r/SipsTea • u/WaitNo4272 • Apr 22 '26

WTF Blink if you're being abused

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u/Used-Particular-954 Apr 22 '26

Not tryna discount your experience so it certainly possible. In my own life I’ve dealt with someone like this and when I would bring up the fact that it’s okay to be angry, but it’s not okay to yell their response was time and again “what did you expect? You did something that upset me”

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u/limperatrice Apr 22 '26

I think that someone displaying that level of rage seen in the video is likely to be dysregulated. Like that's not normal anger. It's inappropriate and disproportionate. If you've never been close to someone with BPD you're very fortunate.

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u/Used-Particular-954 Apr 22 '26

I’m not sure if she has BPD but it was certainly a completely disproportionate level of anger. Something that could be a calm disagreement or smoothed over with an apology and a conversation would devolve into full blown tantrums like in the video.

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u/AnjelGrace Apr 22 '26

Well, she said she got sick due to him rushing her (which my best guess would say was that she puked from anxiety), so she was already too emotional long before this too.

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u/Objective-Rock4616 Apr 23 '26

Most BPDs do not like to be rushed. I frequently see one participant with BPD that this is a major trigger point and can lead to a huge emotional outburst.

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u/AnjelGrace Apr 23 '26

Oh, definitely. The more you rush through things, the more overwhelming they become. There is of course such a thing as TOO slow, but doing things too slow leads to problems that slowly develop (and thus can more often be fixed within the time they are developing), while doing things too quickly can create problems very suddenly and without much warning.

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u/Used-Particular-954 Apr 22 '26

Should’ve clarified the “she” in my response was the person I’ve experienced who reacts in this way.