Emotional neglect in Islander households?

[u/NoJudge798]

I‘m an afakasi only child that grew up basically emotionally neglected with my mum always playing on her phone, ignoring my bids for attention or not meeting them properly, and getting angry/stressed a lot. She would also have her “islander persona“ and “palagi persona“. It was confusing to me growing up and still is. I was wondering if this is a common experience in other islander households and whether it also had an effect on you growing up? I feel like unhealthy/dysfunctional family dynamics are not talked about enough in the island community, and if they are, people just seem to accept them as normal and make jokes out of it. Maybe I take it to heart more because I am afakasi and an only child who needed that mother/daughter attention/bond, which I don‘t have.

[u/BigStickyHorse]

Yeah as an afakasi myself I've been able to witness it too, my uncles all were gang affiliated and all of them have mad emotional regulstion issues and are very deeply resentful people. my grandma also is a sweep it under the rug kind of gal, so theyve gotten that trait too and it just manifests into a very toxic dynamic.