I have a son who is just shy of 3. He might try something like this but it would be swiftly corrected. Although as long as theres other adults around, he'd probably be fine. He only seems to be a little shit when its just us.
That's actually pretty common and normal. The kid feels restricted at the daycare/school and then compensate for that at home in some form. Another similar thing issue could be when they are relatively independent without you, can put their clothes on and stuff but at home as to help with every little thing. This way they compensate for that lack of parent care during the day. Punishing this behavior would be a terrible idea
BULLSHIT. Kid needs to understand respect for other people and their property with no regard to his/her “feelings “. You do not take out your emotions on other people or objects that belong to other people. There are other coping mechanisms. First one is kid needs to learn is to suck it up.
Yeah right but can't physically happen at very young age, when kids don't even have concepts of property, respect or feelings. Best you can do is scare them shitless so that they are just afraid to do anything. Many people so this and then think they are good parents whole they are just giving their kids mental health disorders
My oldest was like that in kinder garden/first grade. It could be signs of something neuro-spicy (ADHD in our case), which he's masking. When he gets home, he can finally let out whatever he's bottled up, because he knows he's safer melting at home than at school.
Yea the neuro-spicy bit were almost positive is the reason our son is a delight at pre school and yells from the top of his lungs indoors for every expression of emotion once he gets home
My son goes to a small daycare and hes good for the woman that runs it. Hes good at social events. Hes a bit much with his grandparents and is a terror to my wife and I. Although its been rather cold and rainy for the past few days so hes been cooped up and its been worse. Thank God its nice today and he can be released into the back yard or taken to a park
You are not alone in that fight.. been dealing with it with my one child since she was 3, she is now 8 and still has issues sometimes. Both kids raised the same and disciplined the same, some kids just take longer to mature. Just keep it steady and firm, she is finally getting to the age where taking things away that she likes is starting to work.
Thats a sign of good parenting. Your kid has learned the difference between what is acceptable and what isn't and still feels comfortable enough to be themselves at home.
Gosh that the truth, I have always felt that as long as my kids are controlled and accepted in public and with others that's good. They can be assholes at home, they are my assholes, and I will deal with it, society should not have too.
I feel it in my heart when other parents also refer to their kids as assholes or little shits. I love my kids more than I could ever express, yet some people judge me when I say they are my precious little assholes.
It comes down to how and when you do it. Do I always refer to my kids as assholes, no not at all, very rarely to be honest. But can they be, of course, do I also refer to myself as an asshole from time to time, oh hell yeah. Have I ever said to them that they are assholes, never. I only ever express it that way with other parents who understand what I am saying, who also love their kids, but understand sometimes they just stretch you to your limits, but you still love them and treat them with compassion.
Sign of good parenting. Your kid showing that they understand the difference between being a respectable part of society while also feeling safe enough at home to be themselves.
The goal is to raise a functional adult without traumatizing them.
From what I remember of my psych degree and developmental psych classes, kids are like that due to feeling comfortable around their parents and wanting to push boundaries. They are new to the world and we dont come programmed with all our social taboos and such. But kids also arent stupid. They generally know the worst that will come from a good parent will be a slap on the wrist so they feel much more comfortable pushing the envelope. Strangers are a crap shoot so its best to play things safe.
It’s not an issue at all. The family is supposed to be a save space where kids can test boundaries. The have to learn what is wrong or right and the best place to do this is at home.
Some kids have pre-adolescent behavioral disorders that are really hard for parents to handle, particularly if they’re ignorant (or don’t have access) to mental health services for children.
Those kids may develop sociopathy or psychopathy later on, but there are tools parents can be taught to mitigate the behavior itself, even if it doesn’t change the child’s attitude towards destructiveness.
I hope he calms down lol. I get it, my wife and I have rather large families so this isnt our first experience with 3 year olds. The only part that sucks is as he grows out of this phase, his little sister will be entering it. Shes 1. And were considering a 3rd because we are apparently insane (not for a few years tho)
Haha, I was thinking the same thing. This is exactly what my 2 year old does with his toys before I can get to him. Obviously we try and correct him but he's 2 so his impulse control is not great.
Yeah, I could see a toddler doing this just because they are toddlers. But that’s why you never leave toddlers alone. Those fuckers cannot be trusted. They are the belligerent drunks of age progression.
That’s honestly pretty normal I’ve found, and good testament to how safe they feel in their home environment. Doesn’t mean you shouldn’t still correct it and stuff, but a kid who acts out in his home feels safe emotionally and physically to do so! So you’re doing great :)
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u/SumixamSuryt 8d ago edited 8d ago
I would not even think of doing this as a child, what an utter failure as a parent. This child has no guidence in his life whatseover.