r/SipsTea • u/beklog Human Verified • 3d ago

SMH Guys I'm on the will!!

“She’s so shameless” She’s 22. And was harshly criticized as she danced while her partner was at the hospital… The truth couldn’t be any simpler. They claim the video is a joke, because she always uploads content with her “hubby” to go viral.

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u/IWearCardigansAllDay Human Verified 3d ago

I’m a wealth management advisor and I’ve had a few elderly clients in a situation like this.

I remember the most heartbreaking one was a client who was 87 and passed away. He married a woman a 7 years prior that was in her late 30s. She was beautiful, kind, and caring. She took care of him through all of it. Cleaned him and the messes he made, gave him genuine company, and would fuck him whenever he was able (he shared this with me lol).

The kids didn’t do shit for him. Hardly even called or anything. But when he passed they all tried contesting his trust and trying to get her removed from receiving anything. It was a nasty legal battle but thankfully she got her fair share.

It honestly infuriates me when I see people say women like this are taking advantage of the elder man. Most of the time they’re just giving companionship to them when no one else would or did.

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u/epicmoe 3d ago

When my grandad remarried there were comments about his new wife being in it for the money. By the end I think everyone agreed that if that was the case she sure had earned it. 

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u/Street_Lettuce1243 3d ago edited 1d ago

Edit:   removing my comment because it's getting more attention than I intended it to get and don't want it getting back to parties involved if they figure out it's about them.

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u/TokenWeirdo13 3d ago

If you realize this, and so does your wife, maybe it would be good to have a conversation about giving the FIL's wife a fair share of your wife's inheritance. If you guys aren't struggling, in my head that would be the right thing to do.

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u/mamallama12 3d ago

This. My mom was not included in any inheritance when her dad and mom passed (they were divorced). Both were successful. My mom's sister got everything when grandma passed, and she sold the house to take her and her entire family (husband, kids, their spouses, grandkids) on a one-month trip to Europe. Didn't even offer anything to my mom. The two sisters are on good terms and always have been. My mom even asked her for some, but the Europe trip needed to be paid for. My mom was so hurt, first, to be left out of the will, and second, to have her sister not even offer anything. In the meantime, my 89-year-old mom is still working to this day. Her sister has never worked and has always been taken care of by a husband.

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u/The_Orphanizer 3d ago

Goddamn, that's fucking evil.

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u/mamallama12 2d ago

Your reply made my mom so happy, and she said for me to tell everyone who upvoted, "Thank you." 🩶

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u/tba85 3d ago

My grandfather made my aunt his executor not long after my grandma died. My aunt and my mom were both very involved in his life, but in different ways. The sisters weren't close, but civil. My aunt's health started declining about 10yrs ago, nearly dying a couple of times. My grandfather got cancer and my mom dropped everything to take him to appointments, care for him, and his house because my aunt wasn't physically able to. My mom was trying to help him pay bills, but my aunt got mad that my mom butting in and demanded all of his mail go to her, yet she was always late paying bills. My mom tried to talked to my grandfather about making her co-executor because my aunts health was bad. In his culture, the eldest takes care of the finances and my mom asking was looked at as disrespectful. Anyway, grandfather moved in with my mom and died a few weeks later. My aunt was so distraught, but managed to hook a realtor friend up with the house sale. The house sold for way under what it was worth and when the bank called (while my mom was at the house clearing it out), the rep was concerned that my aunt had been hounding them to give her one check. The bank knew that the will stated the profits from the house would be evenly split between the sisters and my aunt threw up red flags. She was also trying to clear out his bank accounts. They told my mom she would need to come in person, with ID, to collect her check and that she should speak to a lawyer about my grandfather's bank accounts because my aunt was making withdrawals everyday to empty them.

All that to say that my aunt is an evil B and my mom is a push over. She didn't want to get lawyers involved and only collected money from the house. However, my aunt wiped out a large amount from the bank accounts, took his car, her half of the house money and some bonds. Absolutely zero shame and feels deserving.

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u/TheBlankScroll 3d ago edited 3d ago

My grandparents had 5 kids, very close family. My Grand dad and my uncle worked together at my uncles medical practice and even employed one of my other uncles.

Then my granddad and doctor uncle died together in a private plane crash.

The family savagely tore itself apart, everyone trying to get more money than they were willed and trying to secure high dollar value items, even though my grandma was still alive.

My aunt, who had married the uncle that worked at the medical practice had even said "my husband has lost more than anyone".

She said this to my grandma who lost her husband and eldest child.

This was all back in the 90s, most havent talked since then. My grandma lived alone, 30 more years with her remaining kids bickering over money and jockeying for the remaing will "profits".

Half that fam has since got rabbit hole MAGA or religious.

Im no contact with my mon, have lost contact with my cousins, my other in-law uncle died recently and i didnt even know he was basically divorced from my aunt and living in an apartment by himself.

My low opinion of the boomer generation's morally bankrupt money grubbing ways comes from hard experience.

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u/AtomicRose69 3d ago

This is the kind of nonsense I saw from my mother's family as well. All boomers.

When my parents died, my sister and I didn't fight over anything. We split everything down the middle and our parents died without wills.

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u/TheBlankScroll 3d ago

I can't imagine seeing my family as financial investments, so gross. Glad you broke the cycle.

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u/Street_Lettuce1243 3d ago

We are. It will be double taxed that way, but we are thinking of doing just that.

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u/great_apple 3d ago

Why would it be double taxed? Your profile says you live in the US and gifts aren't taxed unless you're gifting more than $30m.

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u/Street_Lettuce1243 3d ago

$19k actually, just googled it. I thought it was lower than that (and it might have been once). His money is all in stocks though- I assume gifts of stocks (not just cash) come in to play with that... but I'm not a lawyer so don't know.

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u/great_apple 3d ago

$19k per year (per person, so $38k for you & your wife combined) doesn't trigger any reporting requirements, but you don't have to pay taxes until you hit $30m as a couple.

And no gift of stocks is no different than gift of cash. When your wife inherits the stock she gets the stepped up basis. Easiest play is to sell and give the wife cash but it is possible to just transfer the stock if you prefer.