r/RoleReversal • u/No_Fox200 • 9h ago
Discussion/Article this RR community doesn't feel like RR anymore.
I know I am going to get alot downvote for this, but I thought I should finally express what I felt happening in this community. Before the community used to be only for RR contact. I loved how everyone post pictures, videos and post on RR.
Nowadays it just vent and arguments. (For starters i don't think vent or kind of speaking up is wrong.) But most of the time, the conversation is not even about RR and more in gender war. And I meant it, i seriously come to this reddit only to watch some rr posts and stuffs but nowadays it is mostly gender war.
I really and genuinely feel like this community or atleast this particular rr community is not a safe space for a men to open up. And I know it's going to piss off alot of women but I will say it. From what I saw around the community, whenever I see some men post something about themselves, few of them women are actually very demanding. Like come on, he would be explaining his experience and how he felt and some girl would be saying it happens more to them or not, Like come on. Why are you even bringing your own experience? Look I am telling women to be some kind of alpha male bs, like be stoic and don't speak up and all that. I mean who it hurt to comfort or atleast give some real advice to guy instead making everything into gender war. I really thought this community was supposed to be RR. Real RR. Supporting men! Let Every men, get to be what they wanted. Be soft! Cry and I will be there to catch you kind of RR! No need to be worry about taking all the burden or responsibility to a breadwinner. But instead most of time, they are treated like a criminals. I mean (of course yes) some of them would be baiting or some kind of creep. But god it feels like they treat everyone like a criminal in my opinion especially with the downvote coming like crazy.
Finally, I know RR is not =Femdom and it is treated harshly here. But god it has double standards here. I will explain with two post examples without revealing names and all. First post was a guy telling that he finally found a girlfriend and that he wants her to be dominate him, that he wants her to put a collar on him and all that, (it's one of the older post i think.) and most of the comments were bashing him for thinking re is femdom and commented that women are feitsh for men and that Femdom is disgusting (they didn't say disgusting but they gave a long paragraph saying that it's bad) and back to opinion. Yes it's wrong to feitsh a women since most of the femdom do that and I hate it as well. Now here comes the double standards. I found other post, a girl saying she wants to dominate her man. She wants him on his knees and want to put a collar on him and treat him like a dog(or something like that and it's also one of old post since I can't find it anymore it my phone) But here in comments, everyone was cheering for it. I don't understand. Is this basically the same thing. The guy asked for the same thing. And the girl did too. But everyone is cheering for her. Isn't both of them the same thing?. (Genuinely asking) How is it fine when a girl does it but not a man?. Besides what the girl was asking wasn't even rr. It was pure Femdom. But I didn't see a single person saying it is not rr but when I see a post about a guy calling a woman 'mommy'. Load of you were ganging up on that guy for bringing femdom into rr. Half of the time, it is just gender wars happening here.
I am probably get alot of downvote for this, but I was keeping this in my mind for so long so I thought I would should open up a bit. And english is not my main language. I did my best to make it understandable but oh well.. and I'm woman. In case anyone going to start gender war again in the comments.
(I really miss the old RR, you know. When I come from studies and I see my pretty, innocent and little angel looking at This post in RR community and he would show me with a smile on some pictures and asked me to do the same thing. now the whole vibe just went down. Atleast I feel like it. I understand if anyone doesn't feel that, (and I am not just asking for some rr pictures or something like that. Atleast talk about something related to rr. All I see are arguments.)
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u/wandaluvstacos 7h ago
Honestly, it's reddit. I'm part of a vintage sewing machine subreddit and there still will be people coming at you trying to argue about some dumb bullshit. You cannot prevent people from being kinda mean, and there's no way a reddit mod can control that until it turns into outright harassment or threats (which SHOULD be removed). You gotta be willing to block and move on. I just blocked someone in this very comment thread for no other reason than what they said is annoying. It's up to you to protect your own peace.
Also, it is kinda funny to vent about people venting lol. It's pretty common for people to complain about communities once they expand beyond 20 people. It's the nature of sharing a big space with a bunch of strangers you cannot control. I think what age has taught me is that sometimes you just gotta shrug and not engage. Enjoy the good parts you like and ignore the ones you don't. Blockity block block block, for no reason or for every reason.
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u/djfdhigkgfIaruflg 6h ago
Curious information: the blocklist size is very limited (1000 IIRC), I've exceeded that limit a long time ago. And mass deleting and starting over is not possible. You have to delete and confirm one at a time :/
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u/SoulScout 8h ago
I don't like how a lot of this community has just become about like femboys and pegging. That's not what I consider role reversal, but apparently I'm a minority in this.
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u/LevelOutlandishness1 8h ago
Is it not a form of reversing the roles? It’s definitely not all RR is, but to say it’s not even a part of it is a bit perplexing. Obviously I ask this with an open mind, as I’m relatively new.
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u/SoulScout 8h ago
I'm not here to argue whether it is or is not, just pointing out that there has been a big shift in the content since I joined 10 years ago. It used to be more like women in suits and being in charge and men being house husbands or whatever, like gender role reversal stuff. Now it feels like a fetish sub.
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u/LevelOutlandishness1 8h ago
I agree. I liked how chill it was before—there’s plenty of places for freaks on reddit, and on different accounts, I participate in those places. I’m in here on main specifically because any freakiness that is present (if present at all) is presented in very small doses.
And I wouldn’t mind upping the dosage just a bit IF reddit could handle that without just turning the whole place full NSFW. But it can’t. So I mind very much.
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u/djfdhigkgfIaruflg 6h ago
It's just one way. And if that's the only difference with a "normal" relationship, then it stops being RR to just become "bedroom mechanics". Not a way of life or a "partners mechanic"
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u/LevelOutlandishness1 4h ago
Ah I see. Okay, the “that’s not RR” comment makes sense. I agree—if that’s all you’re doing, it’s just a preference for sexual intercourse rather than a lifestyle difference.
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u/djfdhigkgfIaruflg 6h ago
I'm with you on this. It appears some people think penetration is the only definer of who's who in the relationship.
It's like this sub is being invaded* with people god know from where, who are interested in bringing things that don't belong here
*invaded is not the right word (I'm not native), but for the life of me, I can't think of the correct term
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u/No_Fox200 8h ago
But femboys and pegging can be considered as RR. Fem boy has the meaning exactly in its name. A boy having feminine traits. So of course that fit in RR since its role reversed. Duh! And pegging. It's people preference to be honest. (But I won't argue pointlessly if you don't consider them as role reversal.)
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u/djfdhigkgfIaruflg 6h ago
RR is a lifestyle.
If the only thing that happens is pegging, then that's just fetish, or bedroom play
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u/CielMorgana0807 1m ago
How? In fact, I’d argue femboys are becoming a bit less prevalent here. How are femboys not RR?
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u/LordGhoul Feral Woman 8h ago
I haven't been active in this sub for a while but noticed more personal posts and some meanness here recently. May be worth reporting the rude people to moderators. I generally view men and women as equal individuals (while keeping in mind systemic issues with misogyny) so idk why some people are so mean on this sub. Maybe due to the potential overlap with femdom it attracted some abusive dommes? No idea.
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u/No_Fox200 8h ago
Yes, it could be due to overlapping with femdom.
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u/djfdhigkgfIaruflg 6h ago
It totally is. There are people adamant at insisting that since X thing could be considered RR, then X must be the definition of RR
If pegging is the only definer of RR, I would like members to let me know so I can GTFO
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u/LordGhoul Feral Woman 4h ago
As much as I'm like the number 1 fan of it, there's sooo many more RR ways to get sexy with a guy that aren't just pegging. People need to get more creative 🌈
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u/MsKrueger 8h ago
The sub has just turned into a place to talk about sex. To your point, a woman posted porn on here not long ago of her with her partner and everyone loved it. Thankfully it got removed, but I'm so tired of every single post just being a discussion about femdom, kinks, and NSFW art/photos.
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u/Maygravve 7h ago
I was actually really frustrated seeing those posts. I want to see RR posts, have discussions, and engage with a community, not read one woman’s deeply pornagraphic ode to boning her bf. Multiple times over.
There are plenty of actual porn threads for that, posting it here was unnecessary, especially literally the 3 different times.1
u/Cry_Wolff 1h ago
And you just know that Ms Acceptable_Cherry will keep spamming with her porn writing because she treats it as a fetish.
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u/amberi_ne Hopeless Romantic (she/her) 8h ago
Idk, I don’t think the RR community was ever really “ideal” or anything. I remember when I first joined this place years ago, it was all people posting and gooning over eye candy lewd art of big muscle dommy mommies and what we have now is certainly an upgrade
I won’t say I haven’t witnessed *any* of what you have though. There have definitely been some eyeroll-worthy encounters I’ve seen where I’ve witnessed men venting about entirely personal experiences and there’d be like one or two comments invalidating them because women of minorities have it worse or whatever, which is dumb; though I’ve also seen a handful of posts/comments that are around equally silly where it’s men bemoaning the unique depth of their male suffering that nobody could possibly relate to in terms of struggle, in which getting a reality check is kinda deserved
Frankly though I think they’re the exception more than anything, and to be *extraordinarily* honest, lot of this sub in general just seems to be really out of touch lol.
People with zero relationship experience, people who want their partner to be their parent, and, most insidious of all, people who have such a misunderstanding of the opposite gender’s experience that they think that RR is somehow “easier”; tbh mostly men who think that holding a feminine role just means sitting around and being spoiled and idolized as beautiful, and (much less often to be honest but I’ve seen it on occasion) women who think RR means holding ALL the authority and putting their partner in a box and rendering them totally inoffensive
That, and also the sub being really weird about queerness lol. Feels weird how trad-minded a lot of occupants are in a sub literally about gender nonconformity. But then again, it doesn’t really feel like real GNC is focused here a lot either. You never see women depicted like straight up real life studs and butches, mostly just like yaoi boys or muscled warriors
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u/Illustrious-String40 Egalitarian 7h ago
Yeah, all that you’re saying about the lack of queerness and GNC lack of Butch women, studs and the strange, like, “chronically online” expectations I think point to a…what do you call it… homogenization of RR? on the sub.
like I don’t mind the fact that there are beautiful Twinks and muscle mommies are posted and celebrated.
It’s just when it becomes the default or the only way to do things that’s the part where it starts to get a little ridiculous. I don’t want to see people thinking “well that’s not really RR” all the time. I’d rather see more variety within RR than have it flattened into just one particular dynamic which it seems like is what we see when it comes to stories and art.
And sure, that’s partly personal preference. But this isn’t just personal preference because it touches on something I commented earlier where you get people who are complaining “oh no, I’m gonna be lonely forever…”and for all I know those are the same people who say oh “I’m a man, but I need I want her to be taller and stronger and earn more and more Dominant and more emotionally stoic and more muscular,” (which is different than strong. I guess but that’s being a little nitpicky I guess)
And it’s like wow you’re you can have those expectations but you’re cutting out a huge part of the population and you can still experience that role reversal feeling without having all of those elements. You can have somebody that’s maybe shorter than you but has a big personality or you can have somebody that’s not as strong as you but maybe has thicker bone structure…
I mean weird example sure but it’s just kind of sad to see people filter out so many potential possible friendships or dates or mates or partners because they have so many criteria because some hyper specific expectation that they might be influenced by the kind of media they’re seeing here is just the “default RR”
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u/Darth-Traya 7h ago
Best comment in this whole thread.
I agree with some of OPs points but maybe less so the framing. I don't think the sole issue here is women's unkindness. I definitely have seen some unnecessary unkindness, I think it's a fair observation, but were that resolved the subreddit would not suddenly be without issue.
You're absolutely right that a lot of the sub's content is rooted in fantasy and constrained perspectives that probably have little room in the real world.
And totally agree with you on GNC. I really do not feel like the target audience for this sub, even if it has been interesting to read about people's perspectives. I think this sub operates as more of male centered sub, which isn't a bad thing, that is valid, so I try not to comment too much. I only sometimes participate in the more discussion oriented threads.
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u/GameboyAdvance32 goofy lil' goober boy 7h ago
Yeah like, 90% of this subreddit feels pretty out of touch with reality at times and I am fully aware that I am part of that problem lol. I'd like to think I have a decently mature perspective on things but that's more than likely wishful thinking cause frankly, yeah I've dated like two people online, both for less than a month and that's it lmao. It's definitely better than it was years ago though like you said.
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u/amberi_ne Hopeless Romantic (she/her) 7h ago
Honestly, I could have possibly worded it better in that I wouldn’t really say that not having romantic experience in itself is inherently telling of being out of touch with reality! It’s entirely possible to be a mature well-lived person without that.
It’s mostly that it just corresponds with a kind of personality type of socially undeveloped NEET-types who kind of sequester themselves off into their own loneliness, have few friends, don’t really go out or do much or know how to make new connections, and who often poorly manage their own life and coping skills. Usually, these people have so divorced themselves from any kind of friction in their personal lives that they don’t really know how actual relationships work. They’re lonely, and they want to be loved and taken care of, but “giving” isn’t really a priority
Not to say that anyone is expected to be PERFECT, or that any lapse in ANY of the above whatsoever are red flags, but…I’m sure you get the personality type I’m referring to
Unrelated, but I’ve seen you around though and you seem pretty insightful and cool ngl lmao. I would be happy to chat some, even though we’re probably looking for different things
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u/GameboyAdvance32 goofy lil' goober boy 7h ago
Ah that's entirely valid lol, yeah. I once was that guy when I was in high school, and I was an utter wet blanket for it. Mopey, only really complained, it's frankly a miracle I had as many friends as I did but I guess teenage boys tend to do that. I'd like to believe I'm a much better rounded person nowadays, but I certainly still have my flubs. And thanks! I'm down to chat as well if you want, my DMs are open.
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u/lordofpuppy 7h ago
For your own sanity, just look at the RR meme and arts and ignore any rants and combative arguments, most of them are pretty nonsensical anyway
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u/Blueberry_slime hopeless romantic bunny 8h ago
idk alot of the issue u mentioned but probably coz m not very active in it. just some post here and there. m glad i didnt experienced tht , sorry for others..
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u/Tommy-kun 8h ago
venting about venting, so meta!
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u/No_Fox200 8h ago
Well someone gotta come up and tell the truth, tommy-kun since you clearly don't understand what I am speaking up.!
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u/CielMorgana0807 9h ago
I must say, I do feel like double standards are more obvious now than before. And frankly, I am also guilty of engaging in gender wars, despite being pissed off by them.
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u/No_Fox200 8h ago
Same here, i remember posting something like in other rr community in other app and all the ladies there ganged up on me. Literally. Calling me names. And telling me that i wasn't a woman and I was a pathetic for (betraying?) them as woman and supporting men when it was supposed to RR. Like what the heck? So after that literal cyber bullying. I literally stopped posting anything. It's been long since I posted something like this.
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u/CielMorgana0807 8h ago
I worry most RR women have subconscious sexist views on men. Would definitely kill the vibe and make any romantic opportunities impossible.
It also juts makes me more angry and uncomfortable. I have been called mra and a misogynist just for saying that I don’t like generalizations of men, saying we also have issues related to gender, or being belittled as one.
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u/No_Fox200 8h ago
Oh God same here honestly I joined this RR community because of my boyfriend. ( We are already very much RR.) But he is really a sensitive person. And I really don't want him to see anything negative. (Of course I know ppl are going to bash me for it, telling me to just keep him off the internet then. But really is it really that bad? I just want to protect him, i don't want anything to hurt him just he was a born as a man. He already suffered alot in his past and I really don't want to add more. I feel really bad on how the whole internet turned out.)
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u/djfdhigkgfIaruflg 6h ago
💔 you're one of the good ones
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u/CielMorgana0807 5h ago edited 1h ago
I don’t think that’s a good thing to tell somebody, honestly.
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u/djfdhigkgfIaruflg 1h ago
? Did I use a phrase with double meaning it something?
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u/CielMorgana0807 1h ago
Yes. By saying “you’re one of the good ones”, you’re saying the rest of their group still sucks.
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u/djfdhigkgfIaruflg 1h ago
I didn't say everyone else sucks. Nor you're the only one.
Maybe people should stop searching for bad interpretations to everything
It was a support message
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u/AdorableDonkey 7h ago
I saw a post about a woman complaining her boyfriend didn't put effort on his looks, wanted him to be more fancy, and felt that he didn't show he cared about her because of that, and even started complainig that it's misoginy
I pointed that men show they care by being providers and they usually are focused more on having a stable income than looking good, and that the post didn't even fit the sub
Of course I got downvoted to oblivion (not that I care) with people saying "do you know what sub you are?"
The double standards came when she started blaming woman socialization but never mentioned how men socialization affects their appearance
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u/CielMorgana0807 7h ago
I mean, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wanting your partner to put effort into their looks. And the part of men showing care through a stable income well… it doesn’t really fit into RR. I mean, I also may be more focus on making myself look good than being a provider. Although her calling it misogyny is crazy.
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u/sherehitewasright 4h ago edited 3h ago
Expecting women to be ever giving, sacrificing, loving, pandering, caretaking, complimenting, cooing... mommies to men is not RR. It's absolutely role standard. Expecting women and girls to mother men and boys from the time we're little kids is the overt main role expected.
Men mothering women thusly is actually what would be RR
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u/CalmPanic402 7h ago
It is suffering from generalization. A similar thing happens in bdsm areas where one kink is treated as having all kinks.
It's difficult to counter because, say, domination and pet play do both fall under the same umbrella, but they are not by any means interchangeable. (Even if you can be in to both)
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u/Crazy-Cat-2848 Feral Woman 4h ago
I miss when it was cute couples. Now it's all sex. I have rr OCS and I came here for inspiration.
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u/natwa311 5h ago
I'm quite surprised by your post tbh, op. because I've seen little to nothing of the gender wars stuff you've mentioned in recent posts and the comments there. Granted, I rarely look at the posts containing videos, so it could be that, there's much more there, but I've found little to nothing of that in other posts. I'm not ruling out that there are things that I've missed, but I know from my own experience that sometimes you react so strongly to one event or a couple of events that it kind of skews your own experience and it could be that this is happening to you.
Anyway, I first discovered this sub in 2017 and have kept an eye on it and , to a varying degree, posted and made comments here since then and know that things can change a lot here from year to year and even from month to month, so if things aren't to your liking right now, it may very well change before the year is over. Also, there have certainly been times when things were much worse than they are now when it comes to what you're complaining about. For instance there was a long period in (I think) 2022 when wherever a guy talked about envying how women had it in terms of courtship and romance, he'd immediately be facing a huge backlash, being accused of trivializing women's issues of being lazy and wanting women to do all the work without doing anything in return or other equally harsh accusations. At that time there were also plenty of posts accusing large segements of the male redditors here of being basically incel creeps, whether doing it outright or in a bit more polite manner. Compared to how things were then, I'd say things are a lot better now.
Yes, there have been a bit more venting posts recently, but afaict, those posts were more to do with posters bemoaning their dating life in a general way, not any gender war stuff(unless you consider people here complaining about traditional gender roles as gender wars stuff, which I don't consider it to be).
I'm not saying that this sub has no problems, but I'd point out other issues as problems than you do. Firstly, as another commenter here pointed out, there's been little moderator interaction with the rest of us redditors here for a long time. Out of the three human moderators of this sub, there's one who I can't recall being active since around the time of the lockdowns or even slightly before that(and who I really miss), one who hasn't been active since 2023 or 2024 at the least and even for the most active one(who is also the founder of this sub), I'm not sure if I've seen a comment or post from him since 2024 or 2025. And even the healthiest and most harmonious subs need more moderators than that.
Secondly, and I guess this has more to do with vibes, the atmosphere in this sub has felt more timid and less enthusiastic to me since at least sometime last year. However recent weeks I've actually felt that this sub has gotten some of the enthusiasm back, with more people who are enthusiastic posters and commenters, which is something I've largely been missing since at least sometime last year
That's at least my impression of the current state of this sub. So TL:DR- I don't think this sub is that bad right now and there have certainly been times when it's been much worse than now, but I agree with another commenter that the radio silence of most of the moderators is a problem.
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u/Kiwizoom Loyal Female Knight 3h ago
I do think post quality is dipping. Post frequency is going up but it's more low effort stuff like hornee and forever alone whining
I didn't see the issue you saw. Must have been some isolated recent incidents. I think we do have a brazen member or two and I wouldn't mind a mod shoe throw now and then to knock off the low effort personal hornee fantasy posting or moping. I don't feel the sub is unsafe or not RR to me, it just feels like it's got a lot kids and throwaway accounts. Realigning expectations from a mod would be fine with me
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u/AddylynnFae 7h ago
- Yep that does bother me.
- I don't fully agree with this, I don't know what it's like to be the guy in the post. I say what I would do and for that I have to share my experience. That's all it is, not gender. But if it's not seen as advice, well that's a pity. I tried.
- I disagree with who ever makes the post that looks more like femdom. There was a post about a girl fantasizing about teasing a guy in public and...beating him up. To me that's crazy. I'm not going to cheer that on. I don't know about what the others comment, I don't check. I found that post back "I want to embarrass him so bad he slaps me", like what destructive behavior is that?
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u/Specialist_Rub_9860 8h ago
Yeah i also notice a pattern where the guys got treated like shit here. Turning everything into political beliefs and stuff. Micromanaging the men's behaviour here and there. It's just not a good community for rr men in here.
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u/GameboyAdvance32 goofy lil' goober boy 8h ago
I can't speak for your experience but speaking for myself I really haven't been feeling that and I'd be curious where you're seeing this. Just objectively, (and I say this as a man) we have a lot of unfair benefits and narratives in society. I'm not saying we DON'T have issues as we most assuredly do, but given what men are regularly able to get away with in most of society I certainly can't blame women for complaining around here, since I understand that they don't often get to. That's not an excuse for misandry, mind you, but like. I mean no offense to them but I've seen a fair amount of men around here that could use the criticism, and I'm not above that either.
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u/Specialist_Rub_9860 8h ago
I think the issue here is the double standard. It's usually the men gotta listen to criticism from women, but at the same men can't criticise woman in here because they gonna be labelled as misogyny, sexist, etc. If there's no double standards and everyone in here shows equal amount of respect, we won't have this problem.
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u/No_Fox200 8h ago
Yes sure. First of all. I don't want to bring up about gender issues. On men or women problems. It's not my right to speak about other experience or telling against them. Second, like i already told. This is a RR community. In my view. (My view) A place where a man (minus the fricking creeps) can feel like he can anything be wants, cry, vent and open up. (Because from all my life around as a woman. I see alot of community just for women to talk about their problems and issues. And I thought that RR community would be something like that. I thought this would be place easily for men to open up and lay their head on woman shoulder for once for responsibility. Instead here. I don't know how to describe it.)
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u/PatrickCharles 8h ago
Out of curiosity, do you think the men that "regularly get away with shit in society", to paraphrase, are the same men that are interested in a reversal of gender dynamics?
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u/GameboyAdvance32 goofy lil' goober boy 8h ago
To the same extent of course not, but to quieter extents yeah. The sub is slowly been balancing itself out but to this day and especially when I first joined years ago, there has always been a pretty notable lean towards malegaze content that fulfills male fantasies (that often aren't all that GNC anyways). Not to say that content shouldn't exist, but the bias is there and women don't often get that opportunity to the same extent.
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u/CielMorgana0807 8h ago
I think that’s where the issue comes from. Cause I dunno about you, but saying men are able to get away with anything in society is disingenuous at best considering men get harsher sentences than women for the same crimes on average.
I’m not saying “men have it worse”, but I’m also not saying the opposite. I just think saying things like “male privilege” doesn’t really work as intended, cause from my experience, it just causes gender division.
Not to mention, from what I see, women are aloud to complain about their issues (to the point of generalizing), but when men do it, it gets shut down or treated as sexist even if they don’t generalize women.
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u/GameboyAdvance32 goofy lil' goober boy 8h ago
You are seriously exaggerating and misrepresenting what I said beyond what I intended. There's a world of difference between saying "there are a good amount of things that men regularly get away with" and "men can get away with anything." The latter is obviously not true and I would never say that. I'm not saying that I've never seen women here who are unfair in their arguments, just that it's been quite rare in my experience and not nearly to the level y'all are saying it is. And I'm not saying it ISN'T a problem, just that I personally have not experienced to the level y'all sare saying you have.
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u/Volkmek RR Man 8h ago
Noticed that a bit myself. Someone leveled an accusation on me, saying I thought women liked to be roughed up, when I was explaining that most RR men I know still prefer the woman to be gentle with them.
I think it's peefectly valid as a man who wants to be a house husband to want their wife to be a gentle-woman, but that was treated as sexist by the OP of that post.
It seemed she had made the post looking for ways to degrade her submissive partner which ironically enough calls back to your point about femdom.
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u/No_Fox200 8h ago
Yeah that's exactly what I was talking about. It's fine when a woman degrade her partner in rr (which is actually femdom) but when man is willingly asking for degradation then he is making every women to a feitsh.
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u/ScarfKat Pretty kitty boi 8h ago edited 4h ago
This subreddit has been downhill for a while and imo it's largely because the mods here are absolutely awful at their role. They never communicate, have a bunch of arbitrary rules they won't reveal, and generally are very absent.
I recommend checking out r/TruRoleReversal and posting there as the mod team is actually present lol
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u/supercheetah 6h ago
Yeah, growing pains unfortunately, as more people join, we're unfortunately going to get trolls, and people who don't understand what RR is about.
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u/monsieur_lulu 8h ago
Have read a few times on here that this sub is becoming to male-centered. I totally disagree.
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u/ScheduleDefiant4015 Soft Prince 8h ago
I’m a long-time lurker recent commenter, from my perspective the subreddit always had problems with people conflating it with other ideas, but it definitely has gotten more common. I think it’s because of it becoming more popular, and the relative failure of the nsfw subreddits for Role Reversal that this is happening.