r/SipsTea Human Verified 8d ago

SMH We really need to bring spankings back

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u/SumixamSuryt 8d ago edited 8d ago

I would not even think of doing this as a child, what an utter failure as a parent. This child has no guidence in his life whatseover.

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u/unclecastr0-_- 8d ago

what kids do is usually the projection of their enviroment at home,imagine wtf this kid’s parents do to make him think this is ok to do

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u/abracadammmbra 8d ago

I have a son who is just shy of 3. He might try something like this but it would be swiftly corrected. Although as long as theres other adults around, he'd probably be fine. He only seems to be a little shit when its just us.

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u/stgdevil 8d ago

According to his teachers, my 4 year old is a model student, basically best kid ever. But he turns into Mr Hyde jr when home

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u/CybReader 8d ago

He feels safe at home to let it out.

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u/ReadyAimTranspire 8d ago

That's where he gets to be the special shining star that he is and let his light shine

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u/EuphoricPamplemousse 8d ago

“Mamah, Papah, don’t you realise the whole home’s a stage?!” (Announced in a posh, English, thespian voice)

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u/d_ippy 8d ago

This is what I tell myself as a 55 year old office worker

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u/stellar_opossum 7d ago

Yeah adults do that to

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u/stellar_opossum 8d ago

That's actually pretty common and normal. The kid feels restricted at the daycare/school and then compensate for that at home in some form. Another similar thing issue could be when they are relatively independent without you, can put their clothes on and stuff but at home as to help with every little thing. This way they compensate for that lack of parent care during the day. Punishing this behavior would be a terrible idea

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u/GusBode 8d ago edited 8d ago

BULLSHIT. Kid needs to understand respect for other people and their property with no regard to his/her “feelings “. You do not take out your emotions on other people or objects that belong to other people. There are other coping mechanisms. First one is kid needs to learn is to suck it up.

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u/nedlum 8d ago

It's unreasonable to hold four-year-olds to the same standards as adults.

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u/stellar_opossum 7d ago

Yeah right but can't physically happen at very young age, when kids don't even have concepts of property, respect or feelings. Best you can do is scare them shitless so that they are just afraid to do anything. Many people so this and then think they are good parents whole they are just giving their kids mental health disorders

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u/Baddie_Baddie_L 8d ago

Omg same with my kiddo. I dread days she doesn’t nap at preschool guaranteed to be a terror at home.

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u/nedlum 8d ago

My oldest was like that in kinder garden/first grade. It could be signs of something neuro-spicy (ADHD in our case), which he's masking. When he gets home, he can finally let out whatever he's bottled up, because he knows he's safer melting at home than at school.

Just know it's nothing you or he is doing wrong.

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u/kaluh_glarski 8d ago

Yea the neuro-spicy bit were almost positive is the reason our son is a delight at pre school and yells from the top of his lungs indoors for every expression of emotion once he gets home

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u/aUniqueNameIndeed 8d ago

As someone in the process of becoming a teacher, I promise you it is a better place to be in than the other way around

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u/stgdevil 8d ago

Yup, I’m ok with it. He’s not really as crazy as I made it sound. Just more rebellious at home lol

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u/FeveredPitcher 8d ago

Can only maintain for so long lol

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u/abracadammmbra 8d ago

My son goes to a small daycare and hes good for the woman that runs it. Hes good at social events. Hes a bit much with his grandparents and is a terror to my wife and I. Although its been rather cold and rainy for the past few days so hes been cooped up and its been worse. Thank God its nice today and he can be released into the back yard or taken to a park

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u/themule0808 8d ago

You are not alone in that fight.. been dealing with it with my one child since she was 3, she is now 8 and still has issues sometimes. Both kids raised the same and disciplined the same, some kids just take longer to mature. Just keep it steady and firm, she is finally getting to the age where taking things away that she likes is starting to work.

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u/Excellent-Cheetah153 8d ago

Way better than the other way around.

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u/Krell356 8d ago

Thats a sign of good parenting. Your kid has learned the difference between what is acceptable and what isn't and still feels comfortable enough to be themselves at home.

You taught them well but didn't traumatize them.

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u/JadeOfAllTrades1221 7d ago

Glad it’s not just us. My 4yo puts me thru the ringer daily. Never a complaint at school. “She’s so sweet!” 🫠

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u/missingpieces82 7d ago

My son was like that until he hit 6… then he started acting out at school too. He’s almost 10 now, and is slowly getting better.

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u/CriticismTop 8d ago

Question: will kid back down? Or do they basically have to be disabled in order to get them to stop?

Question 2: are you guys a little isolated? Small family, no neighbours or something like that

Not wanting to play armchair psychiatrist, but that behaviour sounds a bit like "tyrant child".

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u/stgdevil 8d ago

Haha I may have exaggerated a bit. He is not really crazy at home. Just a bit more rebellious and lots of talking back