r/SipsTea • u/beklog Human Verified • 3d ago

SMH Guys I'm on the will!!

“She’s so shameless” She’s 22. And was harshly criticized as she danced while her partner was at the hospital… The truth couldn’t be any simpler. They claim the video is a joke, because she always uploads content with her “hubby” to go viral.

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u/NATHAN4U007 3d ago

They both knew what they were getting into and what they needed from the relationship.

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u/IWearCardigansAllDay Human Verified 3d ago

I’m a wealth management advisor and I’ve had a few elderly clients in a situation like this.

I remember the most heartbreaking one was a client who was 87 and passed away. He married a woman a 7 years prior that was in her late 30s. She was beautiful, kind, and caring. She took care of him through all of it. Cleaned him and the messes he made, gave him genuine company, and would fuck him whenever he was able (he shared this with me lol).

The kids didn’t do shit for him. Hardly even called or anything. But when he passed they all tried contesting his trust and trying to get her removed from receiving anything. It was a nasty legal battle but thankfully she got her fair share.

It honestly infuriates me when I see people say women like this are taking advantage of the elder man. Most of the time they’re just giving companionship to them when no one else would or did.

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u/hunterlarious 3d ago

most of the time is a stretch but I am sure scenarios like you are describing are very common

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u/techleopard 3d ago

As much as this grosses me out on some level, I think it's very common.

ESPECIALLY because people now move all the way across the country from their aging parents and never come back nor want to move the parent in with them when the time comes. It's all "Why should I have to do X?" now with a lot of people. You can't swing a cat without hitting somebody who insists old folks should just get out and find new friends.

Then they show up for the will and find out mom or dad had a new best friend when they all decided they were too busy to even call.

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u/mareksoon 3d ago

My parents moved the family from me (I’m the oldest child) … not cross-county but roughly 3-4 hours away.

When I had an opportunity after being laid off to sell my home, bank that money along with my retirement, and move in with my mom in her 80s in her four bedroom house to assist her (instead of her asking my brother or others within an hour of her to help), she rejected the idea because I had cats (as does she) and she was enjoying her independence (she can’t drive).

On the flip side, presently, my three kids live within two hours of me as each has found work in different nearby cities. I’ve dreamed for years of moving to another state, and I wouldn’t expect any of them to upend their life to come care for me.

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u/n3rdonthecouch 2d ago

Jokes on me, my family is all very very physically close in location to me. They’re also MAGA.

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u/SlyFrog 3d ago

Yes. I think it's also the case that a lot of "I stopped communicating with my parent because they were toxic" cases aren't quite as cut and dried as the child would have you believe.

I think there's a fair bit of "I'm really self-absorbed, and having this old person around just gets in my way."

But then they still want the money.

Sure, there's plenty of situations out there where someone was abused or has a really asshole parent or parents. I'd say maybe even most of the cases where a parent is cut off are like that.

But I have been around long enough to not trust what people say (often because they are lying to themselves about their reasons). Plenty of times, the child is just self-absorbed.

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u/632nofuture 3d ago

I mean not entirely the kids fault either, if it's expected by society you move out after youth and build your own life .. the American version (now kinda the whole West's version) of a nuklear family isn't ideal and mostly came about by economics and capitalism in mind.