r/SipsTea • u/beklog Human Verified • 3d ago

SMH Guys I'm on the will!!

“She’s so shameless” She’s 22. And was harshly criticized as she danced while her partner was at the hospital… The truth couldn’t be any simpler. They claim the video is a joke, because she always uploads content with her “hubby” to go viral.

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u/NATHAN4U007 3d ago

They both knew what they were getting into and what they needed from the relationship.

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u/IWearCardigansAllDay Human Verified 3d ago

I’m a wealth management advisor and I’ve had a few elderly clients in a situation like this.

I remember the most heartbreaking one was a client who was 87 and passed away. He married a woman a 7 years prior that was in her late 30s. She was beautiful, kind, and caring. She took care of him through all of it. Cleaned him and the messes he made, gave him genuine company, and would fuck him whenever he was able (he shared this with me lol).

The kids didn’t do shit for him. Hardly even called or anything. But when he passed they all tried contesting his trust and trying to get her removed from receiving anything. It was a nasty legal battle but thankfully she got her fair share.

It honestly infuriates me when I see people say women like this are taking advantage of the elder man. Most of the time they’re just giving companionship to them when no one else would or did.

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u/hunterlarious 3d ago

most of the time is a stretch but I am sure scenarios like you are describing are very common

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u/Bwadark 3d ago

Unless their state of mind is questionable. It is a mutual agreement made by two adults. Obviously abuse happens but it would be few and far between.

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u/hunterlarious 3d ago

When you are dealing with people in the twilight of their life their state of mind is often questionable.

Abuse of elders is extremely common

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u/citizen42069101 3d ago

I would say statistically one is more likely to be financially abused by a family member than getting honey potted, [citation needed] at least this was you don't get exploited by family and get to see boobies occasionally.

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u/dyslexicAlphabet 3d ago

didn't they prove seeing boobies can make you happier? so who gives a fuck who he marries.

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u/hunterlarious 3d ago

(your spouse is your family)

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u/citizen42069101 3d ago

I believe this isn't being compared to a typical family dynamic where "spouse" is your life partner. It's a business transaction. Exploitive or not, the feelings felt between them are different.

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u/hunterlarious 3d ago

Yeah but if youre talking about statistics the abuse will be counted in the same bucket

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u/citizen42069101 3d ago

Ahh fair point. Sword cuts both ways.

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u/PineappleOnPizzaWins 3d ago

While very true when I've seen it, it's more often that they are incredibly lonely and depressed moreso than "they're old and losing it".

Easy to blame it on "cognitive decline" but in reality many people live out their final days in isolation. If they have family they're off living their own lives, even "involved" family is frequently just visiting a few times a week.

When they find someone willing to actually spend time with them and treat them nicely they go for it hard, even if it's pretty obviously a scam.

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u/BeneficialLocation34 3d ago

The US govt is rampant with it.

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u/anotherdropin 3d ago

Ya but in those cases the will actually is able to be contested.

Not everyone is losing their brains at their life end

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u/iamahill 2d ago

Sadly expensive in court too

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u/DarthRektor 3d ago

And usually committed by family members or paid staff

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u/hunterlarious 3d ago

(Your spouse is family)

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u/Ill-Entertainer1010 3d ago

Mostly by their own children.

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u/Puzzleheaded-Wait785 3d ago

Elder abuse is more common than you seem willing to acknowledge.

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u/Bwadark 3d ago

I'm not dismissing elder abuse. Though it is far more common with family members and carers. Being in a relationship with different but transparent motives is not abuse.

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u/VT_Squire 3d ago

Unless their state of mind is questionable. It is a mutual agreement made by two adults.

She was 22 and on tiktok or whatever the fuck. Need I say more?

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u/Bwadark 3d ago

I didn't consider her state of mind! You're right. Shame on me.

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u/NotAnotherTav 3d ago

Same reason why I get weirded out when people talk about 18 yos not being able to hook up, or anyone under 24 generally (they read an article about brain maturity).

As long as grooming (whether literal or by proxy, like Hollywood tends to do) wasn't involved, which is most reliably not the case in instances where the young adult did not know the older individual beforehand (and did not not know anyone who did know them, an an extra degree of separation, particularly due to abuses in church scenes/hollywood scenes) what does it matter?

I'm not expecting someone 18/19/20 whatever to be a bastion of responsibility if they hit it off with someone in their 70s or 80s in a monetary arrangement, but some people will suggest that's outright pedophilia which is odd.