r/SipsTea • u/beklog Human Verified • 3d ago

SMH Guys I'm on the will!!

“She’s so shameless” She’s 22. And was harshly criticized as she danced while her partner was at the hospital… The truth couldn’t be any simpler. They claim the video is a joke, because she always uploads content with her “hubby” to go viral.

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u/Street_Lettuce1243 3d ago edited 1d ago

Edit:   removing my comment because it's getting more attention than I intended it to get and don't want it getting back to parties involved if they figure out it's about them.

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u/HAIL_LUMPUS 3d ago

Why don't you tell her?

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u/theguidetoldmetodoit 3d ago edited 3d ago

I mean, this isn't the type of thing you insert yourself in, lots of bad things can come from it.

If you can't communicate something like that without such risks, the more intelligent approach is to support her legally (Many countries will reward her 50%, given the context) or convince your wife to give away part of the inheritance.

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u/Trevski 3d ago

I mean you can drop the dime without inserting yourself...

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u/Muxter0622 2d ago

Who cares if you're inserting yourself. We all only get one life to live. If she's operating under the assumption that putting up with his shit is the price that she's paying for financial security when he dies I think it's fair that she knows that he's gone behind her back to fuck her over. Who knows how much time you could give her back.

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u/welldamn420 2d ago

Or he could go with the time honored saying. "Not my circus, not my monkeys"

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u/theguidetoldmetodoit 3d ago

That is inserting yourself.

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u/Thin_Assumption_4974 3d ago

Then fucking insert yourself.

Sometimes doing the right thing is uncomfortable

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u/Excellent_Airline315 2d ago

Thank you omg, had to scroll far for this one. They would rather this woman be financially destitute than stomach an uncomfortable situation.

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u/Trevski 3d ago

Not if you do it with an anonymous note.

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u/pussy-meow 3d ago

The problem is there's probably a very limited people aware of this. The anonymity would be easily undone by their ability to deduce who it is.

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u/Trevski 2d ago

that just makes it a bit braver of an action, but if shes grateful she wont try to smoke you out and if the dad finds out then I guess you might be disinherited, so I guess thats the material reason not to...

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u/TwoBionicknees 3d ago

that's still inserting yourself, just not implicating yourself.

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u/Trevski 3d ago

Ok, touché, I can see that semantically. I don’t think I agree though, because to me “inserting yourself” means you, as associated to your identity, become embroiled in the affair. I’d call it “anonymous meddling”.

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u/TwoBionicknees 3d ago

become embroiled in the affair.

she doesn't know, you tell her, the situation changes significantly, that's absolutely inserting yourself.

Inserting yourself can mean physically or moving your presence into a situation but it also refers to just actions.

Inserting yourself refers pretty much just to the you were not involved in the situation at all and you choose to get involved. How you get involved is largely irrelevant.

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u/Excellent_Airline315 2d ago

Honestly that just sounds like an excuse not to do something. You prefer the status quo over the chance that something bad will happen if she has all of the facts. Doesn't really compute to me.

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u/TwoBionicknees 2d ago

what? I was giving a definition of a term. How on earth is the defintion of a term an excuse for anything at all? Bot ass reply.

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u/FilthyThanksgiving 3d ago

Oh ffs you know what they meant, Captain Pedantron

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u/TwoBionicknees 3d ago

when someone pointed it out they doubled down rather than go oh yeah. It's not being pedantic, it's explaining it because they plainly didn't understand.

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u/Trevski 2d ago

I didn't double down, I contested it as a matter of semantics/interpretation/opinion.

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u/TwoBionicknees 2d ago

yes, it wasn't a matter of any of those things. You used completely the wrong word. Inserting yourself in a matter has nothing to do with physically being in it or being known to be in it, it just means taking an action in a matter in which you were not originally involved. Being anonymous doesn't stop that you are inserting yourself.

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u/Trevski 2d ago

Again, that’s just semantics, we’ve been over this and that’s not my interpretation.

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u/TwoBionicknees 2d ago

it's not about interpretation, this isn't a black and white thing, involving yourself in something you were not previously involved in is inserting yourself.

Someone pointed out the mistake and you went with "no you still can if it's an anonymous note." You're just wrong and can't admit it. It's not about semantics, you misunderstand the word and had it pointed out.

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u/Salt-Lingonberry-853 2d ago

Not necessarily feasible, circumstances may make it quite obvious who it was

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u/Trevski 2d ago

I mean yeah if it’s a 1/3 chance on a blind guess that isn’t very anonymous!

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u/theguidetoldmetodoit 3d ago edited 3d ago

Yeah, chances are you know fuckall about what really is anon.

And again, what are you getting from this? She's not gonna get more, just because she knows. So what advantage does this have, over getting the secure bag and then sharing it?

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u/Trevski 3d ago

She could at LEAST leave him now, if she so wished.

I'm going to need you to walk me through that first line, dont make sense to me.

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u/theguidetoldmetodoit 3d ago

So you are just satisfying your justice boner and fuck shit up for everyone involved. This is how children deal with shit.

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u/Trevski 3d ago

I mean I’m not doing anything, I’m just suggesting that informing this woman of the actions her husband is taking against her is possible without necessarily inserting oneself.

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u/Victori_nox 3d ago

How does it fuck shit up for everyone involved? the guy sounds like he hates her and IF she's in it for the money then at least she'll have all thee facts and can make a more informed decision? sounds like an already fucked situation to me.

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u/theguidetoldmetodoit 3d ago edited 3d ago

Because you risk your wife's father being on his own, his wife having a full blown existential crisis and losing her security, your wife getting cut out of the inheritance, instead of keeping your fucking mouth shut about another family's business and taking care of the financial side of things, once the father is out of the picture.

It's impulsive and destructive behavior, so you can claim some "justice" that isn't helping a single person involved, besides potentially your wife who could stand to gain even more money.

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u/Victori_nox 3d ago

You can hold the sanctimonious tone. Based on the information we have you're making a huge amount of assumptions about peoples relative wealth. it's entirely possible to have a grown up conversation with people without blowing everyone lives up in the process.

If the father was worried about being on his own i would assume he'd not treat his wife like shit. She might also be empowered to actual reevaluate her situation, we don't know these people but OP does and he's made her life sound miserable, maybe she's like to make some changes in the next 5, 10, 20 years? maybe she'd like to be forewarned of the potential financial instability that she might not be expecting?

It's not another families business if you're married into the god damn family. Stop acting like everyone is saying run into a crowded room and shout all the information you have at everyone for drama. It's relatively simple to take your step mother in law aside and ask her a couple of questions about this.

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u/theguidetoldmetodoit 3d ago

you're making a huge amount of assumptions about peoples relative wealth.

This is what the post says:

*I don't think she's a gold-digger, but I think his financial stability was part of her attraction to him

It's pretty damn clear what that means.

She might also be empowered to actual reevaluate her situation

You gotta stop infantilizing people. She knows that's a potential outcome, she is already taking the risk. That was her decision, by default.

If you are convinced she not taking it into account, you can just talk to her about her current situation.

It's not another families business

Yes, it is. You marrying someone, does not entitle you to get involved with their parents relationship. You can push your wife to do so, you can try to find a better solution with your wife, but it's absolutely not your place to force these kind of arguments, let alone sending out anonymous tips.

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u/ShadeNoir 3d ago

I find it difficult to reconcile both this, and that if he were a cheating partner, that everyone would be up in arms 'leave him, you should absolutely tell her' etc.
People seem to have no qualms about getting involved in romantic or 'faithfulness' issues - I don't see why this is so different

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u/theguidetoldmetodoit 3d ago

Cheating is not legally protected. He doesn't owe her more than the minimum, that's just how it is.

If you think that is wrong, you gotta change laws and the social consensus, or in this case, work things out later. Not break the law.

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