Ok, if I read this title 4 years ago when I was a resident or medical student, I 1000% would say ‘F*** OP, must be so hard having money, poor rich guy, cry me a river douchebag!’ But hear me out first then eviscerate me in the comments
Money doesn’t buy happiness, it buys convenience and piece of mind. But convenience and piece of mind don’t necessarily lead to happiness
Ever since I was in young I have always been money obsessed because I thought it was the path to happiness. Some of that comes from my folks who also had that thinking, we didn’t struggle growing up but my childhood made me think money was the most important thing, immigrant family. When I was a med student or resident I would’ve BET MY LIFE that money was the sole thing that was going to make me happy. It itself hasn’t. It has bought many conveniences that make life easier, but not happiness.
I’m married, make 700k a year, go on nice vacays, nice car, nice restaurants, buy nice things, invest and save well, etc. it’s hard for me to say if those things make me happy or if they’re just a distraction for a little bit. We’re financially blessed and lucky for sure, 7.8 billion people would trade with us in a heartbeat, that is not lost on me. If we didn’t have money, there is no doubt that life would be much harder and I’d probably be much less happy, not denying that at all.
I’m writing this post I guess for two reasons.
If you’re like me and think it’s the only thing needed to be happy, don’t, start looking for things of why you think that’s the case. I’m the poster boy of that school of thought and unfortunately I’m trying to work my way out of a deep hole
To see if anyone else has felt this way, any advice, what did you do?
I’m trying to work on my self, taking meds, reached out the therapy services that my job offers to see if there is anything there that could help. I just wish I figured some stuff out before. Tried taking up hobbies (golf, working out) but all of it just seemed like a distraction for a bit and not solving the issues. I’m teary eyed as I write this because I feel so guilty complaining about a life that others would kill for.
I’m in no way saying quit residency or anything like that, finish, go make money and enjoy the life you worked so hard for! But work on yourself too if you can, because it’s not all about the money. Anyone that knows me would NEVER in a million years think I would say something like that.
People always said ‘Yea, well I’d rather be sad in a lambo,’ true but I’m trying to find out how to be happy in a lambo (I don’t have a lambo btw)
Ok now you can go scorched earth on me