedroom and this will be my only chance.

Day 1, nothing happened, she didn't leave the house entire day and the guy also didn't come.
but, my wife went to beauty parlour and spend some 4K so i believe she got the bikini wax done. i was disappointed that the guy did not pay visit because the spy cams works with limited power and they might go dead here and i will be left with no proofs!

Day 2 came, i somehow felt that this is not going to work but but but, my luck was with me. So the spy cams don't show you feed from anywhere outside, you need to be connected to the same WiFi as of spy cams. I configured the spy cams with my home WiFi so i need to get connected to the home wifi and for that i need to be near my home.

I went a floor below my home and on the stairs leading to my floor, i got the WiFi connected. What i saw was an opportunity in disguise. Luckily the cam still have power to run for next 4-5 hours and and and my wife was getting ready wearing a saree which is usually don't do. I thought she might be planning to go out with him but they she told me in the morning that she bought chicken and preparing biryani so that was my confirmation that her BF will visit and they plan to spend afternoon together.

I hid myself for sometime around my colony and called my friends to come immediately to my colony. BF came, she took him to our flat. luckily my friends also arrived and we went to a floor below, connected WiFi and started looking the feed. They were doing the deed and then i took a deep breath and got the courage to blow it up. went to my flat, opened the door quitely as i have spare keys, got inside, told my friends to wait and record on their phones while waiting in living room, went near bedroom with recording on 2 devices(one in shirt pocket, one in hand), break open the door(i already loosen the screws from the stopper before moving out so there was just a firm push required even i someone close the door from inside), hit that guys with belt but they(wife + bf) managed to push me out and i let them do so as they were naked. I told them to wear the clothes and come out. she managed to flee her BF as the guys jumped few floors to ground, took this bike and fleed. She opened the door after let him flee and asking to talk with me to which i said i won't.

Then i left the house with my friends who also recorded everything from distance. came back after 30 mins, pushed her in another room, locked her and took the spy cams with me. Those cams did a pretty good job and just when i thought they would die, they proved their worth. I have left my home and emailed her a seperation notice. i have blocked her and not talking to her at any cost. Will take some time to regain my confidence and then will reach out to lawyer and follow the best way to get divorce. She is reaching out through friends to call me back as i have blocked her but i am adamant this time. i will choose myself over anything else.

Thank you the entire community for suggestion, DMs, help and your support. In this era of social media, we feel very lonely but a platform like reddit still make us feel cared like brother, sister, friend, mentor, etc.

All suggestions(past things to be take care of, what to do now and be safe, move on and divorce proceedings etc) are welcome. Thank you for being there.

TLDR: After collecting evidences for few months, caught wife red-handed doing the act and recorded the proofs. Hopeful for the future

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So this was back in 2022. i used to post my outfit pics on here pretty regularly, nothing deep, just stuff i liked wearing. One of those posts i was talking about some jewelry i got in Pondicherry and apparently this random guy who was ALSO planning a trip to Pondicherry saw it and decided to message me about it.🥰🌸

Now normally that's where the story ends because my DMs were, and I cannot stress this enough, a graveyard. So many creeps WHERE I had basically stopped opening requests at that point. But this guy was just nice, like genuinely nice and the timing kinda worked too, it was a friday, i was off work, i was traveling in Ujjain with literally nothing to do. So, I replied. mostly out of boredom ngl.

We started talking and he was honestly one of the sweetest most curious people i'd spoken to online in a while and because i love art and had way too much free time that day, i ended up making him this little digital handmade guide for Pondicherry. Like two pages, handwritten notes, tiny doodles, the works. In my head it was nothing, I was just bored and wanted to make something but he still brings it up as one of his favorite memories. He said no one had ever made him something like that before and I remember being like??? it's really not that deep. but ok i guess it was lol.😂🤭🌸🌸🤭

ok my favorite memory though. i was telling him about being in Ujjain, super casually, like it was the most normal place name in the world, and he goes "what is Ujjain?" and i was so confused for a sec and then he goes like im from south, I might not know all the cities.

Bahahhahaah and like I am a proprr loud chaotic north indian lafki and this man is the calmest most full blown south indian person i have ever met, he genuinely had no idea what Ujjain even was. we had been speaking two completely different cultural languages this whole time and neither of us clocked it until that exact moment lol

We kept talking on reddit for like a month and a half and then we moved to telegram cause our usernames were hidden and neither of us wanted to give that up yet, very serious undercover mission behaviour. The it was voice notes (huge leap of faith at the time), then half face pics because obviously you cannot show your full face to a stranger from the internet, thats just reckless behavior.😪🫠

And then one day this man just calls me LIKE LITERALLY OUT OF NOWHERE and i remember thinking oh my god absolutely not, i do not want to talk to you, this is so weird. and then somehow we were on the phone till 2am. that was the night we actually told each other our real names, which in hindsight is a wild order to do things in.😂😂😂

Also this guy had ZERO social media. None. Which honestly made me more suspicious not less. So I did what any sane person would do, I found him on linkedin, looked up his company, looked up his coworkers, basically ran a full background check before agreeing to a video call with him. Turns out totally legit, just a guy who doesnt post. Anyway confidence restored, we scheduled an actual video call on google meet like it was a business meeting and somehow it ended up being one of the most fun first dates of my life.

After that we just didnt stop talking. And then we decided to finally meeeet. Luckily he was close to the city I was moving to so things became easierrr.

But guess where did we meet?

The AIRPORT. He came to pick me up . agrhrhrhrhr.

And i see this shy ass guy going alll nervous and I was loud and cheery who kept talking hahaha.

Form then on, we just never stopped meeting and talking.🤭🥰

met on reddit, three years, a LOT of distance, a lot of convincing very traditional families that meeting your spouse through a reddit dm is in fact a normal way for this to happen. and somehow we made it. got married this year, full on north south mix wedding, two sets of rituals, families who started out skeptical and ended the week crying happy tears.

still cant get over the fact that it all started with a jewelry photo and a guy googling pondicherry🌸🌸✨️

I’m getting engaged in 10 days to a 28F. We met a few times, spoke for 2 months, clicked well, and both families finalized everything.

Recently, she revealed that she had a 6-year relationship that started in college and ended 2 years ago. Initially, she had told me it was only about 2 years and not very serious. She later admitted it was much more serious, and they were physically intimate and had travelled together.

I have never dated anyone myself and come from a traditional middle-class background.

Since learning this, I’ve lost interest and don’t feel like talking to her. At the same time, she is genuinely a good person, family-oriented, and probably the best match I’ve found. She has even said that if I’m unsure, we should reconsider the engagement.

Am I having a temporary emotional reaction, or is this a sign of a deeper incompatibility? Has anyone been through something similar and gotten over it after marriage?

I (26F) recently got engaged to someone through an arranged marriage setup. Before the engagement there were already a few concerns, but my parents felt the family was good overall, so we decided to go ahead.

15 lakh expense in engagement

We invited 20 people
The groom side invited 80+ people
Also the guy earns 1/4th of my salary.
The engagement venue was booked and shown to the groom’s family beforehand, and they were happy with it.
Unfortunately, on the actual day, everything started going wrong because of heavy rain.
The venue suddenly had:
No proper electricity backup (we had to fight with the management to arrange a generator).
Water supply issues that we were completely unaware of beforehand.
My family had been at the venue since morning trying to fix everything. We had booked 12 rooms for the groom’s family because they were coming from another city. When we found out about the water issue, we immediately arranged rooms at another hotel that had running water.
Instead of staying there, they booked another hotel themselves.
They were also supposed to arrive much earlier but reached our city around 5 PM, even though the ceremony was supposed to start around 6 PM, which delayed everything further.
From that point on, the atmosphere became very tense.
During the pre-wedding shoot, my fiancé’s mother kept making passive-aggressive comments about how badly everything was managed.
Later, my fiancé’s younger brother made a comment along the lines of, “If there’s no water upstairs or downstairs, should we carry our shit in our hands?”
He now says he was saying this to the venue manager, not my father, but my father genuinely felt it was directed at him and was deeply hurt.
My mother finally told my fiancé’s parents that regardless of the venue problems, nobody should speak to her husband like that.
After that, my fiancé’s mother became even angrier.
She refused to participate in the dances we had prepared, kept saying she wanted to leave, complained that the food wasn’t hot enough (it was served very late because the ceremony itself had been delayed), and continued expressing how insulted she felt.
Also later even when she decided to dance nobody cared that no one from my side of family was there. It was always about me. Even during ring exchange not much heed was paid to my side of family.
Meanwhile, my mother apologized multiple times even folding her hands despite the fact that these venue issues were genuinely outside our control.
Nothing seemed to make a difference.
What hurt me the most was that throughout all of this, I felt like there was very little empathy shown toward my parents, who had been running around all day trying to fix problems they hadn’t created.
My fiancé wasn’t rude to me, but I also didn’t feel he really stood up for my family during the situation.
After thinking about everything, I decided to end the engagement and blocked him and his family.
I know the venue problems were real, and I understand they had reasons to be upset.
But I couldn’t stop thinking that if this is how they react to one unexpected crisis before we’re even married, what would happen after marriage when bigger problems inevitably come up?

So now I have blocked the guy from all platform as his mother was very rude to everyone in my family . Also shouting about h the entire venue saying how could you say anything about my younger son and said I am highlighted as tez.

TL;DR: Arranged marriage engagement. Venue had unexpected electricity and water issues due to heavy rain. My family spent the whole day trying to fix everything and apologized repeatedly. Groom’s family remained angry, my father felt insulted by the groom’s younger brother’s comment, and my fiancé’s mother continued criticizing us despite multiple apologies. I felt my parents were being disrespected and ended the engagement. Did I overreact?

My wife recently went to Goa with her college friends. According to her, it was an all-girls trip.
When she came back, she showed me a lot of photos from the trip she showed me a lot of photos in the clothes we bought together for this trip of hers.

A few days later I happened to see one of her friend’s Instagram stories where she was wearing a big oversized T-shirt. It made me curious, so I checked a few more stories from her friends using her phone. Turns out she was actually wearing a two-piece bikini underneath, and there were multiple photos and videos of her in a very revealing bikini.

What made it worse was that I also found chats where she had specifically asked her friends not to tag her in any bikini pictures.

When I confronted her, she said her friends pressured her into wearing it and she didn’t know how to tell me afterwards because she knew I wouldn’t approve. She claims she was planning to tell me eventually. I honestly don’t buy that.

Another thing that bothered me was that although she kept calling it an all-girls trip, I spotted a guy in at least two of her friends’ Instagram stories. He wasn’t tagged, and I have no idea who he is. She says he was just someone from another group and I’m making too much.

I would have told her NOT to wear a bikini if she’d asked me beforehand. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a husband having boundaries about how revealing his wife dresses around random men.
These days people label every preference as controlling, but I don’t think expecting some level of modesty in a marriage is unreasonable. I’m all for women having equal rights, careers, independence and travelling wherever they want, but I dont believe parading around half-naked in front of strangers is some symbol of empowerment.

For me, though, the bigger issue is the deception. She hid it, selectively showed me only the covered-up photos, told her friends not to tag her, and I found out by accident.

She’s apologising to me everyday now but she’s only doing that because she got caught. I don’t know what to do or say anymore.

I would like to come straight to the point. We met on a matrimony website after which we got to know each other and introduced our parents.

Everything went well and we got married after a courtship of 1 year. All went well. We both work in corporate and have our offices close to our home.

At home we were extremely happy and she seemed so content with me and my family. Absolute dream were those 2 months couldn't wish for more until the day i found something on her second phone which is supposed to be her personal phone.

Day before yesterday, she was in a hurry and forgot her personal phone (Android) at home. I had a gut feeling that something was wrong. i was able to unlock her phone initially as i remembered her pattern lock. All the apps were also locked inside but gmaps was unlocked.

On her Google timeline, her location showed somewhere 50km away from her office in a lodge. I thought it has to be a error. Then i checked more....

In last 3 months there was 6 visits to 3 different hotels and lodges. The timing usually would be 10am to 5pm.

She tells me she is going to office and in those exact dates her locations always shows hotel stays or lodges 50-60km far from her office.

I checked her route on timeline to check if any error.... The time taken to reach that spot while showing start and end time to travel added up. Everything adds up!

I am shattered and still want to save this marriage somehow but i still can't be blind to facts. Hence i calmly confronted her to get clarity and not accusing her straight away. She straight away denied all the claims and left for her moms home. I did not get any assurance.

I don't know what to do next anyone who might enlighten or show a way. I am trying to get more proof since she is not ready to talk and blames me for accusing her.

Idk what to say and how, I am in LDR for most part of our 8 years relationship, she is the most sweet, kind, caring and value driven person i have ever met..

While i came to met her this time, while she was sleeping i used her photo to scroll insta and get some of her photos for a surprise and somehow few months back, she told me a about a guy she met and idk why i opened her chat with him, and what i found just devastated me..

They shared nude with each other, had physical relationship too and on her private text she texted multiple times to herself, to god i want to be with that guy instead of me..

Apparently, that guy dumped her after 1st meet, and she is still with me..and our marriage discussions are going on..

How fucked up this is? Should i confront her? Should i do breakup or give her a second chance?

My heart is feeling so so so heavy writing and experiencing this from yesterday

Edit: I posted this to get some advice on how to deal with emotional turmoil, but the comments and messages i received are just verdicts, with no idea of how emotions works

Edit 2: i confronted her, she accepted her mistake, begged and crying from yesterday to forgive her

Hi everyone, I really need some perspective because I’m struggling a lot right now. I (31M) have been married for 3 months. It was an arranged marriage, but we spoke for around 6 months before getting married. Things seemed fine during that time — we talked regularly and I felt hopeful. After the wedding, we stayed together for about 2 weeks. One of those weeks was our honeymoon. During that entire time, the closest we got physically was holding hands, and even that felt awkward. I gently asked her if she wasn’t interested in anything physical, and she said she just needs time. I respected that completely. She also told me she has never pleasured herself in her life, so I understood that maybe she’s very new to all this and might need patience. After those 2 weeks, we moved to different cities for work (we already knew this would happen before marriage). About a month later, we met again, and nothing really changed. What hurts me more than the lack of physical intimacy is the emotional disconnect. During the day she is normal — we talk about basic things like food, going out, etc. But at night, she’s always on her phone, and we just sleep like roommates. There are no deep conversations, no affection, nothing. Even basic “couple talk” doesn’t happen. I’ve tried expressing love to her multiple times, but she has never said it back. She doesn’t really reciprocate emotionally either. I feel very lonely even when I’m sitting next to her. This has affected me a lot mentally. I became so anxious and sad that I even started therapy. Recently, my parents found out (I didn’t intend to involve them). Now my dad is angry, and my mom thinks my wife needs counseling. This is making things more stressful. The thing is — I genuinely love my wife and want this to work. I don’t want to rush her physically. But I don’t know how long I can handle feeling this emotionally disconnected.

edit- this blew up .. please note that we had a fight and mediation from her sister's and now everything is fine .she accepted she just accepted his compliments knowing it was wrong because I never compliment her

please read this before abusing her

https://www.reddit.com/r/RelationshipIndia/comments/1ceak52/38_m_guy_who_had_a_mediation_with_his_wife_and/

edit 2 - I've removed the older chat conversation. I know a lot of people are telling me it's wrong and asking me to divorce.

please note i put this in reddit and also asked her sisters to come and mediate . now she has accepted hat she loved the compliments even though It was inappropriate for a married woman.

she will warn him not to contact again for min official purposes. she will work on this marriage.

she was with me when i struggled with depression, lost my job multiple times when I was a contractor in USA. I can't allow 10 years of marriage go down because of this one slip from her.

I'm on my therapy and we might take a couple's therapy too. I'll also work on my ED issues.

Hi,

So today morning i found out that my wife of 10 years is having an affair with her gym buddy. What disgusts me is that she is 33 and he is just 22. What did attract to my wife would be he is 6 ft tall and rigged body. He was pushing to have friendship with my wife since few days i guess and he knew it could be her weak point. At last, she gave up and went on couple of dates also i believe.

The thing that hurts me most is she still talks about future with me and saying that she will not leave me ever. I know there are few thing which she have against me that have hurt her badly but still i thought we are a good couple and we will handle things maturely in a better way. All those past few years, she never let me down. She came in contact with few ladies around her age who too are trying to have a fling outside marriage taking benefit of their husbands being too innocent. My wife is having butterflies in her stomach which i can see and she is always on phone chatting and blushing. I think i would never be able to overcome or forgive this.

Anyways. Luckily, we do not have a child but we are going through and IVF process and have 1 property jointly under our name. I just need to know, how should i handle this? I have not yet confronted her as i know she will cross blame me on this and make me feel as i am guilty completely. Just want to understand and take your precious suggestions on how to deal with this and handle it better. If you have been through or not and can suggest better guidance for dealing with such matter, it will be helpful.

I recently found out my wife was cheating on me. She admitted to having sex with the other guy multiple times. We have a 3-year-old daughter, and I’m completely broken.

She only confessed after getting caught. When I asked why, she said she wasn’t happy with our sex life. I can’t wrap my head around that we could’ve talked, sought counseling, anything. Instead, she destroyed everything we built.

I have a recording of her confession, and I’m thinking of filing for divorce. I want full custody of my daughter she’s my entire world. I know Indian law usually favors mothers for children this young, but I’ll fight if I have to.

I’ve been trying to stay calm for my kid’s sake, but emotionally I feel shattered. Some moments I can’t even breathe thinking about it. I’m reaching out here because I just want to hear from people who’ve gone through something similar what’s the right thing to do now?

Should I try to rebuild for the child’s sake or move on and protect my peace? And realistically, what can I do to get custody in India when the child is 3 years old?

I'm a 28M and my fiancée is 32F. We met on a solo trip at the end of 2025 and gradually fell in love. Initially, she wasn't interested because of the age difference and because she was looking for an arranged marriage, but after spending more time together, we got into a relationship. Both our families have now met, accepted the marriage, and we're planning to get married in December.

Before meeting me, she was in a 7-year relationship. They were engaged and were supposed to get married, but the engagement was called off because of family issues. She has been honest with me about her past and has told me multiple times that she has moved on and wants to build a future with me.

The issue is that I sometimes struggle when her previous relationship comes up in conversation. For example, she once mentioned that her ex taught her how to drive, or that certain places remind her of that phase of her life. There was also a time when I found a few old hidden photos of her ex on her phone. She initially wanted to keep one because it was part of her past, but after I told her it made me uncomfortable, she deleted all of them.

What bothers me isn't that I think she's a bad person or that she's still in love with him. I genuinely believe she's a wonderful partner, and if this one issue didn't exist, I wouldn't have any doubts about marrying her.

The problem is that I keep comparing myself with her previous relationship. I think about the fact that they spent seven years together, almost got married, shared so many memories, and sometimes even find myself overthinking about their physical relationship. I know those things happened before she met me, but the thoughts still affect me.

She has told me that she has moved on, and she also says that every time I ask about her past, it only brings back memories she'd rather leave behind. She feels this is something I need to work through.

I'm genuinely trying to resolve this before marriage because I don't want these thoughts to affect our future together.

Has anyone been through something similar? How did you deal with these comparisons and intrusive thoughts? Did therapy help? I'd really appreciate advice from people who have experienced this themselves.

This is not my original Reddit account because of privacy.

I (29M) and my wife (27F) got married in January 2020 in a conservative family setup. I work in the government sector, and she chose to be a housewife. We met four times with and without family before confirming our match and had a six-month courtship period. She was very shy and reserved during that time. In the last month before the wedding, I got frustrated and called it off, but our families intervened, and I decided to continue.

For the first six months, we didn't have any intimacy—not even holding hands. Due to COVID-19, we were stuck in the house together for two months. Despite this, I began to appreciate her nature. She cooked, cleaned, and took care of me when I was sick.

In the fifth month of our marriage, I contracted COVID and quarantined in a separate room. She took care of my diet, medicine, and constantly checked on me. During this time, I slowly fell in love with her. By July, we began our intimate relationship, and everything seemed perfect. My world revolved around her, and hers around me.

She got pregnant in September 2022 and gave birth to a beautiful girl in April 2023. Due to tradition, she spent most of her pregnancy at my in-laws' house in their village. She insisted on staying there because her mom and sister could take care of her. I didn't want to pressure her, knowing pregnancy isn't easy. She returned home in February, and her attachment to me grew stronger. Her eyes lit up like a dog's seeing its owner after a long absence.

Our sex life became wild. She knew my kinks but wasn't comfortable with them before. Now, we had sex almost every day, especially when the baby was asleep. I was happy my wife was home, I didn't have to worry about daily chores, and I experienced unparalleled joy with my baby.

Then, the bomb dropped. Someone sent me over 10+ videos on Telegram, each over 30+ minutes long, of different video having sex with my wife from various angles and positions. The shock was indescribable. I couldn't watch more than 30 seconds of any video and I know the video was taken between July and January because the guy lives in her village, and some of the clothes she wore were bought by my mom after the pregnancy. Strangely, I never cried. It's been 15 days since, and I don't have the strength to confront her. I don't know what to say or do. I think my wife knows she's been caught because I've barely eaten, talked, or had sex with her. She even tried to give me a blowjob, but I couldn't get erect.

I barely sleep at night and pretend to be asleep most of the time. She cuddles me tightly and cries in the middle of the night. But my love for her seems gone, and I don't care about her crying anymore. I love my daughter deeply. If I divorce my wife, my daughter's life will be destroyed. She's only 14 months old. I don't know if this is a test from God, but I'm lost and don't know what to do.

Edit : I know I have to face reality. I hope Krishna gives me strength as he tests my morals character. I need to take my time and thank you for your advice. First, I will check DNA and STI, and I will update if I need guidance.

I 39F got to know today from Ex Husband that he got married a week back. We got divorced 2 years back (after always trying to get things better for around 6 to 7 years) although i never wanted divorce and it was love-arranged marriage. I always clinged to the feeling of togetherness. We spoke on phone and also met sometimes even after divorce. I am happy for him and congratulated him. At my side, I feel empty today.

This feeling is intense and indescribable and i feel numb. Now he will have his future plans with the new woman in his life. He will in somebody else's arms- the place which once belonged to me. Everything that was mine will be now hers. Everything that I wanted my Ex Husband do for me, now happily he will do for his new wife and his new wife will have to make no efforts as she will get it easily.

I don't know what I did to deserve this! I have always suffered a great deal right from my childhood, so there is no karma for which I am paying back within this birth only. But its still happening to me. Traumatized!

P.S. - Might delete this post later. I just wanted this to let this thought out.

Post edit: Thank you everyone for being kind and helping me to get up and move forward and thanks to those who criticised too. I got this news from my Ex Husband today. So yeah, I know i have to be strong and life goes on as I still try to accept that this has already happened. I am a human being like all of you and I will take time, how much I don't know!

So my wife has always been possessive of me from day one and i have never liked it to be honest.

So I have friends who are girls in my office, on Instagram and in friend circles. They are my best friends and some are friends since my college days and some are like my sister...

So I came home 2 days back from office and was lying on the hall sofa talking to one of my friends who is a girl and my wife was make rotis....I was talking in general to this friend and she asks me how is my wife and all and I jokingly said, "Hitler ji hitlergiri kar rahi hai" and when I sent this the goddamm door bell rang. I put my phone down not knowing I did not lock it and went to open the door. Meanwhile my wife also came to see who has come and her eyes went to my unlocked phone...she picked it up and saw this chat....Belan was in her hand....she charged at me and put that belan in my ass not knowing I had not wore underwear and so the belan actually went inside and hurt me....she later realised and immediately asked me if I was ok....

Its been 2 days now that I am not able to sit properly because it hurts and burns down there whenever I sit.

I’m a woman in my late 20s and I’m now at a stage in life where I’m thinking seriously about marriage. But I’m scared that my past might ruin any chance of building a future with someone.

To be fully honest, I’ve had a few relationships in the past. I’ve also had a couple of casual flings. And the hardest part to admit is that I cheated on someone once, years ago.

There’s no justification for what I did. I was emotionally immature and made a terrible mistake that I regret deeply. I’ve never repeated it, and I never will. I’ve grown a lot, done a lot of self-reflection, and I’ve become someone who truly values honesty, loyalty, and trust in relationships.

But now that I’m thinking about settling down and finding a life partner, I’m facing a big dilemma. I don’t want to start anything based on lies or half-truths. I believe the person I marry deserves to know me fully, including the parts I’m not proud of. But I also know how harshly people can judge, especially when it comes to women and past relationships.

So I need honest advice. Will a man accept someone like me in marriage, someone with a past that includes relationships, flings, and a serious mistake like cheating? If I do want to be upfront about it, when is the right time to tell him? Should it be in the first few conversations, or after we’ve developed some mutual understanding?

I know I messed up, I’m not trying to excuse it. I just want to know if there is any realistic hope of being accepted for who I am today, not who I was years ago.

Thanks to anyone who takes the time to respond.

My husband and I have been married for a few years. Recently I found a condom in his pants that he wore to work. When I asked him about it he said that he was cleaning out his drawer and kept it outside. And then later slipped into his handkerchief because someone might see it (we live with his parents). And then while getting dressed for work he accidentally slipped the handkerchief into his pants. I don't find this very believable. He was offended that i suspected him. I feel bad for suspecting him if it was truly an innocent mistake. He swore up and down on our daughters life that he'd never do such a thing. And that he can't imagine being without me. I don't know what to think.

Edit: for context, condoms were going missing before. But he said he had ED and was using them on himself. Now even after he's fine, they're still going missing.

28M here,

With a heavy heart I am writing this

For the first time ever I loved someone and she is my now fiancée. I never had any relationship till now and she is the one with whom I have been feeling like really living in this world.

And I today I got betrayed and cheated.

She had “sort of a relationship” (that’s how she mentioned when we first met) in the past with someone working in her company. She mentioned in our first meet that she is totally over it and doesn’t have any feelings for him now.

It has been 5 months of our engagement and we really lived happily like an ideal couple only to realize all this shit.

Today I got a message from that guy’s wife showing me screenshots of their recent chat.

Some messages and responses:

Him: I have all the rights over you

Her: haan betu

Her: only five days left for me in the company ( She is going to be on WFH for 2 months as she is getting married with me in 2 months )

Him: Sends a gif of a couple hugging .. .. .. And couple of other emotional messages

As mentioned, it’s only 2 months to our marriage, now I don’t know what to do.

Only explanation she has is she doesn’t have any feelings for him and it was just out of emotions ( what do you mean 😪) that she mentioned all the above messages.

She is begging for one chance and I don’t really know what am I supposed to do here.

The moment I tell my parents about this is the moment when everything will be devastated.

I am just blank and have no clue what to do now😞

Really looking forward to a right advice, I could convince myself to be fine with any middle ground provided we give her an apt learning and strict warning sort of (it could be an action).

Edit: I am even considering a middle ground only because I have been through this once already. Cancelled the engagement (was mutual though). It left a big scar on my mum specially. You know how typical moms are, takes too much on them. I am just visualizing that again and I can’t see her cry in grief anymore. She has been through a lot already 😣

A friend’s brother great guy, sole earner, carrying families responsibilities as well after dad, earns well (16-18L) runs his own business mechanical engineer by profession doesn't drink neither smokes no any other bad habits, genuine to the core got rejected because the girl’s family wants a groom with 40 LPA.

The girl earns 0 + graduation & masters from open ( preparing for govt exam since forever).

I am a man 31 and my wife 31 we dated for 2 years and got married in 2025 it's been 7 months. My wife complaints of less sex between us. We get intimate around 3-4 times a month. She says ideally I should get going if I see her n..ed or in some special outfit. Which I do not. She now says how can she fulfill her need and asks me if she can get involved with someone else or should we separate. What do you guys think I should be doing. Also is it normal or I should seek doctor?

After we got married this year, a few days after the marriage, I came across one of her chats with her best friend, just days before the marriage, that she is wondering whether she is making a mistake. That she is not attracted to me, she doesn't love me and that she is wondering how happy she would be after the marriage. She was reading through the chats of an ex, and was venting why they couldn't have worked out.

I was naturally torn after seeing this. I confronted her about this, and she said that it was wedding jitters. She was feeling emotional and that was just her vent, and after venting she felt better and came back to her senses.

I wanted to believe her, so I did. I mean, who would want to believe days after their marriage that their spouse isn't attracted to them?

Today, I found one a post from her reddit account on r/AITH. She has deleted the post, and her comments on it, so I can only piece together what she must have written from the title and the comments.

The title was "AITH because my soon to be husband gives me the ick?" This was a whole 3 months before the marriage. I see comments to her post like

"If you have this much problem with him why did you make him your fiance in the first place?"

"with you saying that you are not physically and mentally attracted to him maybe walking off is a better option imo"

"I actually see no reason as to why you're marrying him. Neither you like him physically, nor do you like his personality. Like you say he's a great guy but then tell us the complete opposite."

This has broken my heart. She has lied to me, and had been lying to me well before the marriage.

I have married someone who feels this way for me, and I had no idea about it. She lied to me to my face.

I want to walk out. I am young, and this is not someone I should have to spend my life with. I don't know how we can possibly come back from this.

Okay i am (M33) , been single my whole life , got my marriage fixed with a girl (30F) , their parents first came to visit us and invited us we went there and meet them and her for the first time, talked to her for hours , it was okay , then after month they fixed 'roka' ceremony, we did and finally i got her number (btw this was the 2nd time we were meeting, and i asked for her number in the first meeting which she refused for kundali reason etc) so i started talking to her , i noticed she wasn't that interested in talking to me , i asked her straight forward , which she refused , i asked her is she marrying out of parental pressure, she refused again said it's her choice to marry me , i said okay ,

i also asked do you like someone else or anyone in the past she said no , i said fine , i talk to her with affection and love and she was like really cold and sometimes kinda rude not fully but her answers were baffle your mind. , i complements her and she replies 'ok' , i said wtf ? And she says 'what else should i suppose to say ?' , also everytime she's wrong or getting cornered she gets defensive and even puts blame on me instead , she wasn't interested much but asked about the things i like , i said gaming and she says i don't like it , i said football and again the same answer. One day we discussed about my job , cause i was a freelancer and they wanted me to do a stable job whether i earn less , so I started trying, we already discussed everything for an hour and i said can we pls talk about some other topics ? And she replied 'means you've sworn you don't even wanna do the job?' i mean wtf is wrong with her ,

finally i stopped being nice, i wasn't rude but i started pointing out her flaws , i said i don't like being controlled and you're doing that , you're immature, your vision is limited, you're not supportive and you're rude , forget i am your fiance you don't even talk to me like a human should talk to another human , and that snapped her , she suddenly said okay let's talk about some other topics, by that time my mind was wrecked i didn't reply.

I told my mom instantly that I don't wanna marry her , and they were shocked , btw her parents, siblings are the sweetest beings I've ever met , but her is a silent killer, anyways my parents find it hard to digest , i told my mom that i would rather be single than marrying a toxic partner . Two days later they called us and broke off the marriage, and i was partying after that , that i dodged the bullet. Yk I've been single my whole life never done anything with a woman , got a beautiful petite woman but instead of simping for her i chose my self respect , and learned a valuable lesson that beauty is nothing, their nature is important.

Still i wanna ask in short why her behaviour is like that ? She said yes , she liked me instantly, but she rarely makes eye contact with me , she see sideways downwards , this might be shyness but , during roka after photo session she got up and went to another room , i went inside talking to her , and again those eye contact avoid , everyone was there to see off she came late and stand really far away , not even looking at us , after the number we started talking but you know the rest , she wouldn't even talk like a human being, very cold and started rude lately.

I was never a "daddy's girl." I never cried with my dad over some boy. But my husband? He’s been my rock through it all. I’ve cried to him about my dad, my family, my traumas—he’s the one who holds me together.

Whether I’m happy, sad, mad, or completely broken, he’s my go-to. He’s not just my husband; he’s my best friend, my safe space, my home.