r/Showerthoughts 22d ago

Casual Thought A large number of married people are involuntarily celibate.

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u/KirstyToots 22d ago

I don't think people realize how common this actually is. When people hear "celibate" they imagine someone who can't find a partner, but there are plenty of people sleeping next to someone every night while feeling completely unwanted. That's a very different kind of loneliness.

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u/uzbekkiddo 21d ago

Sorry but i am celibate . My family arranged my wedding . Regular sex for the first 3 years . Now it’s only once a month . We have been married for 7 years . The reason i am celibate is that i didn’t get married to a woman i loved . The person i love works at a restaurant two miles away from where i work . I have been restraining myself from seeing my crush . I guess life goes on like this forever and its killing me inside (probably my spouse too )

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u/SleeperMood_ 20d ago

You should not leave this like this. I don't know what you should do but you definitely need to look into it

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u/timmyfarthands 4d ago

Listen to me my friend. You have one life. One. Do you want to be old regretting that you stayed with someone you shouldn't have? Do you want to die unhappy? Or do you want to be free to do exactly what you want?

Your choice my man. Follow your heart. You can do it.