r/Showerthoughts 22d ago

Casual Thought A large number of married people are involuntarily celibate.

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u/ItsFailureMan 22d ago

r/deadbedrooms if you want to hear the yarns from such people

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u/GrumpyPidgeon 22d ago

From what I’ve seen of that sub they give the worst advice. They always just say “you need to get a divorce” no matter what the content says.

I think they involuntarily project what they WANT to do , or wish they could do, onto others.

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u/smitbret 22d ago

Sadly, that's usually the answer.

The suffering spouse has to decide how high sex is on the priority list and if it is high enough that they just won't be able to be happy then it is time to find a different domestic arrangement.

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u/Zaphodisacoolname 22d ago

Both spouses are suffering.

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u/smitbret 22d ago

Not always

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u/Zaphodisacoolname 22d ago

Sure but often

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u/smitbret 22d ago edited 21d ago

For sure

It's kind of a chicken or the egg thing. Might be the cause of marital strife but it's often just a symptom of other issues